I have been in a relationship for 10 years next month and we still havent seriously talked about getting married? Is there a problem? Or is this okay?
2007-08-08 13:43:13 · 8 answers · asked by countrygirl01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I would have to say your guy has settled into a bit of a slump or just not the marriage minded type of guy. Have you asked him his feelings on marriage? Or even your feelings about marriage? Because if he feels that you aren't ready to get married he probably is like whew, I don't have to go out and get a ring to pop the question as she is not really that into it either.
But if you had wanted to get married sometime or so before this long, then I think you should have told him from the get go that you wanted to be married sooner or later. And he could have either said he wanted to as well or not. But if you just assume that after being together for so long he would automatically know that you would want to be married is not a likely solution.
See guys are very right when they say they can't read our minds. So as women we have to speak up not hint about what we want. We also have to be adult enough to accept the fact that if he says he never wants to get married then that is his choice as well. But then its still up to you rather or not you want to continue to be with someone that doesn't want the same things that you do.
As for your question there is no certain amount of time that is too long or too short to wait to get married. But thing is both parties have to make sure its the right thing that they want to do or if they even want to do it at all. Marriage is hard work, you just can't play around in it and just think its going to be all magical all the time because you are with the person you love. Sometimes you are going to have to fight and such things. But the over all thing is that you have to know yourself well enough and love yourself before making any serious commitments. And your partner must do the same. No one should ever go into a marriage thinking their partner should be there to make them happy all the time like that. Because you have to be happy and in love with yourself first more than anything. The true marriage should be between me, myself and I first before it is with another.
2007-08-08 13:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys never talked about it!! If its been 10 years and at least one of you wants to get married, I think you two need to sit down and have a talk!
2007-08-08 13:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by boricuamami_85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends ....Do you feel you want to get married? if you do then yes... i had been with my husband for 2 years and we got married we have been married now for 8 years....If getting married is what you want then ask him about it... bring it up... If your happy the way you are then leave it at that..
2007-08-08 13:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends entirely on you and how badly you want to be married. Sounds like a long time if you would like to be married.
2007-08-08 13:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both are happy with things the way they are, there's not a problem. If, however, one of you wants to get married, you both have a problem.
2007-08-08 13:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you know if he hasn't wanted to marry you in 10 years something is wrong. Come on woman! You know better than that. I know your instincts are beating your brains to death.
2007-08-08 15:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by hazardousromantic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a gal is pregnant...that's too long, should be married already.
2007-08-08 13:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Fritz Milan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years you crazy, jajajaj
2007-08-08 13:47:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋