We have been together for 10 years now and I feel like for some reason or another we feel like our intimated moments are getting less attention and I need to fix that. I have ideas in mind but I just want to see what other people have to say about it. I would like the input from everybody but mostly women please. I am talking about from forplay to what positions they like best etc. thank you.
2007-08-08 08:53:06 · 24 answers · asked by Willie D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, don't think of sex as only intercourse. Think foreplay. You have four fingers and a tongue --- to a woman, the penis is just icing on the cake.
Second, two words: Oral Sex. Get into it and find out how long you can hold your breath down there. She'll love you forever.
2007-08-08 08:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all, every woman is different so what I like someone else may not. It depends on what your wife has told you over the years. What has she said that she likes or dislikes? Use that as your springboard and go from there. I always like to start the evening before we even hit the bedroom. I like going to dinner and having great conversation. Sometimes we catch a movie. What's wrong with an old fashioned date to perk things up? When we eventually get home a nice back rub and candles always feels good. What about a bubble bath? Sometimes conversation lends itself to fantasies either one or both of us have. You may be surprised at what kinds of things you and your wife can come up with. Talk as you are doing things if that is possible, talk dirty. Who cares what you say, no one is around to hear. I think that is a turn on, and as for positions, who said that you have to do just one, try different kinds, it will add variety and you will both be very satisfied in the end.
2007-08-08 09:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of that is great but to be honest....if you 2 are truly and deeply in love it will always be the best sex ever. My husband and I have been together for 17 years and he is still the best ever. Why? Because he tries to make me happy and I do the same for him...we are truly connected....forplay and positions don't matter to me....I know how much he loves me and sex is just a reflection of that. I hope this has helped. Make sure your wife knows how much you love her...not through sex but other ways..hugs during the day...phone calls, little love notes etc.
2007-08-08 08:59:43 · answer #3 · answered by chris d 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I admire the fact that you want to please your wife in the best way. Good for you! She might already experienced the best sex ever with you. I would suggest being romantic and sexy. Do things different in your everday life. When the time for sex comes make it in a special place with a nice whirlpool.do not rush things take them slow and only add wine to your menu. Not much just enough to relax. Alcohol and sex are not remembered well. Feed her some fruit, touch her softly, do everything slow and with feeling. She will feel incrediable before she has her first orgasm. Make sure you are able to hold yours off or if your able to recoupe fast then keep going. Make the night last long. None of this 30 minute sex sessions. Relax, enjoy her and let her enjoy you.
2007-08-08 09:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you aren't just looking for someone to talk dirty to you? If not, then I would suggest you talk with her about all of this. Especially if you have been married for 10 years then you shouldn't need to know about forplay or positions. No one with any amount of self respect is going to tell you what they like in forplay and positions. If you are having intimacy problems then I think you need to talk with your wife. If you have questions about what she would like in the bedroom- again, you need to talk to your wife. A hundred women here could answer your question, but it would be about what they like not your wife. And if you were truly looking for the answers you try to make it look like your looking for- then you would know that. I personally think you are looking for something in a perverted way. I certainly hope I'm wrong.
2007-08-08 09:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Windy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Aww that is so sweet you are trying to find advice on things you can do for your wife.
Kissing/licking from head to toe, asking your wife to describe the way she wants to be touched and you doing just that... etc...
when eating at the table you can always go under the table and have some fun with her while she is seated still :D
perhaps renting a nice hotel room, have great intimacy and then have her go to the spa for a full body treatment/massage.
that way she gets some sexual tension released with you and any tension in her muscles relaxed at the spa and her skin purified... an ULTIMATE relaxation!
2007-08-08 09:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Twizzle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advise I can give you is treat her like if she were your Girlfriend. Remember those little details you use to have with her when you started going out? Call her up & ask her out, show up with a rose, let her know you missed her when you guys are away at work. Remember you guys used to make out. If you're looking for some foreplay then you undress her and don't forget you don't always have to do it in bed, there are tons of other places. Go to a motel, the living room, the car..lol!! etc.. I don't know why when we get married we forget that we were once BF and GF.
2007-08-08 09:26:03 · answer #7 · answered by chula 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you have been married for 10 years so you may already have tried a lot of different ways of giving your wife oral sex...
but just in case you haven't tried any of these things... they may be some good ideas for you:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/pw_cunnilingus.shtml
(btw, if you are able to do the "tongue tube" technique..it is an awesome feeling!!)
for the "Tongue Intercourse" technique... another addition to it is you should try to french kiss her V as you are using your tongue in and out.
as for positions, have you ever though of getting any furniture to enhance sex? it is kind of expensive but even just one of the pieces can help you get some good positions like this on (plus they show positions you can do with the pieces):
http://www.liberator.com/products_wedge.php
if you can afford more then of course keep buying LOL
http://www.liberator.com/products_shapes_gamma.php
there is a section on their site that also shows video clips of a couple having sex on many of the furniture pieces... its listed under "cinema"
there is this one although I have not seen it in person or knows anyone who has tried it but it sure looks interesting:
http://www.scyell.com/
2007-08-08 09:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by Juliet R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to spoil your wife, give her a romantic night with candles, sented oils, a bath and a message, that's where the foreplay comes in. As you're rubbing her body nice and gently with oil you'll find that you should both really be aroused, find all her zones and hit everyone; like her ears, maybe her breast, her neck. Finding something sweet to lick off of her can't hurt, then hit her with the oral. My opinion on the positions is that they should come naturally, 69, from behind, edge of the bed with legs high and my favorite(doggie style) pay attention to what she likes, her body will tell you everything you need to know.
2007-08-08 09:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The 2nd thing you should do is avoid correcting her grammar. I don't think anyone likes to have sex with someone who feels that superior. Try the other approach and be submissive. I don't know what it's been like in the past but she may enjoy being in charge for a change?? Give her your word you'll do any thing she tells you to do and follow through. How much do you trust her?
2007-08-08 09:02:16 · answer #10 · answered by noshaymatall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋