My girlfriend notes how she's always flirted with at work. However, she always makes it a point to mention to them that she's taken (and with me). She's invited to parties with her male co-workers and is planning on going out with them tonight. She said that it would be akw if i came, and I agreed. I trust her whole heartedly.
1. Is she just rubbing it in by telling me all the time? Or is she just being frank with me?
2. To boost my confidence should I say im going out to a party with my girlfriends (and actually go)? lol... or am I being too conceded?
3. Should I just play it cool, and say: "Yeah, you go out and have a great time!"
2007-08-09 04:13:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
These men flirt with her and I dont feel 100% comfortable with her going because she will be under the influence and thus anything could happen.
But there is no reason why i cant trust her. So i cant say, "I dont want you to go!"
2007-08-09 04:16:09 · update #1
Time for a heart-to-heart chat. Make it clear you trust her implicitly, but you don't want anything to come up and put her in an awkward situation.
If you go out on your own, especially at this time, you will be saying, in effect, you "don't care" and she might think of it as a "write-off" or that you are jealous or are trying to make her jealous.
Relationships are a challenge at all times. Let her know how you feel and ask her if she will be thinking of you.
2007-08-09 04:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by Nothingusefullearnedinschool 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two reasons she does this:
1) She's setting the expectations and relationship tone with you. She wants to make it clear to you that she will not be controlled, and no one will dictate her work and social contacts. Being flirtatous and friendly is her nature, and you can't (shouldn't) try to change that. She's with you because she wants to be with you, and not because she HAS to be. This should boost your ego that she's chosen you, and lets everyone else know it.
2) She wants your reassurance that you are OK with this, and won't get jeloues or controlling and leave her because she is going to a party with male coworkers.
Yes, you should say to her, "Great, go and have a good time. It's healthy to have seperate social lives to some extent. I'll be here when you get back. But I also need you to understand next time my coworkers want me to attend an event without you that you shouldn't get angry or sulk about it".
2007-08-09 11:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by tushanna_m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am a girl, but I don't see anything wrong by telling your girlfriend you're not comfortable with her going out with her male co-workers who flirt with her...I mean, you do trust your girl, but you're also worried about her safety, right (you did mention there's a possibility she will be under the influence of alcohol, right)? I mean, what if her male co-workers turn out to be bastards and a$%holes? I do have a boyfriend, and I don't think I will get offended if he tells me not to go to a party with my co-workers who flirt with me 'coz he's worried...I mean, I'll understand he is just worried, and with bastards sniffing around me, I would totally understand why...heck, I wouldn't want him to go to a party with a girl who flirts with him...
Further, I remember what my mom used to tell me when I was younger, that is, that she trusts me, but she doesn't trust other people (hope you get my drift)..
What I mean to say is, it's totally okay if you want to assert something here, you know, given the circumstances...
2007-08-09 11:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by Enigma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to wait till you cant trust her to say no? She shouldn't want to go without you by her side..If she don't want you to go then there is a reason behind it! Just say if I cant go then there is no reason for us to continue seeing each other, There is trust and there is stupidity,You don't send your girl to a party that she says she would feel akw if you went! Men and alcohol don't mix! Sounds like she likes someone at this party and she don't want him to know you exist! Good luck!
2007-08-09 11:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by queenbezzzzs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman feels awkward about having the man she loves with her in the presence of male co-workers who flirt with her?
Hmmmmm.
2007-08-09 11:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Shev 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hiya,
Shes just being frank with you
Dont bother lying about a party- just trust her
Explain that you love her, and dont want this to ruin it. Meet up with your m8s
and watch footie
xx
2007-08-09 11:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust her then no problem with her going out with coworkers. You do what you want but behave.
2007-08-09 11:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by Cristi H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋