I was born to have kids. Seriously! Every ounce of my being is CHILDREN!!! I am young still but I know that someday i want to run little munchkins to practice, cook dinner, read bed times stories, wake up at 4 am with children screaming from nightmares, feel morning sickness. AHHH! I love every idea of it. and today.... I found out... my boyfriend (that i could truely see myself with cooking the dinners and cuddling with the children) absolutly doesn't want kids. EVER! He says he has to many things planed, goals, dreams. He said it would be to selfish to have kids and not give them the attention they deserve. I just really don't know what to do. I want to be with him I would love to be his wife... but.... there really isn't a compromise when it comes to kids.... Any help?
2007-08-08 19:26:13 · 13 answers · asked by Megan M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ya you are correct and he is also correct.Every women want kids love kids.You are having some dreams about your children that is absolutely right.But in the same way he is also having some goals and dreams in life.He has to reach them n fulfill them as we have only one life a short life.There is no compromise for people with strong desires towards goals,as love him love his ideas and his feelings.He dont say that he dont want kids forever he says that after some time we will have kids.I think he thought that after kids were born he cant concentrate on his goals and achieve them it is correct.Talk to him about this convince him,you are still young so wait for some time ok.Good Luck.
2007-08-08 19:38:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's not willing to compromise, I think you know what has to be done; are you looking for our permission?
He may change his mind; I did when my wife was pregnant. But don't sneak an "accidental" pregnancy on him. He may up and leave you as a single parent.
I would say you need to leave, and tell him why. There are a lot of wanna-be family guys out there. It's either that or buy some puppies - but they're only a substitute for the children you really crave.
Good luck, hon.....
2007-08-08 19:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by Bill F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. There should be no compromise on this. Don't try to change his mind; he'll only give into your pressure and regret it later. Why would you want to have children with someone who doesn't want any? Make a clean break and find a guy who shares the same things you want in parenthood. You'll do your kids a favor!
2007-08-08 19:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by WildMtHoney65 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If someone wants to have kids, you can't force it on them not to.
If someone doesn't want to have kids, you can't force it on them to do it.
I'm sorry, but you two will have to come to an agreement of some sort. Maybe you would like the idea of adoption or helping children at risk. Something like that.
If you two can't come to any sort of agreement, don't expect a long term relationship.
@Leee: You are incorrect. I'm a woman. I don't want to have a child.
2007-08-08 19:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U need to find a man that does want kids because in the long run u will resent him for it.
2007-08-08 21:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it now, before your dreams are destoyed and his goals are compromised. It is a huge difference that cannot be ignored or hope that it will change.
2007-08-08 19:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well wat i would do is tell him how u feel and tht u really want this to work but tht u want kids and tht if u did get married u would probably end up getting in a big fight about kids and mayb get divorced!!!!!!!!!! tht's never good. just tell him how u feel and maybe u could have 1 kid then i bet he will love the kid soooo much he'll wnt 2 hav more!! but mayb the only thing 2 do is to find another guy tht wants kids
2007-08-08 19:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm in the same situation, except my wife doesn't want kids and I do. She seems to think having kids will ruin her life.
I also don't know what to do.
2007-08-11 16:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by mike 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, move on. I didn't want any either and glad I don't have any. he won't change his mind and you'll never be happy without children.
2007-08-08 19:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by Brewski 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
move on , or keep waiting on the slim chance that he will change his mind.
also keep hoping he wont be abusive cause he didn't want kids even though you might talk him into it
2007-08-08 20:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋