it's all about my past and present situation..during my college days, i had a short relationship with this guy whom i didnt love..we did that things that cause my early pregnacy..i felt so alone, rejected and thought that it was the end of the tunnel, so i decided to be w/ him and we live in together..but each day that we're together was a nightmare for me coz we always have quarrels, almost everyday..and there were times that he hit me.so i decided to leave him...then from sumwhere, i never expected that my childhood sweetheart will come back again into my life..coz its been a long time we're not 2gether.. the one im looking for..i love him from the moments i know whats the meaning of love..i told him everything 'bout my past and he's willing to accept me for who am i now..i know that he loves me also..right now we're together and our relationship going stronger. but the problem is, my ex still pestering me..he wants me to get back on him just for the sake of our kid..WHAT SHOULD I DO
2007-08-08 22:39:43 · 10 answers · asked by sykesmishe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am no expert in these stuff but I'm gonna share what I know.
I think that you need to talk to your ex first. Did you just abruptly leave him or did you both file an annulment? Cause I think that's the first thing you should do. Talk to him and explain to him why you left (sometimes guys are stupid enough not to know their own faults even if it's right there in front of their eyes). If you're scared of talking to him, bring your new boyfriend. Do not argue with him, just talk to him in a calm tone, and he should do the same. You BOTH need to AGREE upon something about your child. Don't let the child suffer for BOTH of your faults.
As for the child, you should talk to him/her to. If he/she's not that old enough, then you both should decide what to do.
After all that's resolved, you can go to your new boyfriend, and marry him or what.
Your ex will pester you unless you talk to him properly. And that you BOTH should have agreed on something, 'ayt? Be strong girl. And don't let the kid suffer! ^^
2007-08-08 22:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be foolish, he hit you, that should have told you something. You did the right thing by leaving.
Now, if he doesn't leave you alone and keeps after you, go see the police, get a restraining order against him. If there's a child and you can blame peternity, tell him he's going to share in the responsibility of the childs welfare, if not, then change the childs name, and get rid of this scum sack.
2007-08-09 05:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your ex you've moved on and are now happy in your current relationship, he has to accept that.
It isn't fair for you to bring up your child in an unhappy relationship just because your ex feels its morally right.
Tell him under no circumstances will you be getting back together with him but make sure he realises that it won't affect his relationship with the child you have together.
2007-08-09 05:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by star_light_star_bright_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u really still need the answer??? U already have the answer. Now what u need to consider is about your love, does he love your kid???? If yes, then I think u should continue on the right track you are on. If not, well, I still think that you should continue with him, coz no matter what, a woman should never be with somebody that hit her. Have pride for yourself and cheers for you. You are doing it right.
2007-08-09 06:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be with the stable man. Don't go back to someone for the "sake of your child". I've always found that to be bullshit, being in an abusive relationship and having a child there is bad for the child.
2007-08-09 05:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Seung Hee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell tuor ex to take a hike you have a wonderful man in your life now and ythat you don't love him and your child will be just fine seeing it's Dad away fromyou heaps of kids do it.. it would be worse for your child to have a loveless relationship..
2007-08-09 05:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by narregirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not get back with him beleive me your kids are better off in a good stable enviroment....my parents got divorced once i moved out..i moved out cause being around them was hell and i wanted them to get a divorce since i was 12....i would have had a much happier child hood if they would have seperated when they wanted too.....nowdays its normal for kids parents to be divorced..u arent scaring them!
2007-08-09 05:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totaly agree with Rika Ishikawa she is totaly right and i believe you should pick her as your best answer. dont be with someone you dont love just cuz of a kid be with someone who will be there for you nomatter what and love you no matter what not someone who will beat you or hurt you, you know what we mean?
2007-08-09 05:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make urself happy.....ur ex does not do this for u.....ur kid will not be happy living in a house of arguments....hope it all works out
2007-08-09 05:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by staytruebegood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"and there were times that he hit me." You don't want back in this situation.
2007-08-09 05:46:26 · answer #10 · answered by mikebnchprss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋