Idon't know what to do I care about the guy I have been with for 8years.How can I save our relationship?

Question

It all started when my sister called some pysch line and said that my guy friendship was bisexual/and dating some puerto rican lady.I have been sexually involved with him for 8 1/2 years.I care a great deal about him.but he thinks I don't show it when we make out.He tells me he knows when I 'M not into it.also we have been in arguments when I asked was he messing around he said no.so for a bout a month we've been in to arguments.how can I save my friendship.He has done a lot for me.but I'm under major stress with my 3 1/2 autistic son and my job attendance.I 'm not eating or sleeping well.body aches and pains at 33 yearsold.my guy fiend is 48 going on 49 and he's healthy as ever.Help any advice.

Answer 1

Seems like you need to start trusting him in the relationship.
If you honestly think he is cheating and have proof, then you need to get rid of this guy.
You both need to sit down and talk about what you both want out of your relationship, talk about the problems you are having in the bedroom.

You are calling this guy your GUY FRIENDSHIP..
Boyfriend????

He is the daddy to your 3 1/2 year old son? You said you been with your guy friend for 8 1/2 years.

If you really want to save your relationship and he does too, you will have to work at it.... Talk, Talk, Talk.... don't argue.
Just agree that you don't agree on certain subjects and leave it at that...

I have a 13 year old autistic Nephew and I know how hard it can be...

Good luck, faith

Answer 2

Your friendship will probably survive. But I think you want more than friendship from a guy. I think you need help with your life and some stability in it. I can't even tell if you are gay or straight, a guy or a girl yourself. It all sounds very rocky to me. Not good for that child or you, for that matter.
The best advice would come from a therapist who knows your situation. That would help you with your stress problems too.