Men pay for Sex? Is that the answer Females?

Question

I think women who feel men have to pay meaning like do what women want... open doors etc inorder to have sex? GET REAL! Life is not suppose be be like this men. Your wasting your time.
A women in the chess question said men have to pay for sex. This gets my temper up and I am against todays culture with females.
Answers on away...

For people who think I did not supply enough information, here is what I mean. A male goes up to the female who is eating candy, the male starts a convo with her. She continues eating her candy... anyways, they finally get together but, todays culture is more like... open the door, carry my stuff, cut the grass, rake the leaves, shovel the driveway, pay most of the bills, pay for my dinner, movies, vacation, do this and that and your reward will be SEX! OMG! NO NO NO! Life shouldnt be like this.

Answer 1

Well, for starters, you can't stereotype all women. Not all women have that attitude. FWIW I think the chess woman is wrong. If a man is extending basic courtesies or dating because he is expecting a "horizontal" payoff, that is just as wrong as women who are being golddigers.

Sex shouldn't be treated as a sport or a "commodity." That is what has made it devalued in this society...by both men and women who have not learned how to communicate with their clothes on first.

Sexual expression is or at least should be an expression of love and trust between two people who respect and are committed to each other, and who ideally want to remain in a long term relationship with each other...as well as being an occasion to bring pleasure to the person whom you care about the most...and yes, in some cases, procreation.

Personally, I consider sexuality far too sacred a gift to be squandering on just anyone... so I'd rather go without it than to lay down with any person who approaches it from a compensatory or recordkeeping angle.

Answer 2

Sure, go right ahead and pay for sex...if you're so pathetic that you can't get a woman to sleep with you otherwise. And I suspect that you are; otherwise you wouldn't be spending a large chunk of your life here on a woman's forum bashing us.
You DO go on and ON about "raking the leaves, cutting the grass", etc. etc, etc. until my eyes want to start bleeding. In MY household Pal, I not only do all the cooking and cleaning, but take care of two acres of yard, gardens, ponds, and orchards that were landscaped by...yup, you guessed it, ME. You'd sh!t yourself if any woman expected you to do everything that I do.
The men who can't keep it together with modern women aren't men at all. They want a slave. I suggest you go to Japan and find a nice meek little thing who'll walk three steps behind you...better yet, do us all a favor and STAY there.

Answer 3

why would men have to pay for sex if he's not with a prostitute, sure strait wemon ferfer to get treated like a princess, by a "gentlemen" and this usually pretells that the man will by her dinner and pay for her nails to get polished and etc. and that is really asking too much. and besides some wemon dont want anything for sex, sexual desire is something we all share. for some wemon when they want sex, they just want it, no strings attached, and thats it. but i think its unfair that men are the ones expected to be the "Classy-pay for everything" guy when they could just as easily get free sex anywhere else. both parties should give eachother equal respect and curtosy, and if one party wants to be gewnerous, they thats your gain, but other wise the woman shouldnt expect so much.

Answer 4

I'm happy with payment in chocolate. Just joking :P

Anyway if a man feels obliged to pay a woman for sex, that sounds kind-of funny.
If a woman had to 'pay' for sex, then wouldn't one assume that she was desperate? Has anyone considered the same for men? Maybe don't let women have that much of a hold over you.

Answer 5

UHHHH once u went thru pain and had the kid and got pregnant u'd know why females dont wanna have sex. Not all women however some do. And DO not tell me u just said guys pay for sex in a relationship cuz thats bull $it.

Answer 6

That's not true - because if we were just paying for sex, then it would be GUARANTEED at the end of the date ;););););)

Besides - I have gotten FAR more (and better!) sex from just a simple word, gesture, or act of kindness - rather than an elaborate dinner, and a night on the town...

Answer 7

Gentlemen aren't asked to do this... they just do. Let's see men do laundry, clean, cook... and do them PROPERLY. Most men like doing the yard stuff because it's fun to them. They take pride in their house. I'm guessing you don't have a woman and maybe this makes you upset. Sex isn't just a reward for the man. It's a reward for the woman as well.

Answer 8

I agree. So stop dating women like that and start dating a feminist. All of the feminists I know pay half, don't expect you to open doors, and pitch in when it comes to moving. And they certainly don't expect men to "pay for sex." That's disgusting.

Answer 9

hey
iM Sorry mr "whoever u think u are"
but my fiance and i are happily engaged and dont plan on ever leaving each other.. im currently 5 months pregnant with our first child.. even tho i do not feel like sex, i give it to him anyway, he gets it about 4 times a week.. I never once have expected him to pay AT ALL... or give me anything in return......
i cant see the sense in females complaining about their men cheating if they dont keep him satisfied......

Paying for sex in a relationship... thats not a relationship in the first place!!

Answer 10

What is your obsession with chores?
Hookers don't want the doors open for them until it's time to leave! HAHAHAHA

You have issues guy. One chick spoils it for all of us, huh? You had one girlfriend that did this to you and now you're angry at the FEMALE world!
1, 2, 3 - GROW UP!