married men?

Question

How many of you have had an attraction to another woman and not acted on it? I trust my husband. I know though, just from things he says, that he has had an attraction to a woman he works with. From time to time they (with a group) have had to go on business trips together. I have always just trusted that he wouldn't do anything though. Am I being niave?

Answer 1

Everyone is talking about your being nieve or not, but I think where you should go is communication. This way you get your feelings out in the open, but be prepared when you do this for whatever may come. Talk your feelings over with him, and see how he feels about that. Trust is a strange thing. there is no little trust or inbetween with trust, you either do or you dont. Maybe Im a little harsh, but if you have any doubt, the you dont trust him to make the right decisions. From a mans standpoint, making that right decision is tough when you have a hot to trot little woman wanting you.

Another part to think about is why a husband cheats on his wife in the first place. and this will help you understand if he is able to sustain from grabing up this chick and taking her to bed... By the way some People would say that if you have the hots for another woman and your married he has already cheated. Where is the line between calling it cheating, and oh its ok? I love my wife dearly, I love having here around, I love going palces with her and so on and on, But I still have the thought of how much fun it would be to have another woman want me. Im almost 38, not in the worst of shape, but even men get self concious. So when a woman notices you, its an ego builder, even though my wife wants me all the time, over time getting it from her jsut isnt the same as from someone else. For a short time we were in an open type relationship trial thing (sorry best way to explain that) We were always together when we went out with other couples. To me it was awesome, I felt free, I could talk to my wife again, and not be afraid of what Im telling her. I was able to be open with her about how I felt. She took it as She wasnt good enough so I needed to go out and find somthing else to satisfy. That was so far from right. I never ever want to lose what I have with my wife. She is awesome. We no longer have this lifestyle, I still love my wife but I have resorted back to being afraid to talk to her about my true feeling for fear of losing her for good. Anyway, I guess what Im gettng at is, communication between us was best when I could be open about how I felt. Let him be open to how he feels also about this woman, and try not to take offense to it, try to be understanding of a mans point of view, its not easy any way you slice it... good luck I know I rambled but I hope it helps...

Answer 2

EVERY heterosexual man it attracted at least once every time he leaves the house to SOME woman out there. Why, in summer when I go to the mall, and there's a lot of really small t-shirts, and short shorts, and teeny mini skirts I fall in love at least once every 10 minutes.

Act on it? Not really, I wouldn't. As a matter of fact I am paranoid, if I am in a bar quietly enjoying a beer and a gorgeous woman approaches me I am immediately suspicious, she either wants money, she's nuts, on drugs, drunk or both or has a disease.

Answer 3

No, you are being paranoid, with a woman like you, why would your man what to be with any other.

Just keep loving, and trusting, after all he chose you, and you chose him, and he married you.

If there is something bothering you, let him know directly and talk with him about it face to face, non confrontational, and he will love and respect you for it, and it will make your marriage stronger.

The people here can not possibly know what is going on in your particular relationship, but I can offer you this simple truth.

Once you start doubting, distrusting, and questioning those whom you love, then the beginning of the end of your wonderful relationship is at hand.

Answer 4

I wouldn't assume they are acting on their impulses. And be aware that being seen as paranoid or nagging could in the end drive a man away! Though if you love each other that should never happen. But I would warn him strongly of drinking a lot with her. If it seems obvious that somethings going on and you're definitely not just being paranoid, then yes: take it further. Also- does he have a history of messing around? That's my advice anyway.

Answer 5

I don't think you're being naive. It sounds to me like you're pretty aware. Until you have a reason not to trust, the only thing you can do is trust. I travel for business quite extensively. I'm human I notice attractive women, but I've never acted on it. Chances are neither has he.

Answer 6

My husband and a group of coworkers have went out to a bar after work. I never knew he was attracted to a female co-worker. One night things went to far and he cheated on me with her. Up to that point I always did just trust him. But, not anymore. Keep your eyes open. Good Luck hope things work out for you.

Answer 7

I tried it for about 5 years ( being faithful), but a ungrateful husband didn't appreciate nothing - so I ended up hooking up with this guy (5 years strong now) and everything is good between us. Some men just don't realize that they have a good thing until it's too late.

Answer 8

Every single day. There is not a day goes by that I am not attracted to another woman (I'm married not dead). I don't act on it because of my respect for my wife, marriage, and the other ladies involved.

Also, they keep turning me down. LOL

Answer 9

If you love your wife, or husband, you will not cheat. That said, it's completely natural human behavior to be attracted to someone other than your spouse. I mean, get real. Physical beauty is physical beauty. You don't stop enjoying the sites just because you're married. You simply don't do anything about it. (physically that is.....flirting is ok)

Answer 10

well i have had crushes or attractions to women like at work just as your husband but i never mention it to my wife. So i would say you are probably safe to be able to trust him. But i am curious why you even asked so do you really trust him?