The one thing i thought would never happen to me has happened. My boyfriend cheated on me. He slept with someone else when i was at work, he said he was totally wasted when it happened. He told me 3 days after it happened and i totally freaked. He's really sorry and i belive him when he says he still loves me, and i forgive him and everything but i feel like i never want him to touch me again...things were going so great with us and he totally f*cked it up. I really want us to be okay but i can't totally shake off what he's done...does anyone have suggestions on how i can just move on and not think about whats happened? Because i just want to forget about it. I can't even sleep in the same bed with him i keep picturing him with someone else.
2007-08-08 17:22:06 · 10 answers · asked by Ethan S <3 Da Ben Dan 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i can't just dump him its like we've overcome so much we came out together and confronted out parents together and i love him and i can't see my myself with anyone one else i just want to forget.
2007-08-08 17:45:53 · update #1
First realize that it will be ok. The most important thing right now is to communicate and talk about what happened and why, no matter how difficult it is. Him being wasted is no excuse. I believe there has to be another reason. Examine what happened and then determine if you both still love each other and want to work it out. If you do then you both have to make it happen. He has to earn your trust again and you have to let him earn it.
Good luck.
2007-08-08 18:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by wellnotright 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being cheated on is the worst feeling, hands down. my boyfriend cheated on me a little over a year ago. (he was drunk too) it was horrible. you need to take some time to yourself (im guessing you guys are broken up at the moment?) take some time for yourself, get your feelings worked out before you even bother with him and his apologies. i took about a month apart from him. when i was finally ready to try and mend things, seeing that he was ready too made me realize that he truly was sorry. i wont lie, i still think about it from time to time, and it makes me just as upset as the day that i found out. but if you really love the guy then i believe in forgiveness. its kind of the forgive but not forget thing. i know how painful it is, and trust me it takes time. it takes time to get over it emotionally but more so to build back up the trust.
if you think its worth it, by all means work towards forgiveness!! good luck i feel for you!
2007-08-08 17:27:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happens to the best of us, sad but true.
I would be concerned about making a life with someone who gets wasted enough to have casual sex when they are in a committed relationship. It sounds like there are some substance issues that need to be addressed here.
BTW, if he and/or his partner did not use a condom, you should look out for your safety!
2007-08-08 20:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple's Therapy
Seriously. If you want to move past this and retain any kind of relationship with him...you two need to work on your relationship.
Obviously SOMETHING wasn't "going great" for him to have cheated on you.
Sounds like a major lack of communication there...and that would need to be worked on.
Now, don't get me wrong...
I'm NOT saying it's your fault at all!!! No...he's the one who cheated...not you!!!
You do need time for yourself, to allow your feelings and emotions time to heal. That's really awful and hurtful. I totally feel for you...been there. I know how bad it hurts.
But if you really both want to work on getting your relationship back...you'll both have to do some work on it.
2007-08-08 17:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say things were great well sugar girl if this happens when things are great what is going to happen in the rough times. Think this through .
2007-08-12 13:47:36 · answer #5 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 09:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are feeling this strongly about what happened I can not see you forgiving him ...ever so finish it now because if you don't things will only get worse
2007-08-08 17:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to tell you sweetie......but if he really loved you he would have never been with someone else even if he was drunk.... he let himself get that drunk in the first place and its still no excuse. i would move on sooner than later and just forget about him. you deserve much better :)
2007-08-08 17:26:27 · answer #8 · answered by makk 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Plain and simple: Leave him! NOW
2007-08-08 17:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by Starcraft 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry but you gots to let him go
2007-08-08 17:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋