2007-08-08 09:35:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well first of all .. take a test just to make sure
And if you are, tell him! Broken up or not .. its still his child!
2007-08-08 09:39:38 · answer #1 · answered by Cole Marie' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, that is the reason that birth control is the responsibilty of both people. Your first task is to find out if you really are pregnant. Get a home pregnancy test at the grocery store and follow the directions exactly. This is not the time to hurry through it and maybe get an incorrect answer. If you don't have the money for a test look in the phone book and find Planned Parenthood. They can give you a pregnancy test and counseling for little or no cost. If you are pregnant , then for your own health and that of the child you must seek medical care. You may have to wait for an appointment, so don't smoke or drink any alcohol. Even the tiniest bit can damage the embryo. Take a multivitamin and eat well. Speak to someone you trust. Hopefully this is your parents and they will help you figure out what to do. You didn't say how old you are. You will have to tell the ex boyfriend about the impending child but what you do is ultimately your responsibility as you are the one carrying it. If you are not pregnant and I hope you are not, vow that you will never, never put yourself and an unwanted child in this place again. If you have sex, then you know that it is the way babies come into this world. There is no excuse for any child to be without two loving parents. That is why it takes two people to make one. Don't play around with someone elses future by having sex with someone who isn't committed to you.
2007-08-08 16:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant I would see a pregnancy counselor at a clinic who will be able to discuss your options. I would go to one such as planned parenthood because they discuss other options besides abortion. Abortion isn't necessarily a horrible thing for some people. However, abortion can be very heartbreaking and can cause lifetime feelings of sadness and regret for some women and girls. Adoption is a wonderful option if you are too young or don't have the means to care for your child. If you are underage you will probably have to discuss it with your parents. The clinic will be able to tell you your rights as a woman. I am a mother of two and they are the most precious gifts in the world. However, I am married and I am 27. But if you have a very supportive family who is willing to help then maybe you want to have the baby.
As far as the x-boyfriend goes I would only bring him into the picture if I decided to have the baby and keep it. The child will need a father and you should collect child support. The child will be his responsibility too. I think it is selfish for girls to say they will raise the child on their own. Doesn't the baby deserve a father? Except for the cases of drug abuse or physical abuse.
Good luck and I hope that you make the decision where you are happy with yourself when you look in the mirror each morning. You have to live with this decision for the rest of your life.
2007-08-08 16:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Junebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being pregnant is not going to win him back. You need to think what is best for you right now without him in the picture at this point. Many many guys and I hate to say it but at certain ages sometimes that is all they want...they don't care about your feelings or attachment to them they are on a ride and no one is going to stop them from doing what they like to do and that is playing girls...you should of thought this out long before you did it...why didn't you use protection? Don't tell me you did because I know you didn't...aren't you guys afraid of getting diseases anymore? Pregnancy is the least of your worries as far as I am concerned...what about your parents? What are they going to say? You need to get a preg test done first then go from there...sometimes when you stress about certain things your period can be late so just take the test and then make good decisions from here on out.
2007-08-08 16:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times did your Mama tell you.... !!
Find out for sure if you are pregnant and then you will have to make a decision on exactly what you are going to do. There's the normal 3 options: Have the baby - keep it (not the best decision if you don't have an income, don't have his support or haven't finished school). Have the baby & give it up for adoption (an excellent idea if you don't believe in the final option which is.... Have an abortion (which in my opinion is probably the best if you are still in school).
2007-08-08 16:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Lucy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant you have decisions to make. You have the right to do as you need with you and your fetus. If you opt to have the baby you can force him to pay for expenses, but he also has rights. If you try to give the baby up he has the right to object and gain custody. Remember tis if it turns into a scare, as each to you have sex it could change your life for ever.
2007-08-08 16:49:19 · answer #6 · answered by proof1958 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think your r still in pain from your bf braken up wit u so i think you should keep this to your self and take the test, if its bad tell your parents it it also depends on if you,ve always wanted a baby keep the baby if your not rejoice with happiness! if u xbf is older than u he will hav some problems with court, if he is under age hold your dad back lol! but the most important thing now is to take the test tell uer parents if ist bad and dont tell if its goo :) peace!
2007-08-10 11:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by matt aka playnexz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Find out if you are pregnant
2. If you are, decide what you are going to do (abort, have it and adopt out, have it and keep it)
3. If you decide to go through with the pregnancy and keep the baby, tell the guy so he can be prepared to do his part in supporting the child (whether you are a couple or not)
2007-08-08 16:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. is your period late, yet? if and when it is, you need to take a pregnancy test.
2. if the result is positive go to your nearest planned parenthood. they will be able to offer you counseling, options, and help you decide how you are going to tell your ex.
3. if you are in high school, the social worker at your school will be able to help you find the local planned parenthood or women's crisis clinic. if you are in college - go to your health center. they will be able to offer phone numbers for organizations that will help you.
4. if you are not late yet... do not stress. this can cause your period to come late. just relax and know that there are many options for you and there are people who will help you.
2007-08-08 16:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call to make. I guess it depends on who broke up with who, and for what reason.
Personally, I think I'm too proud to go back with anyone. I would raise the child myself, and one day, just to prove I can.
2007-08-08 16:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by Avillie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, ask yourself the priority of your question. Am I concerned about the absence of my boyfriend, or the presence of my unborn child? If boyfriend, settle on the thought 'he used me for his personal gratification' and left me with child.
I shall now marshall my family resources about me, establish my immediate and future support needs, birth my child, and move on in my life.
2007-08-08 16:47:25 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋