you and a long time friend plan a trip two months in advance, this friend and your cousin had this drama that happened like 4-5 years ago, and they don't talk. Your friend (who you planed the trip with) doesn't care about the drama anymore he let it go a long time ago. Now 10 days b-4 the trip your cousin comes up to you and tells you that he wants to go with you, and to cancel on your friend (because your cousin does not want to go if your friend is going to be there). keep in mind that you and your friend made plans first and you both have the days off and are ready to go. what would you do?
2007-08-09 07:34:52 · 21 answers · asked by Ms. Jo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Take your friend. Your cuzin is being a jerk and slef centered. Let him know that. Don't let he/she rewin your time because of their aditude. Odds are that they will go anyway even if you say that your friend is going. And if he/she doesn't then its just for the bettr. But don't back out on your friend, especially if you've been planing it for this long. If you just say that then can't go then your friend will feel like you chose your cousin over him/her. And it was 4 or 5 years ago so if your cousin hasn't gotten over it then he/she needs to get a life. Seriously I think he/she just wants attention and for things to be all about him/her and for you not to be friends with this person anymore. And do you really want to be around a person like that. BUt especially if you've known your friends this long you do not want them to feel replaced or left out which could cause a huge fight with the two of you, and your cousin could be the cause of you two not being frinends anymore. Bottom line is take your friend. Your family has no choice they will always be there. But your friends can leave anytime. Is it really worth it?
2007-08-09 08:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your cousin that you are going with your friend, and that he is welcome if he can make nice with your friend. You might also want to tell your cousin that you are not choosing a friend over a family member, but that you are doing the right thing, and that he should pay attention and stop being an ******. If he chooses to come on the trip, make it clear to your cousin that any kind of drama will not be tolerated.
Your cousin is obviously trying to pull rank on your friend, and that is not good at all, cousin or not.
If your cousin doesn't want to be there where your friend is, that's not your problem.
Have a good trip!
2007-08-09 14:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your friend is more mature and doesn`t hold grudges. They say blood is thicker than water but, in this situation your cousin is being unkind and unreasonable. You and your friend planned this trip far in advance. Your friend deserves this trip not your cousin. I would tell my cousin that he could come but, your friend is going no matter what he says and if he has a problem with that then he can stay at home. There is no sense in backing out on your friend because your cousin is being selfish. If you were to back out on your friend then you have a huge risk of losing a good friendship that doesn`t deserve to be lost. Good luck!
2007-08-09 14:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by Nurse22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with your friend. I mean you planned the trip 2 months before. And your cousin probably just wants to ruin the trip anyway...so go with your friend. Maybe you can plan a trip with your cousin some other time.
2007-08-09 14:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the drama. Is Your family looking out for you? Is the friend safe. Would it create more drama?? That is a hard one. I would be honest with myself and then have a conversation with both my friend and my cousin. I would stick with the original if my life would not be jepordized in any way. I would even mabe invite the cousin. Say your invited to join us in OUR plan if that is ok with the friend. It Depends . I Hate People who stir DRAMA!!
Good Luck!
2007-08-09 14:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by RJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the cousin they are a dollar short and a day late, that the trip is already planned and that you will not dump a friend. Tell the cousin that if he/she can get over it, then they are welcome to come too.
2007-08-09 14:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my cousin to grow up! You can go on a trip with them another time, it sounds like they only want to go on this trip, at this time to get at your friend.
Good Luck x
2007-08-09 14:38:26 · answer #7 · answered by Angela26 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my cousin that my friend is coming along, so if my cousin still wants to come then they better deal with it. I wouldn't cancel on my friend. That would be messed up. =)
2007-08-09 14:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the plans with the friend, you already committed to it. Your cousin will get over it.
2007-08-09 14:39:14 · answer #9 · answered by thebabydingo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the friend. If your cousin knew that you were planning on going, and came up to you like that, then he's trying to wreck the friendship.
2007-08-09 14:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by ralos2k3 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋