can two people have competing restraining orders against one another?

Question

my boyfriends ex wife is crazy she has a fatal attraction with him. he has told her to leave us alone and she continues to call and harrass us. he told her that if she didn't stop she wouldn't like what would happen meaning he was gonna file a restraining order against her. she continually uses their three year old against him and tells him that he will never see her again. she called him today at work and said she filed a restraining order against him for telling her that she wouldn't like what would happen if she didn't leave him and us alone. he proceeded to go to the courthouse and filed a restraining order against her and it got approved immediatly. is it possible for that to happen that two people have competing restraining orders against each other for the same thing

Answer 1

To answer the question, yes each person can have an order against the other.

However BOTH of them need to GROW UP and stop acting like morons for the sake of the child.

Answer 2

Yes but restraining orders only work if people call when they are violated, and that means if you get the restraining order you can't violate it either. He needs to go to mediation and get a visitation plan to see his kids, then when she doesn't follow it document it, and then show the court the evil of her ways, and he will eventually end up with the kids, and her the visitation. The only way to end the game is to quit playing, her idle threats should not run the show. And document document document, even if it is just writing down with the date when she calls, comes over and starts crap. When she makes the threat don't let it bring you to her level, report the restraining order violation, they do get tired of being booked and released, they do it to much they won't get released right away, then again you will have the kids, and where i live the person who files the restraining order gets the kids at least until they go to court over the order, and that is a good time to ask for mediation.

Answer 3

I've seen it happen, but I have to wonder if the ex-wife is just trying to get more attention. A judge has to ok any restraining order and just saying what your bf said wouldnt be enough to get a restraining order. She could have lied and made it a lot worse. Ask to see the order. This whole situation sounds like the biggest victim is the child. It may be time for family court to step in. Have you and your bf ever thought of trying to get custody from this lunatic?

Answer 4

Yes. As the restrained party is the only one in jeopardy on a protective order, if both parties have one then the other can face prosecution. The easiest way to get rid of them is to make sure the hearing is moved to the court of the judge who issued the first one.

Answer 5

Good afternoon to you too. And no I don't have a restraining order against anyone.

Answer 6

Yes they can. What he said to her was very vague and sounded very much like a threat, although I get the feeling she filed the papers more to get him first.

You need to encourage him to start acting like an adult for the sake of the child. This arguing needs to stop and the child should NEVER have to choose between parents and that is what this will boil down to. Everyone needs to start thinking of the child and quit thinking about themselves and start acting like grown ups instead of a bunch of children. What kind of poor example is this for the child? They need to get some serious counseling and quit being so self centered.

Answer 7

Restraining orders cannot "compete" . They require both parties to stay the hell away form each other. Which makes handing off the child a bit cumbersome.

Answer 8

Yep. Hopefully now everyone will shut up.