i have problems in masturbating coz i can be easily turned on,,, my problem is that im more satisfied masturbating than to have s#x with my girl ... is it a problem?
2007-08-09 07:26:50 · 16 answers · asked by Einstein 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I don't see a problem. There are a lot of us who prefer to masturbate. You don't have the psychological problems associated with another person, you only have yourself to think about, its less messy, you control your build up and release, there is no one who is ruining the moment, no one saying don't do that, no one saying I'm finished and no one who will leave you. I feels just as good, you reach the same conclusion and you are having sex with someone who loves you.
2007-08-09 09:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Solo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think this could be a problem. I consider masturbation to be a back up or "fill in" to having sex with a partner. There is nothing wrong with it, but most generally you should expect more satisfaction from sex with your girl friend. Do some serious thinking about what is going on when you are with your girl. If there is something more you expect from her discuss it, if for some reason you are concerned about your performance talk to her about that and how she can help. If you are afraid of getting her pregnant you could discuss different birth control options. Be open with each other because if you are having problems then no doubt she does too. You want your sexual relations to be the best possible for both of you, and the best way to accomplish that is to talk and experiment with each other while having fun and enjoying all the feelings.
2007-08-09 07:39:09 · answer #2 · answered by K K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should feel better with your girl than yourself. But you see, you know what pleases you. your girl needs guideance. Guide her to where you feel the most pleasure. Learning to have good sex is okay. No one is a professional right from the start! Practice learning. It's not embarassing, sex is normal, as is masturbating. Just teach her how to caress you, and she too can teach you how to touch her and you both can learn together how to please one another.
2007-08-09 07:32:06 · answer #3 · answered by the_ghostfairy_returns 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it relly is not. You should never have sex with anyone but your wife.
You should fantacize about yor wife not a female. You shoud also thank GOd that he loves you and made you and that you are able to have such a nice feeling as being able to masturbate. HOwever, you should control your thoughts. You should not let them get in charge of yur sexuality. Sex takes place in your head.
Too much masturbation can have an efferct on your health and on your emotions. A good example is that fact that you are troubled aboit what you are doing to ask a questino about it. Email us and tellus what youthink abotu when you do it by your self.
what is your age?
Some of us are born to be eunuchs whcih neans you might not be too interested in girls. That does not mean as most today think that you re a homosexual. Amny guys today who think they are homosexuals are actually eunuchs who should nbever have been introduced to masturbatino or sex. OUr world clobers us woith sex and sexualinuendos.
We are taught ( us guys) that we shoud be interestedin girls. IT is a lie. YOu should feel that having anyone trouch your Male memebr other than the one special female person God created for you to be your wife ( becaue he loves you and wants in the sexual experience and in the orgasm for you to have a brief joy to realize how long and deep and full The LOVe GOd has for you is) he made a wife for you so you can have sex every night end be filled with rapture and realize he loves you and cares for you and she also can do the same.
If you have sex with anyone before marriage you ruin that the way it should be and could be.
So stop it. ONe bad thing masturbation can do is get a guy so that he does not need a womana nd that moight cause him never to meet and marry the Wife God created for him. HE also created you for that special wife. IF you work to please GOd by beleiveing that he cares for you and loves you then you will be prepoaring your self for the partner GOd made for you. IF you do that he will bring you to her. IF it is true thast Godmade a special person to be your wife donlt you appreciate that idea? DO you appreciate it enough to want to make sure your wife the special one GOd made form you gets the best possible husband she could possibly have. THen you are the on e who can do the rioght things to make that so. ONe thing she deserves the spoecial bride ios tht you are a virgin when you marry. Every time you have sex with a person germs and micro organisms they say there are millionsof them in each vagina and on each penis they cget mixed. When you were born on your body were only the germs that came down to you form your parents. EWach time you have sex with some one you get all the new germs in their family line thast were never supposed to be in your family lione. And you also get every germ from every one of the other persons they had sex with . They never leave your body or your family mine once you get them in there. And your children now will have all those extra disease causing germs and lines of germs that they woudl never had had if you had done it right fomr the beginnning. GOd wants you to do it right fomr this point forth. God only knows what new and terrible diseases these different germs migled to gethre can cause.
BLindness whoi knows. What right do you have for a little pleasure to ruin the lives of your children and grand chidren and generations to come?
So it is beter if you jnasturbate than to have sex wiht your girlfriend who is some one elses wife although she does not know it and you have deflowered her so her true husband will get a perosn with extra germs in there then they should have had if they had followed tgods plana nd the plan of humans for ages in most cultures and societies whnich is abstinance until marriage to a virgin and then monogamy.
We reconmmend you try it. GOd will then and can hel you of all your diseases.
2007-08-09 07:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by Answer M 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes I think that is a problem because you should be getting turned on from ur girl then others. And if u like masterbating so much then why don't u have sex with ur girlfriend? And if she doesn't want it masterbate more. hope that helps.
2007-08-09 07:31:28 · answer #5 · answered by cottoncandyluver12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it may just be that she or you can't find that special spot that gets you off as quick or easy as you jacking off. Maybe try different ways or move differently that might make it better. Also foreplay and passion can change how everything feels.
2007-08-09 07:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Trinidy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good thing if you are trying to stay true to your girlfriend until you get married, but if it is for any other reason than I would look at myself if I were you, what are your real motives?
2007-08-09 07:32:24 · answer #7 · answered by hastl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) So - learn to have better sex. Take more time, do more things. And consider masturbating together if she's up for it.
2007-08-09 07:30:14 · answer #8 · answered by SC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess shes not performign up to par. make some suggestions on what you think you would like that you guys could try without letting it slip that shes not as good as your hand!
2007-08-09 07:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by hey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,
u obviously just like having control. Or your lover isn't sexually pleasing enough to u.
2007-08-09 07:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Joshua C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋