Would you be my friend after I lied to you and ask to be friends still after and I said I will start fresh and start all over again?
2007-08-08 16:21:24 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I lied about me being a girl and I am really a man.
2007-08-08 16:30:51 · update #1
If it were me, I'd be pissed that I was lied to. But I totally understand why you'd do it. If you're honest about why you lied, they'll be mad, but will probably come around. Gender confusion is HUGE & prob'ly scary. In the future, it's best to be upfront about this sort of thing & just accept that not everyone is going to understand. Unless you're in danger, lying only makes you seem ashamed of who you are.
2007-08-16 07:31:09 · answer #1 · answered by oneieros2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the material matter of what you'e lying about. Just know why you lied to them, and when you explain to them that you lied, tell them why you did it. Think really hard before you explain yourself. Know what you want to tell them. They should understand. I was in a similar situation where I held back information from some of my friends for almost a year,and then at the last mintue told them. the whole time I was worrying that they would not be my friend after I told them. Just trust that your friends will be loyal, because when I told my friends thier reactions was the oppisite of what I thought. because I told them the whole situation, they understood why I had lied. If anything, the whole process actually made us understand each other more, and I actually feel closer to my friends now. The worst thing you can do is worry. Don't worry. Be yourself. If your friends get mad at you, after you explain yourself, they really aren't worth being your friends, anyways.
If my friends came to me and explained that they had lied to me without an explanation than I would be angry, but if they explain the situation behind the lie I would understand them, and there would be nothing negative between us.
Good Luck
2007-08-08 23:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing about admitting to lies is that it is completely based on how serious the lie is. Also if not admitting makes life more difficult than admitting then always admit.
Examples:
Hypothetically you say you are awesome at surfing, yet you live nowhere near surfing areas so you never have to prove, admitting you lied would probably just complicate things. On the other hand, you could say you were just being sarcastic, unless you droned on and on about said talent.
Hypothetically you say you are awesome at surfing, and you live by a surfing spot. This means you constantly have to make excuses to not surf, making life complicated. This is something you should admit to, and if you can play it off as sarcasm it would help.
I forgive for most lies as long as they aren't way too serious. If you want tell me the whole situation and I can help you sort it out in the best way possible to not hurt you or your friends.
2007-08-08 23:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by i_invented_toast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently got out of prison and I've lied to everyone I've meet since then about my past. I'm ashamed of myself and don't want people to know these things about myself. However, I've come to realize this is wrong and should start telling people the truth.
Sure I would forgive but that is because I am in no place to judge.
2007-08-08 23:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by no idea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never easy to tell people you lied - but I guess it depends on the reason you lied in the first place and the way you explain yourself to your friends. If you are open and honest about it how and tell them why you lied, hopefully they will understand. You will probably be happier now that you can be honest and be yourself anyways.
2007-08-16 22:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by aja5505 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats a really awkward lie.I wouldnt forgive you personally.You need to know that no matter what(unless it's life and death) you shouldnt tell lies,especially unnecessry ones,like that.I bet u did alot of messed up things while you were ''a girl''.You betrayed your trust with your friends and you didnt have to.Well, maybe your freinds will be a little easier on you than me so still go to them,tell them the truth,and really and truly it is up to them so if they say no tell them u understand and you're sorry but it would have been nice for them to move on and if they say yes God is on your side.Hope this helps
2007-08-16 15:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends... if you lied about sleeping with my girlfriend, NO, If you lied about being the varsity football quarterback in HS, of course not a big deal.
2007-08-08 23:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by C. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably be mad. Whether I would give you another chance and stay friends with you depends on what you lied about and you're reasons for lying.
2007-08-08 23:25:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all relative, depends on the lie and the reason you lied. But if you have to ask... then you know the answer.
2007-08-08 23:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by CalFan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the lie was about?
I would probably still be your friend though. True, honest-to-goodness real friends will always stick by you.
and i would try to keep in mind that you saud you were sorry, and that you knew it was wrong, and you were starting over.
2007-08-08 23:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by w00t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋