my gf and I are having a disagreement about it
she thinks, its just a piece of paper and doesn't know if she wants to have a wedding or anything at all.
i think, your saying you love this person forever and hope to be with her/ him forever, in front of family, friends, a preacher and god
what do you think??? be honest!!
2007-08-09 06:31:06 · 16 answers · asked by laura 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
my gf and i have been to togather for 5 yrs to
2007-08-09 06:48:50 · update #1
there shouldnt be the word "to" in my added part sorry lol
2007-08-09 06:50:58 · update #2
To some it is a piece of paper, to others it is a commitment. To me it is an instrument that automatically bestows over 1000 rights to the spouse. My very first question on Y!A was about this very thing. When Gerry Studds died his partner of 15 years and husband of 2 years was not allowed to receive pension benefits because it is was a federal pension.
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhtFeyeoWN57RsiGdUXlffDty6IX?qid=20061110093848AAl8vfq
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2007-08-09 06:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Tegarst 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel for ya. I've been in that situation too. You put all of this time and effort and energy into a relationship that may be going no where. You feel like he may be stringing you along. Wanting you here and now but maybe not forever. If I were you, if he is unable to tell you how he feels after 12 months, I would be extremely cautious and start thinking about your other options. He is 40! He is old enough to know what kind of woman he wants and if you make him happy for the long haul. Why should you give him your all if he can't give you his all. That being said, he may truly be scared of marriage. But, you can't sit around waiting and wondering. You could nicely bring up the topic again and put a timeline on the relationship. For example, give it another 6 months?
2016-05-17 23:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to get married ever since I was a kid. Letting others know about your love and sharing it, I could only imagine how it would feel. But as I keep getting older I have accepted the fact that I might not get the perfect wedding with my family attending.
A marriage is much more than just a piece of paper in my opinion. Its a contract between two people to share their lives for ever... and ever. :-)
2007-08-09 06:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by Dumbo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I have been together for 10 years. When we had been together for five years we had a commitment ceremony. Essentially the same as a wedding---pretty dresses for us (not white dresses though, we just didn't want that) an attendant for each of us, beautiful bouqets, the kids of friends of ours all carried flowers in, readings, a minister, a unity candle, photographer, BIG reception complete with first dance, cake and great food.
It's not legal...there is no piece of paper, but we are married all the same. We did it because we felt that it was time to celebrate our commitment to each other in front of family, friends and God.
2007-08-09 06:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by mouse_726 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that marriage is just a piece of paper that means u own as in property. after all u can announce your love to everyone in so many different way. why does it have to be through marriage. why can't it be through a party where u get up and say to every one Hey I love this person and they will be with me for the rest of my life this person is my soul mate where fate crossed our strings to be tied together for ever. and know matter what anyone thinks or says that our strings have been knotted from here to eternity. so no matter what happens no matter where we r we will never be complete with out each other. after all who ever said that u had to have a marriage and that a piece of paper had to be signed. the exchange of two rings to me could mean owner ship of this person or the exchange of their hearts or souls that is something that I think everyone has to decide on their own after all this is just my opinion
2007-08-09 07:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by sea0869 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm personally not a big fan of paperwork any way. Even if my gf and I could be legally married, we probably would have done the same thing we did and just had a spiritual ceremony. I've heard that the paperwork comes with a major tax penalty any way. Who wants to give Bush more money to fund his agendas?
2007-08-09 06:40:01 · answer #6 · answered by jennysmith0214 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage is a total sham that is next to meaningless these days. It is a way to get government approval of our relationships.
There are two things that I take seriously, handfasting which is similiar to a marriage ceremony but you are really just showing that you love each other and are chosing each other, for a time which can be specified or remain undetermined. Or collaring which I am having in a couple of months, it states that I am giving myself to Him totally, that I trust Him implicitly, and that I have no doubts about our relationship.
2007-08-09 06:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would like to have the RIGHT to marry my partner whether I chose to exercise that right or not.
I would marry her because it would afford us more protection under the law.
But, I don't think that we need a marriage to show our commitment to each other. I was legally married to a man and didn't have even close to the level of commitment that I have with my partner. We're together because we choose to be and not just because it would be too complicated to be apart.
You know, you can have a ceremony with just the two of you and that could be a good compromise.....
Best of luck to you both!
2007-08-09 08:11:38 · answer #8 · answered by hapetobme 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definately want to get married. I understand how some people feel when they say it is just a piece of paper - but I still want it! Maybe there isn't a rational reason for it, it's just something I look forward to.
2007-08-09 07:05:49 · answer #9 · answered by Nea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you, apart from committing forever there are alot of other benifits of marriage. for example, let say you dont marry and are together, how would she feel telling some one you have been dating for 25 years and just decided not to get married? or go to a corporate event and introduce as bf-gf at that age?
Nothing wrong with people dating for few months or couple of year but.
and most importantly, marriage means, neither party can just get up and walk out whenever they feel like.
2007-08-09 06:36:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋