is it normal for a girl to doubt her man's love even when he means it daily and constantly. but she don't believe him, even if he truly is a nice guy who is doing what he knows how and doing his very best to make her happy, is it normal for a girl to think that he does not love her? i mean this guy is putting his heart and soul into this girl but she does not believe him. what else is he supposed to do? is it normal for a girl to treat him like dirt. this guy needs help badly......
2007-08-08 14:10:59 · 27 answers · asked by triplet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, you gotta look at what the girl has been through in her life. If she's had a lot of guys mistreat her, then she'll doubt your love without meaning too. It would just be the way she's been conditioned. I'm not excusing her behavior by any means. If this is the case, you need to be open and honest about your feelings and confront her on it. See what she has to say and then either work on it or move on.
2007-08-08 14:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue is not with the guy. The issue is with the girl. If things are what as you have informed, then the girl has a trust issue. Maybe she has been hurt before or maybe she has hurt someone else and guilt is making her suspicious. If the guy is sincere then that's all that matters. He can not continue jumping through hoops and over leaps and bounds to prove love. The only thing that will prove love is time. Unconditional love does not come from roses, words, or actions. It comes from consistency and longevity. You can not prove that with any words or gestures. If this guy really loves her then he will stay until she comes around. If he can not stay then the love was conditional and that makes the girl right is her mistrust. If the guy is being treated like dirt then she is not loving him. In that case, the guy can not do anything because even if she believed he loved her the relationship would not work right because she is not giving the love back. Hope that helps.
2007-08-08 21:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by Alexandria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention to what she has told you about past relationships and also look at the relationships she have been exposed to like her parents or siblings. Maybe she has been hurt before or have had the notorious sayings that all men are no good and that they will hurt you. She seems to have trust issues and she is still carrying trash from a previous relationship... Ask her why she feels the way she do and don't let anyone treat you like dirt, because if this relationship last the way it is with her treating you bad it will just get worst.... People have a tendency to think that they are not worthy of true love and honesty from their mate and if this is the case you might want to move on no matter how bad it will hurt, but you do need to explain to her the reasons you decided to end it and don't try to sugar coat it be honest and raw.... Trying to convince someone that you love them can be very exhausting. If it is past relationships that have her like this or looking in on someone else's relationship that she knows, she need to just let it go you guy's life will flow so much smoother..... Good Luck and God Bless
2007-08-08 21:23:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is either playing mind games with him, or she has serious self-esteem issues. It seems to me that there isn't ANYTHING you could do that would "prove' your love to her. Nothing would be good enough. You could spend your whole life searching for what it would take for her to finally realize you do love her, Only to realize in the end that there is nothing that will will do it for her. Whatever made her like that in the first place, was there long before you came along and you can't fix that. Maybe some councling for her to get to the heart of what is going on inside her. If not.. move on to someone who will truly appreciate your love and not treat you like a door mat. If you stay with her.. your both in a cycle neither will break. If you feel you must stay with her, get some councling for yourself so you feel better about YOU too! You both have to be a whole person to be in a relationship,. not a damaged or broken one trying to make the pieces fit together to make a "whole"
2007-08-08 21:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by REBECCA B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have been hurt so badly that she's only protecting her heart. She felt that hurt so deeply and it scarred her for awhile. It just takes time and repitition of the words "I love you." No matter how much she crys and says "I don't believe you" or whatever else. Just repeat "I love you and I'll wait until you believe me. Until then I'll be here just for you." Just ignore her when she says she doesn't believe you. I have the same "problem" and I wish I could hear those words from my boyfriend. Trust me sometimes being stubborn is the best way to turn a heart over when it's been hurt. Persistance is the key. Prove to her...that's all you have to do. Let time heal all and prove everything to her. Good luck!
2007-08-08 21:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by seerakingu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not normal... you say you are showing her that you are devoted and that you love her daily. My question is- how are you showing her? Some woman are very insecure and need constant re-assurance. Both telling her and showing her that you care. If she still treats you like dirt and doesnt believe you, find a new girl- one that will appreciate you and your gestures!
2007-08-08 21:18:08 · answer #6 · answered by ~Alicia~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason why she doesn't trust him. Maybe she's been hurt before. Whether you hurt her or another guy in her past, she's guarding her heart. If she treats him badly and he does not deserve it, then he should leave her and find another girl who will treat him right for the wonderful guy that he is. Good luck.
2007-08-08 21:15:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be she's a very jealous person and thinks that you're flirting all the time. Maybe that's why she doesn't believe you.
Or, maybe she just not ready to commit to a relationship and that's her way of keeping from committing.
One thing you didn't mention, that you're sure she's in love with you. Maybe that's the problem.
2007-08-08 21:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by old hippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can only do what you can do, to the best of your ability, and it seems you are already stretched to the limit.
Some people are never happy and can be impossible to please. I know a few individuals like this, and believe me, you can spend your life running in circles like a headless chicken, bring them the moon and stars, waste your days in anguish, and still they will make you feel inadequate.
How about finding someone who can and will appreciate your efforts, and do the same for you???
2007-08-08 21:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done all you can do. She sounds like a very needy insecure person. Re think this relationship before she drains all the energy out of you
2007-08-08 21:15:07 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋