We have been together for ten years and I have always said that I don't want children. He used to want them but I think I changed his mind. Now I realised that I want it so bad. What can I do. I have told him my feelings and he said that he would like to one day but not yet, but I feel the clock is ticking.
2007-08-09 08:20:55 · 16 answers · asked by thairad 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
oopps...hey hunnie I'm pregnant? lol
i would just ask him tell him its something very important to you but in the end you cant make him don't make him make a decision in like an hour or something give it a month or so it can be very scary for him also
good luck...hope to being a post saying you are pregnant soon!
2007-08-09 08:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's unfortunate that your marriage was built on the idea of not having kids. You might as well start trying if you are past 30 because you don't even know if you can have kids. Maybe tell him you want to see if you guys can even have kids and go to a doctor to test it out. Then if that doesn't work out then you could adopt from Russia or such. (Known people do it with great success and joy.)
But help him understand that chances are slim for you to get pregnant right away. It's now or never. But trying to avoid the idea of convincing him to have kids and then not being able to get pregnant right away. No one is ever ready to have kids, they are a pain in the you-know-what. But it's an accomplishment that makes your life.
2007-08-09 08:26:58 · answer #2 · answered by deleteme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you've decided you want kids, talk to him more. People change over time. Sometimes they stay together and sometimes, when the goal is otherwise unattainable, they don't. If you truly want children, and he doesn't, consider moving on and finding someone who shares the same goal.
My sister was married for 7 years. She didn't want to have kids because she is bipolar and was concerned about passing it on and married a guy who didn't want kids. She wanted to adopt an older child, but he was adamantly opposed. They divorced over this and other reasons. She is now remarried and although does not have children, she is Grandma to 11.
2007-08-09 09:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What reasons does he have for waiting?
I think you should take the rest of your waiting period, however long it is, and get ready for parenting. Take care of your health, give up any bad habits, get out of debt, etc. What does he need to have in place and how can the two of you make that happen? Then it will be easier for both of you to go ahead with it.
2007-08-09 08:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation, being together for seven years. You can only expess to him how badly you desire a baby and just hope that your desire will rub off on him. You can't force him to change his mind you just have to wait. Depending on your age depends on how much you should express your desire. I hate to say it but I had to wait four years for my husband to come around and personally I think he just got tired of hearing my talk about it so he agreed.
2007-08-09 08:26:20 · answer #5 · answered by Linz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very tricky situation...Get a piece of paper and ask him to write down the reasons he wants to wait on the cons side, and you write your reasons for not waiting on the pros side and start a discussion from there. He may have some valid reasons to wait, but then again, maybe he'll come around and see it your way...Best of luck!
2007-08-09 08:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if any of your friends have babies bring them over! I subscribed to pregnancy magazines and leave them around the house. Last night I was looking at one of my husbands HUNTING magazines and it had stuff for babies in there and he got all excited about it! Don't tell him when your ovulating! Just be more sexual!
2007-08-09 08:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.
Tell him the clock is ticking.
and that it needs to happen before you grow old.
2007-08-09 08:25:23 · answer #8 · answered by evil emmy :] 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nag nag nag him! Get him something to read about the risks of pregnancy when you are an older Mother...google it and then hassle hassle hassle....I did and it worked!
2007-08-09 08:24:34 · answer #9 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WEll, just sit him down, and let him know how much it means to you! That worked for me!
2007-08-09 08:26:55 · answer #10 · answered by kelynn1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋