iv been super sick today ever sense i woke up with my daughter who is one. my husband slept in and i felt like crap!!! i have these migranes that still hasnt gone away. they hurt so bad i have been crying. i have never felt like this before. i cant even stand up or i feel like throughing up or fainting. i did through up twice today also. anyways my husband was giving me crap and calling me lazy cause i wouldnt do certian things. he went to work at 2 and i called him and said i hurt sooo bad is there anyway you could come home , i cant even take care of our daughter. and i would have asked someone but were new here and dont know anyone at all. anyways he said sorry but i cant and im going over to a friends tonight and wont be back tell morning. he gets off at 11 pm. do you think he should have done something? im really emotional now and so sick!. we havent been getting along either. he treats me so bad. i found out today he was looking up porn and it hurt my feelings so bad. also.......
2007-08-08 15:50:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
latley i have been hearing that he was smoking pot with a guy an i talked to him about it but he denies it. and i saw him dumped a whole bunch of pills for this guy too so he can get high. i got pissed and said i dont want you going over there anymore and i dont want you guys hanging out. i said you guys are bringing each other down and i will not be with a guy who is into drugs, blah blah blah. well we got into a fight last night and he was being a jerk and i fliped him off and he grabbed my finger and bent it and i said owe owe owe and he mocked me and said that too. than i slaped him for hurting my finger like that its spranged. i left into the other room crying. he left and went to that guys house to hang out and didnt get back tell 3 am. last week he did the same thing and that is a long story. he said sorry about it but its just killing our relationship. and he said he is going out with friends tonight again and wont be back tell morning. i dont believe him and dont trust him....
2007-08-08 15:54:53 · update #1
he is always lieing to me all the time. and im planning o leaving when we move in a month. we have family out west and so were moving back and i was going to stay with my parents. he is always hurting me and treating me bad and i have nowhere to go i have to put up with it tell me move. its so hard though. im so depressed!! i hate eveything.
now that you now everything what should i do what do you think about my husband, how he is acting tonight. please help, im sooo emiontal!
2007-08-08 15:57:44 · update #2
oh and i have tlaked to him about this stuff many many times and we have been to counseling but nothing is working. he wont listen. he thinks im bitching too much and if i talk to him about this he will say stop i need to have my time you will be fine you will be sleeping.....
2007-08-08 15:59:52 · update #3
I'm SO sorry about the migraine... i really sympathize.. but you're going to have to make it without him tonight... Try to relax... If any decent person lived with you... they would be concerned and helping you... You made it clear he is not decent. Don't expect it... for tonight... forget him! it's a hard enough being sick with a baby... Just make it through tonight. You're making plans to leave and that sounds like a good idea... just try to calm down for tonight!!!... deep breathes, warm bath... something.. Put on your favorite music... anything to help you calm down. It's going to be ok.
2007-08-08 16:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by Bentley 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him but unless you feel as though you are in danger. There is no hurry, no matter how much it bothers you, act indifferent to his activities. While he is gone, spend a little time everyday planning your escape from the situation. It may take months to leave but do it in a way that leaves YOUR PRIDE in tact.
The only reason why he does that is because he doesn't want to deal with you.
He will be very surprised when he comes home at 3:00 a.m. and your possessions are out of the house.
First get some Excedrine for Migrains this stuff is great. If you are not working, find a job or someway to support you (sell stuff on EBAY, I found this to be a great way to make extra money and it not go into the household bank account, you even earn a small percentage of interest on the money in the Paypal account.) This will establish your independence and make you less of a victim. While you are at work, try to find some place to stay.
Play his little game, dress sexy, be warm and endearing during the whole process.
When you get all of your ducks in a row. The next time he stays out to 3 a.m. Poof, you are gone. If you don't want to leave, get to know a locksmith and have the locks changed while he's gone. When he puts the key in the lock and it doesn't turn. That will definately put a new spin on the situation, because It ain't no fun when the rabbit has the gun"
He will have to do some work to win you back. Sounds like you need to do some work to win YOU back too.
You have to show him that you value yourself.
If you don't like the dance, change the step. Good luck to you.
2007-08-08 17:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bentony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sound like a real ***hole. I've never had a migraine and hope i never do, but when I'm really sick my husband will stop everything to help me out with the kids, order out for dinner, and cater to me for the day.
If someone treats you badly, either get counseling for the two of you, for you alone, or pack up and leave.
Now that details are added, as soon as you can leave, please do it. No one deserves being hurt, and things may get worse. You have a baby to think about. You don't want that baby growing up in an abusive house.
2007-08-08 15:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honey.. u need to find the door..
he is only going to hurt u more.. u sound young...
leave and give ur baby a good life.. if he wouldn't come home to watch the baby that says a lot there
then to go out with friends.. that says something there
u r very emotional after having a baby.. and him treating u bad makes it only worse for u..
if ur not getting along.. do ur self a favor and get the heck out of there without him even knowing.. wait til he goes to work and leave.. less arguing that way..
and for him to be looking at porn.. well that is just playing head games with u... he wants you to feel bad..
u have the responsibility of a baby and can do nothing about it ... except give it up and he no's u aren't going to do that... he is acting like a single man,, not a father or husband..
2007-08-08 16:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're no longer overreacting! My son is 5 months previous and that i wouldn't in any respect dream of smacking him!! particular, sometime i'm getting pissed off and as a single mum i'm doing it by using myself so do no longer usually get a ruin however the final ingredient i'd do is hit my toddler, I purely come out the room for a jiffy, compose myself and then stroll returned in. you're precise, your son would not comprehend precise from incorrect while your husband is the right age to renowned that is incorrect to no longer hit a toddler. His behaviour is that of an abusive guy or woman - he unexpectedly became affectionate the following day after smacking your toddler. He has accomplished it as quickly as so ought to do it returned - you're saying your self that he looses his temper actually and gets indignant specifically situations. you are able to desire to think of of what's sweet for you and your son - if that became into my husband/better half he would be out of the living house.
2016-10-09 15:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF HIM NOW!! You said in a later post that he is hurting you too. Even if there is no physical abuse, what he is doing is emotional abuse and you DO NOT have to take it. Call you local domestic abuse hotline. They have a list of resources that can help you get away from this situation. Don't be afraid to use what is out there.
If you don't work now, most Human Services Departments have access to emergency funding to assist to get another place to live, pay your bills, and eat while you get back on your feet. They will help you find a job and childcare, even go to school if you need to.
I was married to a man just like yours. Eventually he assaulted me and I had to have him arrested. He was drunk at the time. I used the services in my area to get a new apartment, go to school, and make it on my own. It was the best decision I ever made!
2007-08-08 16:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by CAROLYN M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would leave as soon as possible. You and your daughter don't need to be around these things. Instead of going to his friends house he should have been there helping you take of your daughter and you and let you get some rest. He don't care about anyone but himself. You can find someone who will treat you better and love you.
2007-08-08 17:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by sweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg, my hubby would have left work within 5 minutes and come home with medicine and some candy (I love sugar) and would've watched the kids and cooked me soup. He would drop plans in a second if I needed him. Soounds like your hubby's a jerk. I left my hubby two days ago...It was a bad move now that I see what kindof guys are out there
2007-08-08 16:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating...he doesn't really care about you or the child and he is being physically abusive. If you don't trust there is no relationship. He doesn't seem committed to you or your daughter. Going out all night as much as he is NOT A GOOD SIGN. Tell him to join you in counseling or your moving out or he moves out period.
Sorry this is happening hon. I hope it works out. Be strong for your daughter.
2007-08-08 16:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Wonder Woman 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As far as the migraines, I think you need to get into the doctor. I'm hoping your husband didn't give you an STD, being his "spending the night at a friend's house" sounds very suspicious. Get checked out. Good luck.
2007-08-08 16:02:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋