How do you make someone realize they are making a mistake they will reqret?

Question

Know someone that is choosing a friend over their spouse. This friend could be temporary, the spouse is commited.

Answer 1

You can't, they have to see it them self. You can point it out, but if you push too hard they will resent it and try to prove you wrong. Point it out once and leave it, pray they make the right choice and be there for them when it falls apart.

Answer 2

Sometimes is hard to see a good friend committing the mistake of his life. Advices are not enough and they think you shouldn't get involve. Only when the mistake is done they will give value of what they lost and most of the times is already to late, but it will be always a lesson of life.
Things happen for a reason and maybe this spouse doesn't deserve this someone. If this person don't wanna listen you, just stay away but first remind him "the truth always comes up".

Answer 3

Well from my what i have learned in my past was when I had my wife or g/f leave me it made me wake up and I would talk to her and she would forgive me and come back and I wouldnt do the same mistake again. Since your spouse you should know what they would do in some thing like that. For me for me my 1st wife had caught my full attention and I have turned around and would have did anything for her, but she wanted to listen to every one else instead of me and she ended up messing up but cheatting and staying away for to long that i did the same and losing interest in her. I am in my 2nd marriage and every thing I did wrong in my first one. With me being a man I made a mistake by not paying more attention to the problem my 2nd wife had and she left me and I when she talked to me I learned allot and i do understand how she feels and I am willing to go all the way with her as much as i can. Now she is coming back and we are ontinuing to work on our marriage. But the best advice to give you is get counseling. Good counseling not some pecker head who will be bais and stick up for just one of you. (happen my 1st marriage) so watch your self

Answer 4

always.... a spouse's first priority is their spouse... not someone outside the marriage. these answers i read on here totally amaze me. speak the truth in love. sometimes people don't think through the whole situation and need someone to point out possible bad outcomes to them so they can make a better decision. good luck!

Answer 5

It's almost impossible for an outsider to tell someone else what to do about the relationship. Let your friend make the mistake but just be there to support them when they realize it was a mistake... Keep from criticism, just be supportive when the time comes......Not much else to do in that case......

Answer 6

You can but it will be hard if this person is rather pick a friend rather than the spouse. My husband found a few friends inside the dating site,and yet he doesn't want to asked me what's going on,so at the end,everything that we shared, accomplish stop because he rather talk to his married friend intimately, privately and they become emotionally involve. So now if he only cared to whats going on in front of him he will not loose me and my kids,but he made his bed so he need to lay on it...........

Answer 7

:) You can't make someone else's choices for them; you can only make your own. You cannot prevent anyone from making all mistakes, or parents would be doing it. Adults get to make all the decisions they choose, and all the consequences good and bad. That's life.

Answer 8

You cannot change someone else's mind. The best you can do is to speak yours without being judgemental. Then you need to step back and let them make their own decision.

Answer 9

You can't make anyone do anything...however, you can point out the what "ifs" and hopefully your friend will make the right decision

Answer 10

Let them have the experience so they'll know the consequences next time.