how do i get over a death? please help me?

Question

a close family member of mine (young child, sister) passed away back in january but i still cant let it go, my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins have all gotten over it but i cant, help me please

~i hate CANCER~

Answer 1

Time will help ease the pain, but you will never get over the loss of your little sister. She was a big part of your life and you of her life. Cherish the memories you have, even the toughest ones. Be thankful that you were able to know and love her.

There are grief counselors who can help you with dealing with your pain. Ask your parents to please allow you to see one.

Cyber hugs to {{{{{{{YOU}}}}}}}

Answer 2

Reach out to those close to you, and try to form closer bonds with them and let them know how you feel. You may find that some of them haven't gotten over it as much as you'd think. Also, let yourself know that no matter what, she is in a much better place now. I am so sorry for your loss, I know how you feel; I lost my mom at a pretty young age, and even though it was almost 19 years ago, I still haven't completely gotten over it. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers; hopefully this that I have just said will offer some small comfort.

: )

Answer 3

You see the death as the end. It really is a new beginning for that person. Their soul with God couldn't be in better hands, could it? They may look like they are over it but I would rather think they are not DWELLING over it every moment. But, they do feel the loss. I hope this helps you. I didn't know what I was going to say until I started typing. Pray that the late person will find victory, love, compassion and grace......

Answer 4

That kind of pain will never go away. Talk to someone, soon! I'm sorry for you're pain. Death is not easy, especially when it's a young child. I wish I had the magic words to make it feel better. Only time will help. I am sorry.

Answer 5

Im very sorry for your lose. Apparently you were very close to this person. Theres many site you can go to for help if you're dealing with grief.

Heres a good explanation of the processes you go through and how to deal with each stage. I think this would help, love:

TASK 1


You must accept the reality of your loss. You must talk about the loss until you accept it. The more you talk about it, the more you will realize that the loss is real -- that the person is really gone and will not come back.

TASK 2


You must allow yourself to experience the pain of grief. In any loss, you must accept the painful reality and finality of the loss. If you don't, your grief will keep resurfacing throughout your life and interfere with a healthy emotional state of being. You have to feel the pain. You can't avoid the pain. It will hurt. You will feel awful. But this pain must be felt in order for you to work through the pain and heal. If you push the pain away and refuse to feel it, it will fester for years and affect your entire future.

TASK 3


You must learn to adjust to an environment in which the loved one is missing. You have to return to places you went together. You have to spend time in your home without this person. You have to encounter each aspect of your life without that person. It will be hard. You will need to learn new skills and tasks in order to assume responsibility for your own life. You have to learn to function without the person at home and in your everyday life. In other words, you must keep going. You can't withdraw from the world. The first time you go to a place, or experience a holiday without them, or do an activity you shared with your lost love will be the worst. After that, it will get better.

TASK 4


Finally, after you have grieved all you need to grieve, you have to begin to withdraw emotional energy that you are investing in your grieving and the focus you have on your loss, and invest it in new relationships (not necessarily of the opposite sex, and certainly not right away). If, after a reasonable amount of time, you constantly relive your marriage (or your relationship with the person), constantly go over "what I did wrong" and "what I should have done differently", and refuse to try to move on with your life, you are investing too much energy in your grieving. The support and encouragement of a loving family and a good support group is necessary in order to move on with your life. New friends and new interests are important. The time will come when you will have to get on with your life. If you are female and your husband took care of all of the business and you were just a passenger in your lives together, you will need to learn to do the things that he did and you didn't do and don't know how to do. You will have to assume all of the responsibilities, and you can, because you are stronger than you or your spouse gave you credit for being. Acceptance and a determination to live your life fully will refocus your energy in a more positive manner.

Take back your power. Don't let that person keep you weak and dependent upon them. Don't let yourself grieve for too long. We all have the strength to overcome. You can do it. You can make a new and meaningful life for yourself. So, get one with it. As the old cliché goes, "Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life."

Answer 6

That's something that you really never get over, it just gets easier with time. Remember you will see them again in a better place and time.

Answer 7

well all i can say is time. my brother passed away about three years ago and it was hard because i found him and i felt terrible because there was nothing i could do to help him. so if u need some support email me, i have been there and i know it is hard.

Answer 8

u will eventualy heal but it will always hurt...i lost a famil member 4 years ago and im still sad!

Answer 9

I am SO sorry. Have you ever gone to grief counseling? That might help. That was very devastating-she was so young. How did she die?

Answer 10

we lost a son in 98,im still not over it,dont think i ever will be*!*