Is it bad to be like 13 and still a virgin?

Question

is it? Alot of ppl at my school have all ready had it and one at my school is pregnet and she is 13.

Answer 1

Sweetie,

You say "virgin" like it's a bad thing. You are only given your virginity ONCE-- once, in your whole life. Imagine how special something would have to be to only have it ONCE. You get a cake and a birthday every year, you get new clothes for school every fall, you even occasionally get baby siblings or cousins.

Your virginity is something you ought to treasure. The longer you hold onto it, the better off you are. Your friend at school who is pregnant has given away something she can never get back, and that is something that will change the course of her life forever, if she can carry the baby to term (not to scare you, but a lot of times when a girl gets pregnant that young, the baby is premature or stillborn)

So, to answer your question: you hold onto your innocence as long as you can. If you can take it all the way through middle school, you should be proud. If you can take it all the way through high school, which is even harder, you should be even prouder. And if you can manage to get through college and still have your virginity, then you will have given whoever you marry THE GREATEST gift that anyone can give him: the idea that he is SO special, you saved it JUST FOR HIM.

I know how cute boys can be, and how crazy about them we girls can get ~ but trust me, if you let one of them talk you into giving away your virginity, when the guy who's so wonderful that you never even realized that men could be made so perfectly comes along, you are going to want to be able to say to him, "I've waited for you" and be able to prove it.

Answer 2

Actually, it's very smart to be 13 and a virgin. It's a safe bet neither you nor the girl who is pregnant is prepared to be a mother. The boy who is going to be a father is not in any position to be a father either. Just because you have the ability to do something doesn't mean it's a good idea to do it, or should do it. You won't explode if you don't have sex for some time yet, in spite of what the boys may think. They will say a lot of things to convince you to come across, and the girls who have already had sex may say a lot of things to convince you that you should too. Bologna, all of it. Sex is more than bumping uglies, unless you are satisfied with just mating like a couple of animals. When you decide to have sex, you need to make sure you are prepared to face all the consequences that can come out of the decision. You need to be prepared to face the possibility of getting any number of sexually transmitted diseases- some which can be cured, some that can't, and some that will kill you. You also have to be prepared for what happens if you get pregnant. Don't depend on the boy at all, because if you catch something, or if you get pregnant, chances are good that he's going to run and you will be left with the bundle to deal with. That's the hard truth. Read the posts here, all full of women and girls that are single moms, no support, or who have herpes, clap, genital warts, or HPV. They didn't think it would happen to them either. They trusted and they got burned for it. They don't like it, and it still doesn't change a thing. MIsery may love company, but that doesn't mean you have to provide it. Ignore what they tell you about everybody doing it. Everybody isn't, despite what they may claim. Lots of people choose to wait, mostly the smart ones. Your parts won't rust in the waiting time, I promise. Be smart, and wait until you have a partner you can depend on to be there, until it's something you want to do because you want to make love, not just have sex with some pimply faced boy who says his parts are going to explode if you don't. It will serve him right if they do, but as of yet, in the thousands of years people have been around, not having sex hasn't killed anyone. On the other hand, having sex has killed plenty.

Answer 3

NO, it is totally NOT bad for you to be a virgin.

Honey, whenever you're ready it will be time for you. Don't compare yourself to the people at school and think there's something wrong with you.

Sex is a very adult thing. If you plan to have sex, you have to be ready for the fact that you could get pregnant, even if you use protection. If you aren't ready to have a kid, and really can't accept that possibility, you should not be having sex.

You're still a kid (I don't mean that as an insult) and you have a LOT of growing and maturing left. Don't try to grow up too fast hon. Sex doesn't make you more mature or more adult.

When you're ready, make sure you really want to have sex and you aren't just doing it because "everyone else is." It's your body. Also, make sure you use protection!!!!

Answer 4

Believe me the people at your school are going to regret it later. You are too young to understand the full meaning of sex. A lot of my friends and I lost our virginity around 16-18 and some of my friends are still virgins at 21! Dont fall into peer pressure,. If you cant spell the word "pregnet" I would say wait until you are more knowledgeable about sex.

Answer 5

WHAT!
of course it's bad for a 13 year old to be a virgin every 13 year old should be a virgin and I feel bad for the girl who's pregnant already she's not ready for a baby and I'm sure their will be promblems with the baby too. No offense but I wouldn't want to be in your school.

Answer 6

Sweety you need to get a clue... don't you know that people make things up to make them seem more important or cool than they really are. Of course it isn't bad to be 13 and a virgin. Listen sex is not the B end all. Sex is more than the act it's self. When you have sex with someone it is a deep connection with your soul even if you don't feel it at the time. I think that is very sad that a baby is having a baby. That girl has lost her childhood and youth. Just because you can have sex doesn't make you a mature adult. Wait and enjoy your life. Experiencing lots of different things and looking for the man who you connect with and want to share your dreams with.

Answer 7

Please don't tell me you want to be like the 13 yr old pregnant girl!

I'm going to be honest. Whoever you lose your virginity to will be part of your life forever (even if they are only there as part of your memory) so you're much better off saving yourself for someone who truly matters.

And 13 is still very young to be having sex so you are not "behind" by any means. Just don't feel you should do this because others are doing it. It is a very personal thing and your motivations must be your own.

Answer 8

You would worry about sex at 13. You have to much in your life to look ahead to than if you should have had sex yet. Your not old enough to take on the responsibility to have sex because there are allot on consequences of it like that girl that got pregnant. Just keep a good head on your shoulders and its OK to be a virgin till you get married when ever that might be. It should be special and with someone you love not random.

Answer 9

It's not bad at all. You are young and have youre entire future ahead of you. Your virginity should be something you cherish. Take time going to movies hanging out, thats what you should be doing because you are a teenager and sex is an adult decision.

Don't worry about others if they are honest they would tell you they wished they had waited .

Think of the consequences and always see yourself as unique what if you havent yet you have lots of time before youre an adult enjoy your youth without worrying about sex.

Finally it's my opinion that sex is best within marriage so wait.

Answer 10

Of course not, I'm 14 and if you do it a lot of people will think of you as a $lut & etc... (I would know, I'm a guy). There are more people who don't do it then do it so don't follow the other people and being impregnate at 13 is the least from good. Not just that, a lot of the guys just trying to please themselves without thinking of the other person. Don't fall for it, wait until you are ready and mature enough to truly be happy with your first.