Men..this one is for you?

Question

Why is oral sex so important in a relationship?

Why do men sometimes prefer getting "head" to intercourse?? And what makes a woman "good" in
ur opinion??

Answer 1

It is several things. For one, the psychcological aspect of it is total acceptance of the guy, where no aspect of him grosses you out; even his B.O. smells good to you. This is why it detracts alot from the experience of fellatio to have the woman cough & spit the load out (instead of swallowing)--right at the peak moment of pleasure for him, as if he is getting "rejected". [Something all men fear, especially as they are usually the aggressor in a relationship, especially at first.]

But the main thing is purely physical & mechanical: during intercourse, once again, the man is usually the one leading, and providing the physical work of thrusting, all the while having his mind race with other thoughts: "Should I change the pace? Am I getting too close to the brink too soon? Should I touch her here? Was that a moan of pleasure or pain just now? Should I change positions?" etc., etc., etc.. So it is not only physically exhausting, but mentally taxing, and harder to focus on, and enjoy his own sensual pleasures.

However, while being fellated, the man is totally relaxed, at ease, mind clear of distracting thoughts, and he is putting the woman in charge of his pleasure, while it is his turn to lay back and selfishly enjoy it, being able to take note of each nuance of pleasure. Besides this, the combination of a mouth, tongue, two hands can provide for much more detailed, varied and thorough pleasuring than the vagina can...especially if she is good at what she is doing. (A woman gets this way from paying attention to the feedback from her guy, and realizing that no two men & their equipment are exactly alike, so they all have their specific preferances.)

For many men, the ultimate is actually "69", in that, not only does one have all the advantages listed above, but at the same time, he is in intimate contact with the essence of the physical aspects of her womanhood; enjoying the sights, smells, touch and close-up sounds of something he finds very erotic; all the while getting intense pleasuring himself. This is especially significant when one realizes how visually oriented men are, when it somes to lust, sex and lovemaking. (Who is the one who usually asks if we can leave the lights on? Not the woman, who may be self-conscious of her body!)

In summary, it is important to men in a relationship because if he has ever had quality oral sex (on the passive end), he would be taken aback if the [otherwise] woman of his dreams informed him that fellatio is something she would never do, and he realizes that to fully commit to her is to never recieve that kind of pleasure ever again in his life. A lot to ask of a guy who has been there and back. At the same time, a normal guy would not want this type of sex exclusively; there is always a time when the deeper intimacy of intercourse is the only thing that will fit the bill. If this is NOT the case in a given relationship, and he only wants head, he probably does not love you, but is just using you for a sexual release. But it is nice for a occasional treat for the guy. And it is very understandable why many women would prefer not to use fellatio for anything other than foreplay: you go to all that work to get this thing so big, so hard, so ready, so erotically attractive to you, and the damn thing ends up blowing up in your face and going away! That's not fair!

It is just a very giving thing to do for a man that you love, or even to get him off your back quickly, if for whatever reason you are not in the mood for the full love-making session, but care enough about him to relieve his urge. He should be willing to do the same for you, even if not in a sexual way, but be there for you in some small way when you need him, even if he does not feel like it at the moment. If he loves you, he will do this without complaint.

I hope this helps, I know it is alot to read, but is an area of my expertise. The last part of your question was not clear as to if you meant what makes a woman a good woman overall, or what makes her good at fellatio. If it is the latter, the answer lies the end of the third paragraph.

Answer 2

it is important because is great, to receive is just a wonderful thing so if we don't get it we know what we are missing and that could be a problem. On the other hand it is really important to give oral sex to her too, In my opinion even more important, I always go down on her first and make sure she reaches at least one orgasm and then if she wants she can go down on me or we can got straight to intercourse, I know that I will get it at some point, but first I give it to her.


Why do men sometimes prefer getting "head" to intercourse?? well, we feel more because you girls use your mouth and tongue and apply different pattern and pressure , you play with it and the feeling is great, it feels wonderful and the fact that you are doing it it's very sexy in itself, even more if you seem to enjoy it.


And what makes a woman "good" in
ur opinion?? : if she shows that she likes to do it, that she really really likes it and that it turns her on. Also the way you do it, how well you use your mouth and tongue, for example being careful not to "hurt" the penis with your teeth and things like that and also when you make us reach the orgasm orally.

Answer 3

while oral is nice if the woman can do it without gagging, it's only a small part of the whole thing.

A woman that is willing to participate and initiate feastivities and more then once ever 3rd month is a good woman indeed. Most guys could do it nightly once married often I hear the horror stories of getting shut off. I've been there too.

Women, need to be willing participants in sexual activities. Don't make men beg for it. It's humilitating and it diminishes the relationship.

Answer 4

we are not always in the mood for sex, but have an urge that needs to be taken care of. also, you have to remember that 1/4 of the relationship is spent during that time of the month. so, head is especially important then. as for what makes a woman good, well it's more about how she works her hands than what actually happens in the mouth.

Answer 5

Lots of reasons - women have to be very active when giving head, it is very intimate, it takes initiative and willingness on the woman's part, and it feels terrific.

Good? The only way to be "bad" is to complain, be unwilling, be unenthusiastic, or bite down. The rest is all in the "terrific" category.

Answer 6

It just feels so damn good.You know that a woman gives good head when you have to pull the bedsheets outta your @ss. I think some of it may be the subconcious thought of being able to know that she loves you enough to make certain sacrifices for ya.

Answer 7

intercourse is good. that is an interesting question. i personally enjoy oral over intercourse. but i enjoy giving it, not getting it.

Answer 8

head is good , gets the dick nice and hard . if you swallow better, but i prefer both getting head and intercourse . nothing feels better than pounding the hell out of a pussy and then shooting your load inside. that is like a midnight snack before you fall asleep. getting head is like a appetizer before the main course you like the feeling of having balls slapping on your P**** don't you

Answer 9

Receiving oral sex doesn't appeal to me that much. It puts the woman in a submissive position and is not very romantic.

I know it is supposed to be every guy's favorite but I just don't get it.

Maybe I just explained why guys DO like it so much!

Answer 10

I only like oral if the woman knows what she is doing. MOST DON'T!