If a man gives you an heirloom that has been passed down through generations of his family and you have no children to pass it on to. Would you give back a hunk of diamond like that so it stays in the family and goes on to a next generation or do you feel no obligation?
2007-08-08 12:13:00 · 37 answers · asked by bullheadbrawlers2004 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tough one. I guess it would depend on the situation. I mean, once you become married you are family. If you both agree to end that connection then the battle begins in divorce court for what belongs to who.
Probably depends on the length of the marriage too!
2007-08-08 12:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tradition according to the Rules of Etiquette: if HE initiates the breakup then NO, If SHE initiates it then YES, i think most women would be inclined to return an heirloom if there are no kids. At least i would. Again it would also depend entirely on the woman involved...her morals and values and whether there was any type of situation where she would feel as though she needed a consolation prize for putting up with the man for the time they were together. Personally, anything that large would be kept in a vault, that's way too much ice for me.....
2007-08-11 15:25:30 · answer #2 · answered by C_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically an heirloom is a gift, so the woman wouldn't have an obligation to give it back I think.
2007-08-08 12:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by Adel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, she should give it back! It's a family heirloom, if the couple is now divorced she is no longer in the family, it's their heirloom to pass on not hers.
2007-08-08 12:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by rose 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no obligation on her part to giving it back, as you gave it to her as a gift, unless she happened to sign a lease saying when the marriage ends, you have to give the heirloom back.
I would give it back, but some people are just greedy and have no dignity.
2007-08-08 13:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I have no children of my own to pass it down to, then I would give it back. An heirloom is passed from generation to generation. Yes you are entitled to keep it, but do you want to keep someone's ring that was given to him (he didn't buy it); somone gave it to him, someone in his family who loved him. Do you really want to hurt that person who gave him the ring?
2007-08-08 12:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by sunny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This would depend on the circumstances of the divorce. If it was amicable, then yes it should definitely go back to the family. If he was a lying, cheating dog, it should still go back to the family but he should pay for it, literally. Have the ring appraised and he can cut a check for that amount. I think the ring should stay in the guy's family, but he might have to pay for it.
2007-08-08 12:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most generally I would tell the woman to keep it. BUT, because it is an heirloom, I think she should give it back. You may have to go to court.
2007-08-08 12:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, a pre-nup is essential, such matters should covered in the agreement. Ethically, I would want to give a family heirloom back to the family.
2007-08-08 12:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give it back. But I'm a nice person, and I'm going to assume the divorce wasn't messy. I'm not a gold digger, and I don't even want a giant wedding ring(they look a bit awkward to me).
If the divorce was a bit messy, I could see the girl not giving back something so valuable.(which I don't approve of)
2007-08-08 12:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋