keep the baby? or abortion?

Question

the guy lives w/ another woman and has a child....
my question is: should I keep it or no?and why?

Answer 1

Have the baby. Women who are serious about abortion do not use the word "baby." There are tons of free counseling programs out there that can help you pick between parenting and adoption. You can always email me too, good luck!
<3 Kelsey

Answer 2

Eep!! It's so hard to ask a question like that.

I'm pro-choice. I went through the same thing at the begining of my pregnancy. I'm now 6 months along and I know I made the right decision by keeping it.

If you're wondering what to do, ask your close friends, or your mother. Or you can go to an abortion clinic and talk to someone there. Just remember that's not the only option.

Being pregnant is hard on your body but the end result is a beautiful child, and even if you don't have the support of the father it doesn't mean it's impossible to do. I'm going to be a single mother but my family and friends are here for me.

Adoption is a great thing. There are so many people that can't get pregnant, or for some reason can't have children themselves. Consider that as well.

Good luck honey!

Answer 3

Hmmmmm......This is tough. You can get an abortion and that would make things much easier. However if you get the abortion while you are 3-4 months pregnant the baby is pretty well developed and looks like a human. Alot of people consider it murder and alot of people say they feel perpetually guilty after an abortion.
The best and the bravest thing to do I think is to have the baby and put it up for adoption. It's really hard for the mother, but the baby can live in a family with out complicated issues and will have a father.
Better yet you find a guy who will marry you even if you are pregnant and the baby can live with you and have a father. I hope you make the best choice for you. :)

Answer 4

I'm going to answer your question honestly, and probably get hate spammed..... anyway, I think you need to educate yourself about what an abortion entails, and decide if you feel that's something you can live with. Speaking from experience, I made the wrong choice and live with it everyday... In my opinion, based on my own experience, no one is ready for that sort of guilt, and although I'm totally pro-choice, I feel the need to let other women know just how much I regret my decision. I DO feel like I killed my child (although at the time, felt it was my only option,etc...). If there's a hell, I would accept my place in it for what I did...that's how much I regret it.
Honestly, if you can make any other choice, I strongly urge you to... I don't know any woman who has been 100% ok again after aborting, and I know several who have made this choice.

I suggest you go read medical texts on the procedure, not internet sites that are for or against, because neither side gives you unbiased info. Go to a planned parenthood clinic, and ask a nurse or consellor there for advice. This isn't an easy choice, and I don't envy you.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Ok, let's see, to kill the child because I screwed up or to not kill the child...that is the question.
Give the child up for adoption. The child did not do anything wrong and deserves no punishment. The child did not ask you to make him or her, and certainly did not ask you to do it with someone already involved with someone else.
I realize people make mistakes, and I am by no means claiming to be a saint, but come on...think about it...

Yes it is your body and you have a right to do what you will with your body..but this is another human who also has a body inside YOU. This is not an imaginary being. I have children, and I have lost babies and buried one child. I apologize if I am being offensive, but this is a touchy subject for me, and I feel no need to sugar coat. Like others have suggested, educate yourself on what abortion entails and you will likely see that it is not something you would be able to live with for the rest of your life. Murdering a child or any other human should never be ok, regardless of whether it is inside your body or not,and regardless of whether you made a mistake in creating said child or not. Abortion is murder, plain and simple.
Good luck.

Answer 6

Well, apparently I'm the minority here...

By all means, if you feel you are physically ready to have this baby... please please do. Regardless of whether you're planning on keeping it or putting it up for adoption. If you're mentally, physically and emotionally ready to be pregnant then have the baby.

On the other hand, if you don't feel like you could be pregnant for the next nine months or that you can't go through child birth ... you have the absolute right to have an abortion.

It is YOUR body. Do with it what you want.

I truly hope you choose to go through with the birth and then figure out after what you're going to do. But do NOT let anyone make you feel like a bad person for considering having an abortion.

Good luck, sweetheart.

Answer 7

Please keep in mind that this is a biased opinion. I am a Christian and don't believe that an born child should be aborted for any reason. Even if the circumstances that concieved him or her were undesired, the child still has the right to live. If you are notgoing to be able to support the child once he/she has been born then I also believe that could be in the childs best interest to put him/her up for adoption. I'm not trying to force you to have this child but please, give this child a shot at life. I believe you will have no regrets.

Answer 8

Only you can answer that question. I say either way make sure you get yourself a strong support system. Having a baby is a big deal and you will need some help. Having an abortion is also a big deal and not the "easy way out" that some say it is, you can have emotional issues with it for years.

Answer 9

I don't think an absent father is reason enough to end a life. Obviously that's just my opinion and it's your decision to make, but that in and of itself doesn't seem like it's enough to warrant an abortion. If you knowingly had unprotected sex with someone who is not only NOT in a serious relationship with you, but is in a serious relationship with SOMEONE ELSE, then the consequences should be something you're ready to handle. If you don't think keeping the baby is an option for you, there's always adoption. Best wishes!

Answer 10

That doesn't sound like an ideal situation, but is also no reason to have an abortion. What you need to ask yourself is if you're ready and able to raise this child on your own. If you don't think you can, you could put it up for adoption. Take some time to yourself and think it through. The decision is your's.