Is it more import ant for each person in a marriage to be happy, or is it more important for each person to be committed?
Both are important, but which is more important?
2007-08-09 08:29:15 · 41 answers · asked by Nappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
happiness hands down
2007-08-09 08:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by antoinio i 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, Well, After looking at some of these answers. I can see that this is a heated topic. Just to let some of the people that answered this question know. This question was brought up because my ex mother in law told me that Commitment was more important than happiness in a marriage. (I was filing for divorce at that time). I disagreed and since then it has been a question that has hovered over my head. Which one is more important? I choose happiness. Maybe I am a selfish bastard.
However, since I have been here in Iraq I have learned life is short and commitments don't last very long. So, all those who said commitment (Good Luck) and I wish you the best.
Everyone else: (Cheers!)
2007-08-09 17:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No question, commitment is most important. No matter what you do, there are always going to be times of trouble in a marriage. Whether it be financial trouble, facing the death of a loved one, problems adjusting to being an 'us' instead of an 'I', learning how to parent, whatever. If you think that a marriage is going to be happy all the time, you are only kidding yourself. You have to have the commitment to persevere through the hard times.
If you base marriage on happiness, then the moment you hit a rough spot you will bail on the marriage because you are no longer happy. If you base marriage on commitment then when you hit a rough spot, you stick with it and work it out. Basing a marriage only on whether or not each person is happy all the time is why we have such a high divorce rate. "If it doesn't work out, we can always get a divorce" is the mentality these days instead of "I'm committed to you and this marriage for better OR worse".
2007-08-09 08:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by nspir8ion 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Happiness=commitment
2007-08-09 08:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Shrimpboat 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You cannot be happy if there's no commitment in a marriage. Both are important because it means you are there for each other no matter what. This is the the strength in the relationship which holds everything together.
2007-08-09 08:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by mrgoodbar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment. No one is always happy in a marriage. If anyone says they have always been happy in their marriage, they are a true miracle couple, or they're lying. It's the commitment that truly holds a marriage together to experience better days and pull out of the low times.
2007-08-09 08:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All's I can say is this happiness is a state of mind. As long as you have a strong commitment you can make it through the not so happy times. If you have no commitment than what's to say your marriage will last even when you are happy. Because than whose to say your spouse is as happy as you are. Commitment is what gets you through the tough times.
2007-08-09 08:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by fire_side_2003 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Commitment! A long lasting marriage isn't always happy.....but if you stick it out by being committed to each other you will find happiness.
2007-08-09 09:22:53 · answer #8 · answered by Exey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happiness
2007-08-09 08:33:49 · answer #9 · answered by PETEPUMA 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
committed i would say means more to a marriage. Happiness can always be improved by different ways (sex, talking ect..) but committment is very important. Marriage is a committment itself. You are both committing to eachother by even getting marrried. I wouldnt be in my relationship now if there was no committment to it.
2007-08-09 08:34:33 · answer #10 · answered by PrinCipeSSa ItaLiAnA 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Commitment.
2007-08-09 08:34:18 · answer #11 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋