Wife in love with Jesus?

Question

When I tell my wife "I have always adored you" she replies "I know you have and you want me to adore you too? Well you're the most wonderful husband in the world but I can't adore you because I adore Jesus!" Then she gets all teary eyed and looks to heaven and starts talking about her love for Jesus etc. She also says stuff like "I love you but I love Jesus more." And when it comes to material possesions (All of which I have brought home as the only bread winner in the family) she calls them "Blessings from Jesus." I know it sounds petty, but it's hard to have your spouce telling you she loves another guy more than you and giving him credit for your work, especially when that other guy is God. Why do so many people personify God and then set him as a rival to their spouce? God is not a human being. God is not one of us. God is not the cute guy down the block.
Anyone else have this problem?

Great answers here on both sides of the isle! Thanks.

She doesn't say she doesn't love me, she just puts all love on the same sliding scale and she injects it at the worst time. I've become conditioned to NOT seek any emotional support from her because that's when she gets into this. Overall the relationship would seem great, but there's no honest emotional connection with someone who views you as "Her temporary husband until Jesus returns." Her whole church and family is this way and slowly getting worse over the years. I'm the outsider which also feels weird.

26 Years! But I was too busy working to pay the bills to notice how deep this all ran. I feel like while I was working she developed a life that put me on the outside, and the only way in is to be one of them. Like joining the body snatchers. Now I'm in my 40's and retired early to enjoy life and she wants to sit home and go to church.

Answer 1

I can't believe you have let this go on for so long, there is obviously some issue with your self esteem that you have been married to this person for so many years and have continued to provide so much for so little in return?
As for your wife, it sounds like a well devised cop out.

Answer 2

I think thatboth of you are in the wrong. Wait, wait, wait. Finish reading my statement before you scroll down to the next answer. I think that having a relationship with Christ is great. Really and trully. I bet you didn't even take my advice to keep reading this after that. But the reason I think your wife is wrong is because she can and should adore you. And a love for Christ is completely different for the love you should have for your husband, so I don't think there is a reason that you should be very jealous. But when she says that next time, tell her that in the Bible it is written that husband and wife should adore eachother. So think of Jesus as less of a rival and more as a...well....God. As it should be. And she should think of God as more of a God to love and adore. Though she should do this, she should love and adore you in a different aspect, so don't worry.

Answer 3

ok....
your wife must be religous, right?
or she has found love in the lord- which i think she has as she is always reffering to him etc etc....

how long have you been married? because surely if its been ages then you would have known if she was like this or not....
just remeber though, that God is not here in the flesh and so if you are jealous, then try to let it go a little bit.
maybe she doesnt realise that she is referring to God as much as she is and so maybe you could speak to her?
no, i dont have this problem, but i think that speaking about it might be better than involving outside help,

i hope i have helped,

x-

Answer 4

Tell her that Jesus said to love others. By not loving you she is not loving Jesus. I think it's great that she is dedicating herself to God, but tell her to open a Bible (in a nice way) and to follow God's commands. He didn't say to tell everyone that they loved God and no one else.

If you were trying to get her to do things against God, that is another issue. But it doesn't sound like that is the case.

Was she like this when you married her?

Answer 5

this is not fair to you at all. she sounds a littleeeeeee bit out of it. perhaps she puts jesus first because she is afraid of getting too attached to men, and wants you to always know that there is someone she can turn to if you ever do her wrong. kinda like she wants you to know that she doesn't need you, all she needs is jesus so if you want to go cheat, or whatever, then its your loss. i would suggest professional help. go to a marriage counselor and sort things out. not that she shouldn't love jesus, but there is a point when its too much. you should be a close second to jesus. however i don't think she should bring it up like she does. good luck

Answer 6

Frankly, your wife is a nut and will always be a nut whether she remains a Jesus-freak or not. She is a person who takes everything overboard. She will always take everything to an exaggerated length. If she comes down off this Jesus-high she might flop in the other direction and become "Satan's sister." But, I guarantee you, she will never respond in the way that you would like because she has basic mental problems and sounds stupid - not ignorant but stupid.

I'd dump her and let Jesus support her.

Answer 7

The problem you have is with yourself.

Your wife's love for God is the way God wants her to be.

Instead of being jealous, try finding out about God yourself. Study the Bible for yourself and find out what kind of man God wants you to be.

A godly man is much more attractive to a godly women, like you wife.

Instead of demanding that she turn her back on God and worship you instead, (which is a sin, by the way) you should join her in worshipping God.

Answer 8

I once told this girl (24 yrs.old) she made good iced tea and she answered "Jeesus made it."
I saw Jesus peer from behind the clouds and roll his eyes.
Then I read His holy lips that said, "I did not."

Next time she says it, say, "Well Jesus told me to tell you to tell your husband that you appreciate him more than anyone else on earth."

Answer 9

how long have u been married? ur a wonderful husband!how can u put up with this? get professional help!