My neighbour 39 year old is involved with a 16year old boy. His parents have given them their blessings according to what she has told.But I still feel compelled to say something to her. What should I do?
2007-08-09 02:56:17 · 19 answers · asked by Luna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS !!
2007-08-09 03:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by sunflowerseed 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't have a problem with age differences within relationships.....hell, my husband is 24 years younger than me.....I knew when he was just 19 that he liked me & I made him wait for another year until he was completely sure of his feelings before I'd agree to seeing him.
He waited, we've been married for nearly 6 yrs now & together for 8
I'm not judging your neighbour....not my business, but I honestly feel for ANY adult of 39 yrs old, to be involved with someone as young as 16....is surely setting themselves up for a bit of heartache somewhere along the line.
Always best to wait til we're adults I reckon....to be really sure of our feelings.
Not fair on the 16 yr old.
Nothing much you can say or do about the situation though.
2007-08-10 09:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should say somthing. just bring it up without sounding like its a bad thing in case she did give her blessing. but i think thats wrong and the parents have the right to know. if it was a girl dating a 39 year old male i bet more people would say to tell. but either way its wrong and illegal. i think you should let the parents know what is going on because i find it creepy that a 39 year old woman would want to date a 16 year old boy.
2007-08-09 10:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew a 39 year old when I was 16, if his parents are aware and they are ok with it it is none of your business
2007-08-09 18:12:30 · answer #4 · answered by john h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No no no... You didnt say this was your friend.. you said this was your neighbor. So dont meddle.. and dont butt your nose into other people's business. Watch from afar.
However, if conversation strikes, voice your concern without being judgemental. Not so much for the adult, but concern for the boy.
And dont begin the gossip chain, or the rumors. This has nothing to do with you.
2007-08-09 10:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Julie S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. If you think she is manipulating him in any way then say something.
Otherwise leave them alone. Age is just a number and the boy has his family / friends to take care of him without extra opinions. Let them make their own mistakes and learn from them.
Who says they're not perfectly happy and in love? It's not unheard of.
2007-08-09 10:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by immie123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much 'your personal business your putting out here,' its theirs ~ although 'your Personal Business' is likely to be something to do with your self in relation to her.
What would you like to say to her?
What is it that is your right to say anything to her?
What makes it 'your business'? - other than you making it your business.
Is there a Law being broken? If there is to be a Law broken, then it's more than likely you who will be doing the breaking after you receive a warning for harassment / stalking ..that is, if you are not exceedingly care-full.
Stay away.
Sash.
2007-08-09 10:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the boy was a few years older...like say 21, I would say no problem. But a 16-year-old? Something is seriously wrong with that picture. I would say to your neighbor that you have your life, but to me what you're doing is wrong. Don't elaborate unless she pushes, but this way she knows that you don't condone her behavior.
2007-08-09 10:33:37 · answer #8 · answered by bruiserkc2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does sound disgusting that your neighbour is going out with a male almost half her age but its legal. and if the families have given them their blessings then theres nothing much that you can really do. besides, the boy is growing up. he has to make mistake to make himself stronger. all you can really do is sit and pray that one day they'll break up.... and soon!...before the situation turns out like anna nicole smith!!!
2007-08-09 10:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a way it's none of your business but if you feel that it is the right thing to do then go ahead i mean id do the same.
2007-08-09 10:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his parents have for sure given their blessing,I'd stay well out of it all,its not your business.
2007-08-10 06:22:50 · answer #11 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋