Gay Marriage... [Question for Republicans and Democrats]?

Question

I'm not gonna say what I think about this issue until I choose best answer because I don't want to influence the answers. Anyway, what are your deepest and most controversial thoughts about gay marriage / civil unions? For this question, consider them both the same thing.

I agree most with Fritz Milan and Sway_27. I don't agree with gay marriage or civil unions. I don't think their should be any benefits of getting married though. However, I don't tell them they're going to Hell for being gay. I'm a Christian Conservative. I do let my religious standings influence my politics.

Answer 1

It would be a bad choice for America. To legalize it (which will not happen anytime soon nationwide) would dilute the institution of marriage and open it up to other interpretations such as Polygamy and such. It would send the wrong message to our children and future generations about the role of a man and a woman and about what a Father is and what a Mother is.

Family is the real foundation of this nation, it is what holds us together as a people, and gives our children focus and direction. It is a process by which the family name is carried on and a structured and solid family tree grows.

Answer 2

Marriage is a civil ceremony that currently recognizes a union between a man and a woman. If homosexuals want marriage, it should be left to a vote of the citizenry in each state, not the federal government. The Fed has no business promoting one over the other.

I have no problem if 2 homos want to marry each other if the proper avenues have been negotiated. If a plurality of voters turn it down, so be it. That is how the republic works.

Answer 3

As usual it seems that those who are for gay marriage are much more insightful then those who are against it.

This is another example of people trying to force their theocracy on our lives. We must not allow a religious group to take control of something that has no affect on them. If you don't want to be gay then that's okay, but why does it not work the other way around?
There are other countries that have no problems with gay marriage and adoption and there society has not turned into the moral free, murderous, drug cloud that people like predict.
The truth is, marriage is falling apart. Divorce rate is rising and people don't hold it in the same value that generations before us did. Straight people have turned marriage into drunken nights in Las Vegas and shot gun marriages. Straight couples are ruining marriage. We should give gay couples the chance to resurrect it for us.
Many people are already being raised in gay homes. This is not a valid argument. (Nowadays so many children live in one parent households anyways. It is a huge step up.) By being married though, they are gaining rights that people who living together and raising a family should have.

I don't think that civil unions is the answer. They should be able to have marriage in the same sense as everyone else.

Oh, this is not going to make more people gay. That is a ludicrous idea.

Answer 4

OK, I'm gonna be really un-popular here and probably get BLASTED for this.. but here's what I REALLY think.


1st
All this "government has to protect our rights and make us equal".... is BS. I HATE it when people make it an equality thing. The government isn't suppose to ensure everything is perfect and make it so you and I can do whatever we want. -- quite the oposite.. it's suppose to limit and control what you.

2nd
Marriage is not a BASIC RIGHT -- it is a social/religious institution.
While Homosexuals ARE being Pursecuted by some people it is NOT because they can't get married. Marriage will not make homosexuality more acceptable in society, just like passing a "don't hate gay people law" will change anything.
SOCIETY created Marriage to recognize the bond between a man and a female -- SOCIETY has EVERY right to limit who can undergo this.

As for benefits -- Wah-wah-wah -- AGAIN - Society has every right to limit 'benefits' -- If we want to promote certain behavior, orientations, procreation, etc. -- THAT's TOTALLY within the right of society. DON'T like it??? LEAVE! Find society that fits your belief structure.

Let's look at why governments and society were created in the first place....
Societies were were formed out of necessity of defense and along lines of mutual exchange/ commonality. Each society set up rules and principles to guide and CONTROL what they deemed as appropriate behavior. This was to ensure safety and consistency within the group. Codes of conduct makes the society STRONGER because everyone believes and acts a certain way. It gives society an identy and makes things stable and predictable. -- NewsFlash -- that's what attracts people to communities/societies in the first place - commality and stableness.

Religion also creates rules of appropriate behavior, based on ideology and principles. It binds people together often times more solidly then society can. The stronger the tie between society and religion.. the stronger the society. History teaches us this, persecuting religion makes it stronger.
Right now BOTH society and religion don't want Gays to marry. END of DISCUSSION

Government is suppose to 'protect' only so far as ensuring that Citizens and agencies are not depriving people of BASIC rights. - Example: some Gang sets up shop on a street corner and starts shooting and mugging people - Government steps in and stops them.

Sorry to be so blunt BUT, it doesn't really matter what gays want, the majority has spoken. Government has the OBLIGATION to uphold that decision OR ELSE we need a new government - cause it's no longer BY the PEOPLE FOR the PEOPLE.

So don't go around saying that society should "allow this" or "allow that" -- or that "it's a RIGHT" -- Reality IS.. you don't have a single RIGHT that society doesn't give you, besides those that we've decided are 'inalienable' - but then again.. we 'decided' what was inalienable didn't we? -- So again, society decides what rights you have.. and government just makes sure no one takes that away for an arbitrary reason by using force or something similar.

I'm against Homosexual unions for 2 reasons... 1) Religious
2) Civil Union advocates have angered me by going against the law and getting judges to side with them on 'social reform' basis. -- that angers me and I'll oppose them EVEN IF I didn't object on religious grounds.

The Gay Marriage agenda BURNED their bridges a few years ago.

Answer 5

to me, marriage does not prove anything, cos u can still love a person with ur whole heart even outside of marriage. so whether or not gay marriage is made legal, is not an issue to me. i just think that if gays were to want to get married, they shouldnt be stopped. however, i dont think that legalisation of gay marriages should be fussed over, cos if it were legalised, the gays would have less reason to stray, would they? they would be bound to be faithful and hence will hv less sex with others.. so probably less STDs will be passed around.

really, i'm not fussed. i'm on the fence. either way it falls, there are pros and cons.

Answer 6

My understanding of abortion is that it is condoned by the government because the government respects the right of the mother to privacy. And if that is the case, then the government bending over backwards to stop gay marriage seems a little bit ironic.

I was in Virginia when Virginia citizens were campaigning on a referendum to ban gay marriage and it seemed to me the whole fiasco was the most vindictive thing I have ever seen in my life. Something that a) wasn't allowed anyway and b) wasn't being done or recognized by the government, and people were going out of their way to spend thousands of tax dollars on a law specifically declaring something that wasn't allowed anyway to be illegal. Great job Virginia, what progress you've made towards the future.

Answer 7

The government has no business in our bedrooms... the benefits of marriage/civil union to gay couples should not be up for political grabs. Churches may refuse to marry gay couples, that's their prerogative...which is where civil unions or civil marriages [JP's, judges, registry office, etc.] come in. Haven't seen any cogent reason why allowing gays to marry would harm the married straight people or society as a whole. If gay relationships aren't threatening to the average hetero world, then why should gay marriages/civil unions be?

Answer 8

I agree with civil unions, not marriage(I know you said to consider them the same, but when I make my point you will see I cannot). Civil unions should be given to not only gay/lesbian couples, but any co-habitating couples even of the opposite sex, or related family members. They should have all the same rights as married couples. My initial thought of being for this was when I read a story in a magazine a few years. This had nothing to do with gay or lesbian, but this would work for gay or lesbian couples.

I read an article about a woman who was married and had a kid, when she was about 30 and her kid wad 3 or 4, her husband died. She recieved a modest life insurance payment, but not enought to live on for years. She paid her car off became debt free. But being a single mother she was having trouble making ends meet. He sister who a few years older was getting a divorce,and she got custody of her child. She and her ex sold the house and split the money. He sister and her decided to buy a house together and share it. It was cheaper for them to buy the house and split the bills than each have an apartment. The younger sister finished grad school and got a good paying job, and she became the main income, and her older sister watched the kids and was basically a housewife, without the husband. The younger sister tried to get insurance for her older sister and niece, but couldn't because they weren't married. So the older sister was forced to get a job, that didn't pay well, and the 2 kids, who were in elementary school, were forced to attend day care after school and during the summer so everyone would have health insurance. This is horrible, these are 2 responsible women, who own a home, but can't be on each others insurance because they aren't married. They couldn't even get married since they are sisters.

This to me shows we need civil unions for people like this. If gay and lesbians wish to take advantage that is fine. These civil unions would be just like marriage in all legal ways. They would have to "divorce" if one dies the other is the heir, ect.

Answer 9

I'm a straight, married woman. I believe in God. I see nothing wrong with gay marriage. It really makes no difference to me if two gay people want to get married. I am still going to go to bed at night, wake up in the morning, drink my coffee, take a shower, wear my usual clothes, go to work, come home and cook dinner. I will still watch the same movies and the 10:00 news. I will eat at the same restaurants, smoke the same cigarettes, listen to the same music and drive the same car. I will still go to yard sales, amusement parks and eat junk food.

To all those Jerry Falwell followers, how will gay marriage effect you personally? Not your beliefs, but your life, personally? It won't. Maybe they're athiests. Maybe they're Catholic. What does it matter to anyone but them?

So yes, I support gay marriage because I believe in equal rights for all men and women.

Answer 10

Marriage is defined as between a man and a woman.
I don't care what the gays do, they can live together,
spread AIDS, whatever, but they should not marry.