So I Got This Really Huge Problem?

Question

can you people help me with this? so, after many posts on answers i haven't really found any good ones to piece together so i'll write it all in one message... ok so i'm in a military family so i move a lot and my friends do the same. so i go to this school where i moved in years ago being tossed around like i was nothing (not physicaly, mentally). the years before that i was liked at my old school. when i moved here no one wanted me but i found a few friends. fast foward to now. so earlier this year i had many friends we were having fun. then a few things came in which is now
1: this annoying person 2 years younger annoyed me to so much because of this one thing that wasn't even bad, the person friends even told me the person over reacted, 2: the year before i was good at sports but now i suck but and i cant play, 3: 80% of my friends moved, the only thing that kept me alive 4:i have memories of the past to hold me, 5 i'm shy but thats because i have no motovation.i'll add more stuff

6: everything i did for fun is not fun it feels like i'm forcing myself
7: someone told me in yahoo that i am suffering early depression

so now i head into the new school year feeling really low and have almost no friends to lean on. the people around me dont like me because of the annoying person spread this bad thing about me too. what should i do? i dont know where to start or do?

to that memory one i mean its the only thing i hold on too thats good. that memory inculded many friends i haven't seen in years but believe i can see them in the future. that was before i moved to the school i am now

Answer 1

I moved around a lot too, dad was in the army. I lived in one place for 12 years until we started to move. I lost my old friends, the familiar feeling of home. I struggled to have friends until one day when I though my friends were my support, they backstabbed me. I decided that it is much better to be alone than to have "friends" like that. You are being too hard on yourself, you are a bit stressed for the new school year. You think you depend on friends, when you should depend on yourself and enjoy who you are. I really think you are in a phase of growth and things are changing alot around you, in you and above all the way you see things. You don't need to be liked be everyone. You will end up with more people hating you than liking you believe me. I am not a terrible person, I think I am nice and decent, but that doesn't mean I have people who don't like me, in fact they hate me because I moved on with my life and learned to look for what I wanted and not depend on them.
The school year brings so many new adventures, try to feel comfortable with yourself. Things will happen, people will be annoyed and there is nothing you can do, keep going as if nothing happened. People come and go, even if you have a huge group of friends, it will change for when you go to college.
Maybe moving gave you the opportunity to grow up not being soo attached to other people. Learn to let go and be independent. Sometimes it is good to be alone, it is not a bad thing, you can learn a lot about your self, who you are, what you want to be, where you are going. Be a bit more choosey with who you go out with. You cannot satisfy everyone, but the most important that you satisfy yourself. :)

Answer 2

The past is behind you and believe me, people don't remember what others have said in the past all that much. Go into the school year with an upbeat, friendly attitude. Say hi to everyone, don't reject someone as a friend just based on initial looks. If you aren't into sport any more, find another interest. I'm sure the school has lots of clubs you can join. The point is, it's your attitude that will make a difference not only to yourself, but to those around you. They'll feed back what they get from you. Good luck!

Answer 3

it definatelly sounds like you are heading toward depression from lack of support from both family and friends. You feel angry towards your family for not allowing you to stay in one place for long enough to keep friends and the one place they decide to settle down, you feel like no one likes you. These people don't like you because of a rumor that was spread? You should try to approach some of these people in your classes and try talking to them, ask them why they don't like you, if it has anything to do with the rumor, and let them know to their face the rumor is NOT true.
As far as the sports thing, I'm a senior in highschool and don't play any sports but things have worked out, so try joining leadership! Its a great way to meet accepting and nice people of the school.
Good luck honey! hope everything works out.

Answer 4

hi.. sorry to hear you're having these difficulties.

first of all, i'd like to say that no one can diagnose you with depression except a doctor... especially people on yahoo... and there is no such thing as "early depression"... geesh.

i'm sure it's difficult to make and keep friends if you are moving a lot... one thing you might do is ask other military kids what they do to cope.

if you are having problems coping, talk with your mom and/or dad....

if you don't feel as if you have motivation, maybe you could do a web search on HOW TO BECOME MOTIVATED.

it's worth a try. i sure hope things work out.. take care

Answer 5

Quit Whining, crybaby! First of all, you seem pretty needy when it comes to friends. Why do you need some one to lean on???? Stand up and handle yourself. Quit living in the past...what this "I have memories of the past to hold me" crap?? Are your parents dead?? Does anyone abuse you?? Get over it!!! And don't worry, College will be better!

Answer 6

OKAY IF IT'S LIKE THAT THAN IT COULD BE SIGNS OF DEPRESSION CAUSE TRUST ....I KNO.... BUT THERE REALLY ISN'T ANYTHING THAT CAN BE DONE ABOUT THE SITUATION UNLESS YOU JUS TRY AS HARD AS U COULD TO FALL IN AND GET USE TO EVERYTHING THAT HAS CHANGED.....SORRY :(

Answer 7

you cant rely on peple you talk to on the internet to help you should get some professional help

Answer 8

um i would say tell the annoying kid that you'll kick his *** if he doesn't tell everyone that he lied