I wonder if anyone is in the same boat as I am. I was always really shy growing up and to this day I am still very shy. In school I never really talked to people and I mostly stayed to myself. To this day I only have a small # of friends I talk to. I am still living with my Family because I have not met anyone yet. My biggest thing is that I stayed with my family because I don't want to live alone or be alone. Once I was out of school I jumped right into a job and I moved up and I am the youngest one to hold the position that I have. I am well known in the company that I work for. But I still feel so empty that my life does not really mean anything because I really don't have anyone to share life with. I tried a number of things to meet people and it just start to panic. I am at a point in my life where I am so sick and tired of being alone. Does anyone have any suggestions?
2007-08-08 17:31:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You need to live on your own. Sorry, but that is the only way to know yourself and then meet someone and be completely comfortable. You don't know until you try.
Good Luck Sweetie!
2007-08-08 17:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Namaste 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, living by yourself is not a prerequisite of being able to have a relationship, otherwise most of your answers would be in relationships.
Secondly, you meet other people by getting out. Try a singles dance/ dinner.
Thirdly, living with your parents gives you the opportunity to save.
Forthly, try sharing a flat/house with some friend. This will teach you about sharing, give and take. It will also teach you how to get on we others, other than family, in a domestic situation.
However, in the end living by yourself initially may be a bit hard, but in the end it teaches you how to be self-sufficient and become a good cook even. And this then makes you a good catch for any potential partner.
2007-08-08 17:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by scruff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are support groups out there for shy people, you may find that you will fit in there very well and be able to get some ideas that will help you and your situation.
If you cannot find one in your area, then there are some online that I've heard are very good.
Maybe work on that first, since right now when you try to meet people, you panic.
Good luck, and don't worry, you really will be fine. Just keep moving forward to do something about it all, and it will work out.
2007-08-08 17:56:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put yourself in situations where you socialize with groups of people first. Maybe church, bowling league, playing pool, getting together with co-workers for drinks and snacks after work, volunteer in a community project such as walking for the March of Dimes. You will put yourself out there to meet people while doing some fun things. When you get invited to parties or any other activity, GO. It's easier to get more comfortable in a group of people to start with. You're more likely to meet someone that you would like to know on a more personal level. Wish you the best!
2007-08-08 17:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by Beckers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just described my life. I did not come out until right before my 28th birthday. I used to be an extremely shy person and did not make friends easily due to my shyness. I put all of my time and energy into my job and became successful at work, while going home alone.
You will not meet anyone sitting at home, you need to be more social and get out and meet people. I know how you feel, being afraid to start a conversation with someone you do not know, but it is better to try and talk to someone you do not know than sit at home wanting to talk to someone.
You should make it known to others that your are looking for someone to be with, and then others who are also looking for someone to be with will find you and you will find them.
If I can be of any help, feel free to email me.
2007-08-08 17:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tracer's right about living alone first and the living with the parents part. I am 32 years old and was once just like you. Living alone was a bit weird for the first couple of weeks, but after that it was like total heaven: nobody in my business all the time, and no need for clothes all the time, lol! Learn to love yourself at that point and like your grandma always said, someone will show up when you least expect it. Words of wisdom.
2007-08-08 17:41:55 · answer #6 · answered by squishy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, get used it. I'm just three years away from become the same age as you are now. You're not the only one with this sort of problem in life. There are some people in this life who are simply destined to live a lonely life til the end of it. I am one of them. I live on my own, I got two roommates, whom I haven't really devloped a mutual relationship with (it hasn't really developed or improved yet). I got a very small selection of friends. But, compared to other people who have such vibrant and exciting social lives, I was destined to be dreprived of such priviliges. I guess that's the destiny that was given to me at birth. I don't know whether I have gotten comfortable to the loneliness but I have simply given up on trying to get myself ahead and go out into the social limelight. Enjoy your sad life. It's not that bad in the end.
2007-08-08 19:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by Eric 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of the other answers are correct and I have very little to add other than you need to do things that are outside of your comfort zone. Expand your horizons. It can be done slowly so that it isn't too overwhelming but will be good for you. You may want to do some volunteer work and then take it from there.
You should consider counseling and perhaps even a support group. Both great ideas and both helpful.
Good luckl
2007-08-08 18:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by wellnotright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like old world living. the whole family lives together.
Not sure if living at home will attract a mate you desire. Why don't you get an apartment close by to your family, you could have your own little place for a getaway, in case you have a date, or want to take a nap, or invite your family over for dinner and still socialize with your loved ones or entertain guests or even a special guest.
2007-08-08 18:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by my ki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to move out and live alone before I was able to meet anyone. I started dating more seriously, and found two long term lovers while on my own. One did not work out, the other lasted 14 years until she died.
I suggest you find your own place and live independently, it will show you as a more desirable person.
2007-08-08 17:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by startrektosnewenterpriselovethem 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was alone at 28. I daresay it was one of the happiest times of my life. But... I am quite a different type of person.As far as suggestions, I would reccomend moving out and living on your own for awhile. It wasnt until I found myself enjoying my solitude that someone amazing came into my life. I dare say it was my contentment with myself that drew her to me.
Just remember this, its the lil' things in life that make one happy. A monsoon rain, a nudge from kitty for a treat etc.
Good Luck.
2007-08-08 17:41:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋