They are both 13 and arent virgins anymore and they used a condom what should I say to her or do about this?
2007-08-08 12:30:00 · 32 answers · asked by Whatsername 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she doesnt have a dad and her mom never so she doesnt male guidance
2007-08-08 12:35:33 · update #1
she told me she liked it and she said she felt safe
2007-08-08 12:47:21 · update #2
I presume that this girl is your friend http://malaysia.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20070808165245AArbC61&r=w#Msd_WTC9ETH0H9qHmr8X. She really mind of what you are thinking about her. She really likes you as a friend. I know that at age 13 you probably are quite scared about what sex involves. I don't know where did u got this feeling... Maybe what your parents taught you? Well, your thinking is correct. You shouldn't have sex so young, coz there are more involved in sex then just the bodies. But try to be nicer to your friend coz what is done can't be undone. She is lucky to have a friend like you who cares for her. Talk this matter with her.
2007-08-08 14:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would not say or do anything, just be glad that it wasn't you, and when they start to brag to you about not being virgins at 13 ignore them. They should really be embarrassed for the actions even if they did practice safe sex, you should be having fun, going to the malls at 13 and not having sex. Just be glad that it is not you. Don't feel bad and please just because they had sex, don't be like them, you be better than them. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, and if they make you feel bad because you are then they are jealous of you. So don't say or do anything, but feel sorry for them :)
2007-08-08 12:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing. Unless he or she asks for your advice, it's none of your business. Plus, they had the maturity to wear protection. Sounds like they're doing what many adults refuse to do: have safe sex.
The fact is, some people mature sexually sooner than others. If these two feel alright about it, and are using protection, no matter what any of the moralizing prudes or Bible-thumpers out there want to believe, they are doing something natural and normal, and they're managing to do it right: with protection.
So, it's really none of your business to say anything.
2007-08-08 12:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say you do not agree with her decision to do that, but you are glad that at least they used protection. That way she knows you do not like what she did, but you are glad they at least did use a little of their brain and try to be as safe as they could be considering what she did. I do not think you can do anything about it. I mean it is her life somewhat. You should just tell her to be careful and not get pregnant or get an STD.
2007-08-08 12:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
at least she had the sense to use a condom. you've got to give her some credit for that. yes 13 is to young but it happens. now shes tried it she might think i dont know what all the fuss is about that was crap.and she might leave it then until shes 16
2007-08-08 12:45:14 · answer #5 · answered by David G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is so very young. There's really not much you can say to her, just don't follow her example. It's been my experience that people who make big mistakes in life don't like to be called on it. If you want to keep the friendship, just keep quiet and when and if things go badly, be there to listen. Best of luck to you.
2007-08-08 12:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is 13? WOW. Well you should probably tell them to start thinking about birth control. And explain to them the serious consequences of having sex at such a young age.? Also maybe you shouldn't be hanging out with girls like that?
2007-08-08 12:35:48 · answer #7 · answered by xzkarmen 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't say anything. Unless she asks for your opinion, just stay quiet. At least she was protected. The only time you should say anything is if she is in danger. Then you tell a trusted adult. She won't like it, but you might have saved her life.
2007-08-08 12:34:26 · answer #8 · answered by knitknack83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't really do anything but I guess if you feel she shouldn't have did it, you can tell her how you feel about it. Just because she did it doesn't mean you have to do it, also. Don't ever do anything you're not 100% ready to do because you'll never get that chance again. Be smart!
2007-08-08 12:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by bri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for your friend and tell her how you feel. At least she used a condom and was safe about it.
2007-08-08 12:33:46 · answer #10 · answered by Melanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋