Hi All :) .. When YOU REACH out to someone, YOU take the RISK ? *Details inside* :D?

Question

When you reach out to someone, you take the risk of having your hand slapped.... If it happens often enough, do you stop reaching out, or put on gloves????
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Opinions?? .... Explain your answer...........
use examples if you wish.........
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Thanks, for answering in advance! :-)

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Take care!

Sometimes, we let down our guard, open up, and speak up without filters..When we feel we are in "friendly" territory, in which you know if you misspeak or say something that might be considered "overreacting", the other person will give you the benefit of the doubt... and ask you to specifically clarify something ..without accusation...
So, one gets used to that lengthy dialog and even maybe expects it from "friends".... So, when someone's reaction doesn't give you a break, or benefit of the doubt, it is extremely hurtful..so you pull back and try to be sure that you are no longer vulnerable to that person... It just hurts too much, I guess...
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Ghoulina, thanks :)
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Answer 1

I've reached out with ample discrimination and have never been disappointed by the results. For those who can be forbearing of my deliberative and theoretical personality...well these are very rare...jewels in the Sahara.

*afterthought*

While I am looking for "signs", others look for words...more grist for the grindstone.

Answer 2

I reach out a lot.
I am not worried about having my hand slapped.
Just chalk it up for experience and go on.
I will talk to anyone, accept anyone and forgive them, even after they have wronged me.
Though there are a few people I don't really want to talk to. It is easy enough to avoid them.
My daughter had 3 different boyfriends last year (they keep getting better). I liked them all, some more than others.
I love to meet new people.
Yes you do take a risk reaching out to others and there are too many people that refuse to take that risk. It takes experience to be able to reach out to strangers. And it also takes a gut feeling.
But when you make new friends, it is a wonderful feeling that cannot be compared to anything else.

Answer 3

A mixture of the happiness of others and the overall happiness even if it requires that i'm somehow "less" glad. I simply feel the need to make every person comfortable even supposing it destroys me. I have perpetually been that manner. It comes from lack of self-worth and looking everyone to like me. If every body is blissful it is ok if I suffer a tiny bit. It can be a sickness that i am looking to recover from. I thank God i've a husband that does not take skills of that and is trying to break me of that cycle. So far along with his aid i'm doing much better and i trying to do matters to make myself glad which is particularly difficult and kind of painful.

Answer 4

no matter what the consequence, always do the right thing. No matter how you FEEL, always do the right thing. Don't ever change who you are, just because some one hurts you, doesn't appreciate you, doesn't get it etc. etc.

If nothing else, you become wiser and closer to evolving into the person you are meant to be. This is why people say, better to have loved and lost, then to not have loved at all. Trails make us wiser, stronger, better people.

What seeds you sew today will bloom in the future, so always sew good seeds so that you might prosper.

Answer 5

I've learned to not reach out very often; but if I do. I definitely wear gloves. It's not necessarily about getting my hand slapped; but because I know that not so far afterward they leave and I've used up all that energy on someone for them to walk away- because of whatever. Life; fighting, anything. It happens.

Answer 6

I am always reaching no matter how many time or how hard I am slapped. I always want to be loved and accepted. Sometimes at any cost. I am slowly learning to draw my hand away from certain people, like my mother. Who, is not slapping my hand, but is slowly cutting away at it, with a jagged rusty knife.

I think I take the risk with most people because I want to know people, I want to have friends, I want to be liked and accepted. I just have to learn that not everyone wants to know me, not everyone wants to be friends with me, not everyone and wants to like or accept me. Easier said then done. That is life, and that is what life is for, learning.

Answer 7

I will first find out why this person keeps on abusing my favour or help, it may be out of ignorance, or out of prejudice, or out of misinformation, if such is the case, then such a person , deserves my utmost compassion, advise, or education, i will therefore continue reaching out in my most possible way to help such a person shed of his or her ignoance. If there is nothing like that but the person is just bent on slapping my hand of with no reason, then i will follow the bibilical principle "dont cast your precious jewels before swines lest they trample upon it " i will certainly retreat.

Answer 8

well yes u take a risk of bein hurt or an opportunity to start something great. I have taken many risks and been burnt by friends but i can ta least say that i tried and it was great while it lasted

Answer 9

when i was a kid i had anvils dropped on my hands, so unless a person can prove that they wont hurt my hand the gauntlets stay on and even then they still have to get by the claws, and if they they some how manage to get by all that they still have the thick hide gloves to go threw

Answer 10

I think the key is in your "...you pull back & try to be sure that you're no longer vulnerable to THAT PERSON."
I'd never stop reaching out "selectively," nor would I put on gloves to protect myself, as after one slap, I'd realize this sort of person is not one to whom I want/need to reach out.