2007-08-08 17:51:38 · 13 answers · asked by Little Lady 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She is going to be in his life no matter what they have kids together. If you are going to stick around my advice is to become friendly with her. 1. This makes dealing with her a lot easier and 2. She will be more willing to invite you to family outings as well. You should be proud that he wants to be in all his children's lives. He sounds like a keeper.
2007-08-08 17:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by christina h 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do this, my ex husband and i still do things with my daughter. I too am pregnant and for the most part i include my new man in activities but sometimes that dont happen. BUT everytime we have done something just the two of us and our daughter nothing has ever happened if thats what your worried about....
Its not about me, not about him. Its all about out beautiful little daughter. SHE deserves it. SHE deserves having the opportunity to do things with her own mommy and daddy. She loves us both equally and she has alot better time with the two people she loves most in the world.
My ex husband is my best friend. And when its just us we talk about my fiancee and his, and our relationships. I feel good knowing we can be such good friends, especially for our daughter's sake. It would hurt no one but our child to hate each other and fight. Im sure this is where your man and his kid's mama are coming from. I promise that its okay. Good luck with everything!
2007-08-08 18:07:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jill M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cant believe you have a problem with that . As the mother of a child whom I share custody of I would never in a million years respect a woman her father went out with if she had a problem with him being around me and our daughter. Him and I have a great relationship compared to when we first broke up and after our daughter was born , and he's invited to every holiday even, family cook out, every birthday part and the list goes on. If a woman he was dating had a problem with him being around me , even if she was pregnant he'd certainly put her in her place in heart beat. You'd better be careful , and learn to live with the fact he's got kids and be happy that he's in their lives and that he gets along with their mother. Being a single parent is hard , but it's not as bad when your still civil with the other parent. You need to grow up.
2007-08-08 18:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by adrianne M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He still needs to be on good terms with his Ex for his kid's sake. Just because they are not together doens't mean that they should be at each other's troats. It is good for their kids to have a relationship with both parents. My Ex-brother in law still comes to my parent's house for Christmas and other holidays, and he dumped a girlfriend for bi**hing about it. His kids come first, which is how it should be.
2007-08-08 18:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has two children with his ex and I must say they never did family outings together, he picked the kids up from her house and took them out on his own, when we got a place together they came to our house. I don't think it's right that they all go out as a family cause they're not a family anymore. He should take the kids on his own or with you. I think you need to have a chat with him as his behaviour is very hurtful to you especially as you are pregnant. Tell him that you would like to spend time with him and the kids and well just be honest. I don't think you are being unreasonable. Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy.
2007-08-08 18:16:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let's be hypothetical for a minute here. Let's pretend that you're the ex-girlfriend, and you have his child. Would you want him to ignore your child just because he got a new woman pregnant?
2007-08-08 17:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by christiekpoe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's because those kids are just as much his kids as your kid is.
that would be like if you and him were to break up and the new woman in his life insisted he have no relationship with your child because she is pregnant.
his kids (with the other woman) will forever be in his life, whether you have a baby together or not - therefore that other woman will forever be in his life as well (or at least until the children turn 18)
good luck to you! God bless!
2007-08-08 18:04:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves his kids! I think that is about it. I think it's about time that you get to know them yourself (if you haven't already), they will have a new sister or brother soon and they are going to be a very important part of your childs life. She is the ex for a reason, don't get jealous over her. Its not worth your time.
2007-08-08 18:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by Brooke S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im gonna try not to be mean when i say this but what do you expect him to stop being a dad to his other kids just because you are pregnant
2007-08-08 17:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by little78lucky 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing that you can do- It sounds like you want him to kinda disown his other family because you are going to have a family with him, can you imagine him doing that to you?
2007-08-08 18:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by Just Another One 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋