My husband and I have been arguing a lot lately. I'm about to go pick him up from work and he has been working very hard today (and everyday) outside in 100 degree weather. What creative things can I do to really say "I love you," and let's stop arguing so much?
2007-08-09 08:35:07 · 47 answers · asked by allie s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
bring him a beer, a sandwich and a condom... when u pick him up don't say anything just give them to him. when he ask, tell drink the beer eat the sandwich, save the condom for when we get home.. very important part after sex get up out the bed, do not try to cuddle, turn on the TV to a ESPN n leave him alone in the bed... i guarantee no argument for 3 days...
2007-08-09 08:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by antoinio i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is a machinist and works in a shop that is about 110 degrees. He hates his job but until he finishes his degree it's paying the mortgage. I bought him a cooler and make sure that he has plenty of bottled water to drink. He was complaining about his hands being rough and cracking so I bought him nivea cream and make sure that he has lots of band aids and antibiotic ointment. Metal fabrication is a drag. Anyway when he comes home from work I make sure he has either a cold beer or a fresh pitcher of iced tead waiting depending on his mood. When Saturday comes he hits the greens @ the golf course with no complaints from me. I just constantly tell him how much I love and appreciate the sacrafices he is making for our family. Anyway, I think that's about all you need to do. Make sure he knows you appreciate him and ask him if there is anything you can do make his work day more tolerable.
2007-08-09 08:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by fire_side_2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, "arguing" takes two. So, one step is to be the one to "not argue".
Try to go a step up and "hear" what he is really trying to say. Repeat back to him what he is saying if it hurts you, rather than argue your point back.
Understand, that if he's working that hard in that heat, that is about 70-85% of the problem, most liklely.
He needs a safe-haven, and it should be with you. Saying "I love you" comes in action for men, much more than women, in general.
Treat him like the hard working husband hi is. Massages, helping to relax, meeting his needs as your most special prince in your life, because he is (or should be).
Let him argue (by himself!) and try to read past words into his "unloading". It won't be long before he quits arguing with himself and feels relaxed enough to start meeting your needs. But after hard work like that, he absolutley needs some kind of "down time" and to be met with love and care. Once he gains energy after work like that, he will automatically recipricate that back to you.
Hope that helps.
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2007-08-09 08:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go in something sexy but casual, like a tank and shorts. Have his favorite cold drink (besides beer) waiting for him in the car when you pick him up. Make sure the car AC is cold. Kiss him deeply and ask him how his day was. Tell him you are sorry that you all have been arguing lately and you'd like to call a truce. Ask him if there is something special you can do for him tonight.
2007-08-09 08:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by tushanna_m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what idid when i was there.....i hold both his hands as we were standing on the side of my body looked straight in his eyes n i said...." my heart (that s how we would call eachother in my language sounds better lol), i love you so much ...and i don t like the way we are lately. It s not me and it s not you....it s not us!!! i want to try and hold back every time smthn bothers me or makes me angry....i want to ask you to give me 10-15 minutes when i am like that so that i cool off and then we will talk about it.I also want to apologise if i made you feel bad or hurt you with my words n behavior lately that we had those fights.... you are my love and i really want us to try and make it better!!! " Well....hope i helped and don t forget a short face to face conversation is always workin with men! too much blah-blah will make him stop listenin n at the end he will say " ok" if you start the "my fault-your fault" thing you ll fight again, so.....plain simple on the point and honest!!!! you could also tell him that you really appreciate his strength and thank him for workin under those conditions ( instead of bein a p@@@@y) men like compliments and appreciation as much as we do!! but then again it s yr life yr call......good luck wish you that evrthn goes perfect 4 u guys!!!!
2007-08-09 08:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have something cool for him to drink on the way home. Make sure the air conditioning is working in your car and house. Make something simple for dinner and say exactly what you said here. I love you. Point is-you dont want to go on arguing and I'll bet he doesnt either. Take a cool bath together-run ice cubes down his back-whatever it takes. He'll get the message.
2007-08-09 08:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by phlada64 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring him his favorite cold drink. Hand it to him when he gets in the car, lean over and kiss him, no matter how sweaty, dirty and hot he is. Hug his neck and don't say a word. When you get home, let him take his shower and then when he gets out tell him you want 20 seconds with him with no other distractions. Hold him, make him feel like you have no other needs, wants or cares in the world. 20 seconds is all it takes to make the rest of your day with him wonderful.
2007-08-09 08:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have the same issue. My fiance works in 105 degree weather here in phoenix, and unfortunatly its really hard to have a good attitude in this weather. Just make sure you are really nice to him, and maybe even pick him up something ice cold to drink and he will appreciate it. Tell him you love him, and you dont want to argue anymore. But by bringing him this ice cold drink he will appreciate it. I have done this myself and my fiance loved it, and we had a good nite. good luck.stay cool.
2007-08-09 08:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by PrinCipeSSa ItaLiAnA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him a cool drink and have the car's air turned to max so he knows your thinking of the environment he work's in. Make sure the house is cool when he enters, unless he likes it hot! Then maybe a hot sauna or jacuzzi treatment would be a better idea, it depends what he complains about when you pick him up.
2007-08-09 08:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by transportthirtyseven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you do this to yourself?
your arguments are all about his constant cheating isn't it?
so what exactly do you mean by "let's stop arguing so much"?
does it mean you are going to just stop asking and snooping around to find out who his next fling is going to be? does it mean you are going to let him walk all over you and you will not say a word about it no matter how much turmoil is going on in your heart?
I really feel sorry for you that you think that love is all you need. What about respect and fidelity?
if you are always hurting, then it is not love. You have let yourself go blind.
2007-08-09 14:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋