Why so many questions about if someone is gay or not?

Question

I see these questions ALL the time....really when it comes down to it....what business is it of yours? And who really cares?

I know that people think that if there are more of us that are visable, the better it can make the cause of acceptance. But it can also damage what those persons have worked their lives for.

And furthermore, do str8 people actually think that we ''gays'' know each other? That is a twist on an old racist stereotype.....

Tell me what you think?

To ?:

You are stereotyping what a person can wear and what they can not. And by doing this, that shows ignorance....

I get sensitive about this because it's insulting to the LGBT community. Like I stated, asking us is just a twist to an old RACIST stereotype....period!! Where there is racism, there is ignorance.

Answer 1

I FREAKING AGREE! Who cares? There's more important and more FUN things to talk about than who someone boinks.

And I guess they might think we all know each other! It's like the six gay degrees of separation. HEY STRAIGHT PEOPLE! We are a TENTH the size of you, not a millionth! There are too many of us! All of us look alike! *chuckle*

Star for you, baby!

Answer 2

I think that you might be generalizing too much. I'm a str8 person who supports gay rights & I also don't give a hoot whose gay or straight. Whenever I see a question like that I always say who cares as long as they're happy

Answer 3

There are a number of possibilities about why they ask this question. So you and I will never know the right answer. But I'd like to be optimistic and think that it is because they have a genuine desire to learn more about us so that they can make up their minds about acceptance.

I think that we should answer these questions as truthfully as possible under the circumstances. It is only by doing this that we will one day gain acceptance into the general population.

Answer 4

I'm with the OP on this one.

It's like think that all gay people (and ONLY gay people) dress flamboyantly, talk with their hands, have a lisp, are in the fashion industry, have fabulous (hah!) fashion sense, and know all other gay people by way of a hive-mind.

Here's one that'll confuse 'em: Steven Tyler, an oversexualized man who wears spandex and a neon boa, and whose favourite colour is pink, is STRAIGHT.
I'll wait while you try to put out the smoke in your brain.

Answer 5

all people are intrigued by homosexuality...even die hard "str8" people. Its like "Oh I don't like you cause your gay, but what do you think...do you think so and so is gay?" Its weird to me, I don't really understand people. Basically I think it comes down to ignorance and their own personal curiosity...but they just don't know the right questions to ask.

Answer 6

I agree with you 100% and now I'm starting to think that when people ask those questions, it's a call for attention. I mean, it's unnecessary.

Answer 7

They obviously have found out about the Big Gay Database. (sigh)

I think some people are so bland, that talk of the perhaps "unusual" orientation of another sets them all a-quiver. It becomes irresistable gossip.

Answer 8

For some reason they seem to think that just because we are gay we know everyone who is gay and can tell immediately. Does not work that way, and it is ridiculous.

Answer 9

People are naturally curios, unfortunately they're just as ignorant about facts as well.

"Prejudice is a wonderful thing. It allows us to make up our minds without first getting all the facts." ~ Oscar Wilde

Answer 10

OMG, I couldn't agree more. It's like we have some magic rainbow ball and we have a list of all gay people in it and we give our nod or our emphatic no. It does get quite annoying.