The guy is my boss...he is my dreamguy...unfortunately he is married....and he has a child.At the beginning i liked him, but that was all.I knew he is married.But three weeks ago he gave me a ride, and we talked...I feel we have a lot in common...i feel comfortable with him....Since than he gave me a few rides...and last time he asked me how come i don't have a boyfriend...I really need help....i'm falling in love....i now it's not right....and i hate myself for this...
2007-08-08 19:30:57 · 21 answers · asked by Rayna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
actually...nothing happened between us...he's nice...but never hit on me...
2007-08-08 19:46:29 · update #1
Well, just think of this... imagine yourself being married to this same wonderful, charming, loving guy... you being his Mrs. Close your eyes for a moment and imagine it before you go on... imagine him being all yours and he was faithful to you and just an irresistable kind of guy just because of his demeanor... his character and you loved him for this, and he was a hottie! Now imagine some hot young girl, trying to seduce him because she wanted him, because his only flaw was hiring her to allow her to make income to support herself and offering her a ride one day she happened to he in need, and he wasn't a jerk because duh, this was an employee of his and he thought well, why not, she works for me, she needs a ride. But I won't hit on her because I respect her.
Now imagine this young girl falling in love with this husband of yours and he is trying to be faithful to you because he loves you, yet she seduces him and takes it too far and he gets weak and ruins your marriage because temptation was made too great from some chick that threw herself at him basically. How would that make you feel; because one day it will happen to you... What goes around always come back around. Don't build bad kharma. I can see that you already have a conscious, therefore you must be a good person, with good morals already. Of course, some men are just that seemingly irresistible. And yes, you think you are in love with them, but most often this is misunderstood and inapproriately labeled, but is only LUST.
He is accounted for, and he has a loving wife, I bet. Imagine you were her and someone dared to come between you. You know how men are anyways, they (well most of them) can only take so much temptation. [No pun intended guys...] Then you also don't want to make yourself look like a fool, you know, coming on to him and he perhaps would reject you. Especially if he hasn't already made any pass at you. Perhaps he is showing you how much he really does respect YOU as a person. Do him the same favor and respect his marriage and better yet his family with children.
Admire him from afar. There's nothing wrong with THAT! Lol That way no one gets hurt, embarrassed, or seal their fate for the times we don't account for in the present!
Perhaps what ND said also, imagine if that would happen... you would be blacklisted as Monica Lewinsky! God forbid.
2007-08-08 20:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sistah Flow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, NO, NO! Stay far away from him. It is too easy when you are together through the trials at work.... you become the work spouse. He has another life you know nothing about....... breakfast, bills, silly little inside jokes, commitment, a child they made together, back rubs and family picnics.... he may be needing some excitement or understanding or new physical gratifiaction he doesn't think he gets at home. He needs to make his own changes before you get caught up in the mess and disappointment of having a relationship with a married man. Like yourself more. And believe you are worth waiting for your own man.
2007-08-08 19:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact that you will end up with a broken heart. Not only is it right but it will have an effect on your future relationships as well. Does the fact that he is your boss have anything to do with it? Some ladies have a thing for men in positions of authority. Think twice.
2007-08-08 19:40:03 · answer #3 · answered by El Niño 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're headed for trouble. BIG TROUBLE. He seems to be using you. Don't let it happen. End it and maybe just maybe you'll keep your job. But it may be better to go work somewhere else. Put yourself in his WIFES shoes. Would you want your husband to be cheating on you with some girl at work? If he's cheating on his wife with you...DON'T YOU SEE THAT HE WILL CHEAT ON ANYONE?? Even you. If you can't see it, then it's infatuation that is clouding your better judgement.
Not to mention the child involved. Does the child deserve all this selfishness? NO.
2007-08-08 19:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by i sharpen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never met a girl who dreamed of growing up and falling in love with a married man with kids... If that is your dream man, what is your problem? Why not have a dream guy who doesn't have a wife to cheat on and who wants to have kids with you? You have probably made up your mind though and have all the excuses too all the reasons why you shouldn't be with him... So if you are going to do the wrong thing.... Own up to the fact that you are who you are and live with it... Maybe one day you will have a man of your own who will do this to you...
2007-08-08 19:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by kierenmcnally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many movies like this. If you pursue this there is a good chance you will end up with a well deserved bullet in your head. If this is not convincing enough then you were meant to be a 48 hour story or a Lifetime movie. You will serve as a good example for those that are not as stupid.
2007-08-08 19:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is distance yourself as much as possible from this guy, granted he is your boss but don't let him be anything more than just that, There are plenty of other guys out there that just might take your breathe away if you look, and those ones won't have a ring on their finger ;)
2007-08-08 20:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not your dreamguy because he's already married. If he was your dream guy he wouldn't already have promised his fidelity to another woman and mad a baby with her.
You deserve a guy who isn't a sneaky cheat. And he deserves someone who isn't going to wreck his marriage and take him away from his kid.
2007-08-08 19:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Rob B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and tell him what you are feeling and that you know it's a wrong thing that's why you are asking for a transfer cuz you dont wanna do something today that you'll regret tomorrow.Best Luck
2007-08-08 19:37:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then stop. You always have a choice. Don't mess around with a married guy. There are plenty of single ones who haven't promised themselves to another woman already.
2007-08-08 19:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by Christopher B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋