My bf and I have been together a little over 10 months, and we are very in love. But i worry about our future. He swears he doesn't want to get married til he has graduated college (probably around 26), and doesn't want kids til he's 30. As for me, I'm ready to get married within the next few years...before I'm 23 and then have a kid by 24. He's 19, and I'm 18 right now. I'm worried that this will become a problem later on in our relationship. Any advice??
2007-08-08 14:26:26 · 6 answers · asked by mo_61 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my husband and i were in that same situation, but he changed his mind and we got married when i was 19 and he was 21, and i am now 22 and pregnant. but you never know if someone is going to change his mind or not...so you have to decide if he is the one that you want to spend the rest of your life with, and if he IS than you might have to decide if he is worth waiting for.
Maybe you guys can work out a compromise? like he comes down a few years and you move your plans up a few years? maybe that would help.....
2007-08-08 14:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Andrea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 18 and 19 years of age, it most likely that your ideas about marriage and family and what is the right time to start both could very well change. College will be a whole new life experience, different people, different ideas. This is probably not the best time to make such serious decisions and your boyfriend will bolt if you pressure him to come around to your way of thinking. Now is the time to enjoy your youth and see the world. Learn more about yourself and what you want to become and what you want out of life for sure. If it is a husband and kids by the time you are 24, that will probably happen. But don't set such restraints on yourself or your boyfriend right now or you will guarantee problems in your relationship. You have plenty of time to make these decisions final.
2007-08-08 21:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what he is wanting is very reasonable. Becoming married and having children at such a young age requires a lot of patience, money and responsibility. Best advice I could give is don't look to far down the track and appreciate him and the relationship for what it is.
2007-08-08 21:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Monkey007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stick it out.
I told my husband i was going to marry him 5 months after we met. 11 months of dating and we did, even though he SWORE he never would.
He also NEVER wanted kids, yet now, nearly 4 years later, we have a 6 month old. And he's the worlds best dad, and a wonderful husband.
You're both pretty young to know exactly what you want for forever, its possible he'll change his mind, but you need to be upfront with him and let him know you cant wait around forever.
2007-08-08 21:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love each other ,why not just change your minds about this particular subject and try not to change each other in the process.
2007-08-08 21:39:38 · answer #5 · answered by ziffer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him
2007-08-08 21:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Fowler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋