Have you encountered someone in an official capacity who has been all nice/friendly, said they would help you get a disability pension, housing, then have them turn around & say "I cant help you." They drop you flat on your face AFTER you got your hopes up? This is so cruel.
IMO false hope is worse than no hope. You leave thanking God, feeling SO relieved someone is finally going to help you, then they just slam you back down again.
Not only have they gotten your hopes up, you have stopped pursuing other avenues believing you have found THE ONE person who is finally going to help you?
I want someone to give me the straight goods when I ask a question or for assistance, I dont want to be given the easy answer (for them).
I waste my energy filling out paperwork for them getting Drs letters, running around only to find out they knew they couldnt help all along. I dont care if they had "good intentions", I want the truth to start with. Has this happened to you?
2007-08-09 06:53:14 · 9 answers · asked by isotope2007 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
What makes these people think they have the right to waste your time, your energy, and your money? $80 for gas, two trips, 5 hours both ways, thats 10 hours of driving - (and a week of hideous pain because of the driving) when they knew all along they wouldnt help you?
2007-08-09 06:56:54 · update #1
Given some of the answers here and I am not being argumentive or nasty, can you name three things, one thing that a 55+ disabled homeless person should feel "positive" about? Other than thank God it isnt raining today and I wasnt mugged last night?
WHY do people persist in telling the homeless disabled/seniors that they have to "think positive" ?
2007-08-09 08:05:08 · update #2
False hope is worse than no hope. It's a shame there are those out there who offer false hope to people when they know they can't help them. I think it's really cruel to treat a human being that way. How betrayed those people must feel. Honesty is still the best policy in my eyes.
2007-08-09 15:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't recall any. but false hope is better than no hope because then I will be thinking positive. If a person is trying to help you and they don't have the final word then that's not false hope that is a person with good intentions. All people are not out to hurt people like you think this person has done to you. Pick yourself up and go at it another way. And that's with anything not just disability pension. Think positive.
2007-08-09 07:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by pretty granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
False hope is disappointing. Be it in a personal relationship or business, I don't appreciate all their feel good attention just to let me go. I know that they are doing their job and hundreds of people need the same attention. Maybe they are understaffed (as most places seem to be now days) so they need you to do all the foot work. Come to think of it, I do everything to gather and organize my taxes, including filling out paper work so that I can pay a bunch to get them done. I like the old days when you handed a shoe box full of receipts to your account and he did the work.
I have been where you are at and I still am. Don't stress too much. They will get to it especially if you bug them a lot.
2007-08-09 08:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Granny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Isotope without hope you are lost. What you've run into is a bureaucratic snafu and you know what SNAFU means and I can't write it here.
You can appeal the decision the worker has made , but it'll be your responsibility to get the papers and fill em out , mail em in and then wait.
Contact your MLA or your MP and see if either of them can help you, they might not be able to , but they will at least try.
It 's happened to I think every disabled person on provincial disability or cpp, you are not the only one. You are not the only one in pain either or out of money or out of patience.
Go to your provincial minister of social assistance and complain to him or her. Write him/her an email.
Go to the media if you have to, alto of times government ministers just ' love' having mics in their faces and them having to answer on air about how cruelly they're treating a disabled woman.
I totally realize that in your pain and frustration you think you're out of hope, but you know there as many bad bureaucrats as there are good ones, but I promise you they're not all out to get you.
As angry as you are at them, if you're civil to them you get more things done. I know I've been on both ends of this one .
I realize you're disappointed and you're in a tight squeeze but you have to look at all your options rationally.
2007-08-09 09:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe that false hope is better than no hope.
And, yes, this has happened to me. (SS disability)
Although I do consider myself to be an upbeat person and not pessimistic, I've learned not to be optimistic a long time ago so I am pleasantly surprised when things do go my way and I am not disappointed with people.
2007-08-09 07:09:42 · answer #5 · answered by chansenfam@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send your complaint to your Senators and Congressmen. They are just about the only people who can do anything with government bureaucracy.
2007-08-09 06:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no hope is so much worse than false hope, take it from someone who knows
2007-08-09 06:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by youtube.com/rachelroxmyhatoff 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i myself prefer to be told the truth no matter what
2007-08-09 07:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by RD'S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no Hope is worse...false hope is still hope...right?
2007-08-09 07:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋