Depressed about missing out on High School?

Question

I'm 18 , I'll be 19 in October. In 8th grade I pretty much dropped out of regular school and opted to attend an "Alternative School" for High School which is basically a smaller version of High School with tutors and less classes. I only did well enough to get my GED which I'm almost finished with.
For the last few months I've been horribly depressed almost every day.
My only friend has a MySpace page and I can't help but look at it and see all his friends, good times and great pictures from in High School. He went to so many parties, had so many friends/girlfriends and seemingly had a great time.
I had NONE of that. I've been pretty sheltered for the last few years and have no social life. Now my school years are basically over and I feel like I'm forced to grow up. I'm going to community college then maybe a university but I'm still so depressed it makes me sick. How can I feel better all of this? I can't really relate to anyone. I wish every day that I had stayed in school

Answer 1

You don't need high school to have good times. I bet if you really experienced high school you probably wont miss it. Its a lot of drama and stupid fights and not everyday looks as exciting as in pictures. I left high school junior year and I haven't missed it yet. I didnt go to prom, but there is always my wedding where I will wear a fancy dress and dance on a ballroom floor, there is always college parties and college sports to go to and its not like you cant go watch high school sports. You are still young and can make memories in college. You cant change the past so you shouldnt dwell on it. Focus on the future and just because you are going to community college doesnt mean things dont happen there. College gets way more exciting. You also have a lot of years to date people. High school relationships are just crushes and arent that special usually. Im sure once you actually go to college you will find people like you that you can relate to.

Answer 2

You'll be fine. The good part is yet to come. High school is a good place to make friends, but that can also occur else where. You need to move on and if you want to make new friends and meet interesting people they are out there. You are headed to the right place. A community college or a university is a great place to make friends. You're gonna get what you wish for is what's scary. If partying and having a great social life is what you want, its going to happen. It's a long life. Careful what you wish for. Take care and you'll be fine.

Answer 3

Seems like there are some things we need to understand about you. Why did you leave 8th grade? Were you feeling depressed then? Your issues about depression make me think that, while high school might be playing a role in your sadness, there are some other underlying issues. Please consider talking to a trusted adult about your feelings.

As for high school, I wish I could have skipped it all together. I HATED it. College, on the other hand, was the most amazing experience of my life. You will see and experience things you never thought. When I got to college, I thought I must have lived in a daze all through high school, because suddenly LIFE opened up for me. I know you feel like you're missing out on a lot, and that could be true, but consider what you've got ahead of you: more fun and stimulation than you can imagine.

Furthermore, please seriously consider talking to someone about your feelings. You will benefit from processing what's swimming in your head.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

You are not alone. I can share a bit of my experience. When I was about 16, I was escaping from communists. I was at the middle of a stormy ocean on a little boat (: And I was going to die! Months later I found myself in a country without friends and struggled to speak the language. I practically lost my teenage-hood and highschool life and landed at the bottom of the social ladder in a foreign country where people were very indifferent to people like me. Grow up? Yes and no choice (:

The only way to make up for what you have lost is not to look for what you have lost. You need to look for what's next. I had to worked very hard to get into University and started my life again from that level. You will have to work hard to get into college/university and start your life again from that point (if you can make it there). College is where you get what left of your "innocent time" . And if you make it there, remember that you have to be very nice to people and be very sociable to make the most of chances t o get good friends. You had lost plenty of chances already. By the time you get out of college, it's tougher to get friends. True friends come and go, enemies stay. That's the hard-knock school of life. You will soon find that only future success will make up for loss in the past. You cannot search for things in the past.

I know some people get their friends and companionship from religious places. They go to churches or mosques or temples, but this kind of thing is not for every one. If you are not in it now, the chance is that you won't want to be in it. Therefore you just have to be positive, do a make-over of your mental readiness and aim for college life.

Hope you can decide what's your next move.

Answer 5

Don't Worry high school is just the beginning of your life plus a lot of his friends are probly plotting against him most of the time (high school drama makes me sick). Get into something post graduate and you'll be happy. People who missed out in high school shine plus theres no drug fiends and violence. People are more mature. People partying in highschool all the time never go far in life. Maybe from 16-18 it's their best times but soon you'll see their friends will drift off soon or later. University kicks highschool *** trust me dont be depressed your not missing nething xpt for high school drama that no one will remember you'll have more mature ppl in collage/uni. These friend will be your "friends for life" or even your soulmate? Dont worry man just study hard but dont lose your life.

Answer 6

school is not the only way to have a social life. Iwas miserable at school and i got out early too. the difference is , i guess, is that all of my friends during that time weren't from my school. so for me, im happier without it. Trust me im not the least bit grown up

Answer 7

There's still time to get some of those experiences in college. If it's THAT important to you, then study the heck out of the SATs and transfer to a four-year college ASAP.

Answer 8

You can still het your certificates through correspondence or atttend a community college.Its not too late.Look into it.Also you were probably not ready to go to high school so look uponon these last years as a learning curve.You can still have a social life by joining new clubs.

Answer 9

Once you get into college, you will meet new people and begin socializing more.