2007-08-08 12:22:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The kids live with me but there's no property involved except a car.
2007-08-08 12:24:33 · update #1
I did ask him if he wants a divorce. His answer was, "I'm not ready to answer that question yet". He just signed a lease on a place today. He has been spending time with some women Ive never met who he as known for years. He describes her as "just a friend". He didnt tell that when he took the kids to the beach last weekend, she was there. I only found out because he just asked me if he could take our kids to her house to swim in her pool this weekend. When i mentioned to the kids, my daughter said "oh yea, Dad introduced me to her last weekend".
2007-08-08 12:34:55 · update #2
I have been asking him to move out for years after his affair in 1999. He finally did two weeks ago. How much child support will he have to pay for 3 kids?
2007-08-08 12:39:40 · update #3
Money: it costs to hire a lawyer and file for a divorce and get slapped with childsupport. As long as he doesn't divorce you that long does he not have to pay for his children---unless you file for childsupport at your county's family court.
Another reason could be the inability to admit that the marriage failed--he can't go on, so he won't divorce. - Or, he still loves you and doesn't want a divorce in hopes to rekindle things.
Those are good reasons. No matter what though, if you and him split then you need to make sure that he is legally obligated to pay childsupport/alimony and the only way to do that is to file a family support action at your county's family court. You do not need a lawyer for this action, and the fee is only around 40 dollars(depends on the court), and often, if you do not have that money, can you file the action requesting that he is held responsible for the fee. In addition, if you can show that you are legally separated are you eligible for assistance from your local department of social services, such as food stamps, medicaid for the children---free lunches at school etc. These benefits vary from state to state, a lot of states also help with day care if you work. So check with your local family court and with your local welfare agency to secure all rights for your children and yourself. If your husband decides to come back to the family you can always drop these benefits....Good Luck
2007-08-08 12:34:54 · answer #1 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he is not sure about this other woman and you. cake and Ice cream. but the kids should not see this what i mean is going over her house, to the Beach like they are a family? then what is he saying to the kids? I hate this tell Him to be a Damn Man and stop trying to keep you just in case things don't work out with this other woman.
2007-08-08 13:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by rm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he really doesn't want a divorce, or maybe he's just biding his time...You need to see a really good divorce attorney and find out what steps should be taken to protect you and the kids in the event that he does decide for a divorce....Be smart, be realistic, be prepared, but don't give up just yet.
2007-08-08 12:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My dad was like that. Part of him didn't want to pay to serve the papers, the rest was in complete denial that the marriage was over. In fact, he was still saying how he'd take her back if she asked when she was moving to the other side of the country with a different guy. What's crazy, is that he doesn't even like her.
2007-08-08 12:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My to be EX is dragging him big feet in the court system to slow down the divorce, to him ,get over it, I'm gone after 30 years and not coming back.
2007-08-08 12:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well - in most cases I would guess its because he is lazy - there is a lot of work involved in paperwork and maybe you could just go file yourself. He could be scared the judge will award you support. If he won't do it - maybe he wants to work it out? did you ask him?
Dan
2007-08-08 12:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Danimal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does not want to pay child support through the legal system because he knows it will cost him a lot more than what he gives you now.
2007-08-08 12:26:27 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's hoping you'll come back. I have met people that have been split up for 2 or more years and they still thought that maybe someday down the road their spouse would reconcile with them.
2007-08-08 12:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the better question is why wouldn't a women divorce her husband who walks out on her?
2007-08-08 12:28:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It took my first husband 6 months to file because he did not want to fork over the filing fee.
2007-08-08 12:42:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋