I have been at my job for more than 2 years, & I work with only one other lady & our boss. She has been here for much longer & has been having an affair with our boss for the entire time she has been employed. The boss is not married, but SHE is! I'm also friends with her husband & often get put in the position to lie about her whereabouts to him. Lately, she has been trying to act like she is my boss & tells me what to do ALL the time! She goes absolutely nuts when our boss hands me a project without consulting her opinion first, often times leaving the office crying like a pathetic little kid! I've really had about all I can take of her antics! What's worse is that I date our bosses son, so she gets super jealous if we all go out to eat or something without telling her every detail! I love my job and really enjoy what I do, that is why I don't want to find another job. I've thought about secretly informing her hubby but don't want to get in the middle of it all! What would you do?
2007-08-08 08:49:48 · 25 answers · asked by thursday84 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way we are the only 3 people in the office - there is NO HR Dept! It is a family owned business!
And to whoever said I needed to leave the boyfriend - that is nonsense! He has nothing to do with any of this! No need to break up with him :)
2007-08-08 09:07:48 · update #1
i would keep my mouth shut, but wouldnt lie for her either,and wouldnt take her bossing me around. i would tell her she better go back to her original position,she is not the owner of anything, plus u dont have to give details about ur personal life to her if you dont want to. she has no right at all.
2007-08-08 09:27:52 · answer #1 · answered by Haroldly T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's a big can of worms you have there. If you are dating your bosses son, then it's not a good idea to get involved. If HE knows about it, then just talk to him about what is happening and how you feel about it. Does the boss know she's married? I think you are in trouble no matter what you do, because of the position you are in. The only way to deal with this is to anonymously (and be very careful here) let her hubby know what is going on. Or at least give him some clues for him to figure out on his own. Like post it notes saying, "did you know where your wife was last night?' Things like that, so he can find out on his own. Otherwise they will ALL take it out on you.
2007-08-08 09:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Linda K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would either look for a new job and inform the husband or try to get something done by going to HR and say how she is treating you unfairly. You shouldn't have to suffer and her husband shouldn't either. If you are friends with her husband like enough to call him and talk then call him and meet up or something so he can catch her getting together with boss man. Make sure she doesn't see you, and be sweet as pie to her, kiss her a$$ she won't know how bad it is eating you up and just remember you got her and you did it for her poor unsuspecting husband. Keep looking for a job though you know. If it is just you and her and your boss I would look if there is more people I wouldn't worry to much just stick it out b/c really your boss can be in trouble. Hang in there and until it is resolved keep tissues in the car. Does your boyfriend know what is going on? If so try to talk to him tell him she is making your work life hell.
2007-08-08 09:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by mlsaj84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like you said, I wouldnt get in the middle of it at all. It will eventually unravel but not at your expense, which would probably be your job. Its a bad spot yes but unless your willing to leave the job, I would keep it zipped. With you dating the bosses son well, its all too sorted.
2007-08-08 09:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by rainydaze 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should inform her husband anonymously. The next time she's with her boss doing the deed let her husband know so he can catch her in a lie.
2007-08-08 08:54:40 · answer #5 · answered by abstract_alao 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest and direct with her about your feelings. There is no sense in keeping all that inside, cause one way or another it will start to come out. This person derserves to hear the truth about what her actions are doing to your working envrionment. I wouldn't get involved with telling her husband, because it really has nothing to do with you. That's her bag; she will have to deal with him.
2007-08-08 09:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by patty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her husband. I told my brother in law my sister was cheating. She wouldn't end the relationship with the other guy. I would say something. It will only get worse as you can see. Either leave or do something about it those are your choices
2007-08-08 08:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by jessica_bttl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone, if you tell her husband what good is that going to do, she is affecting you at work. From now on do not lie for her and if he asked just say I do not know where she is at have not seen her. And you are dating his son? wow what a crazy office for only the three of you.
2007-08-08 08:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Find another job! That is an arguement you don't want in! Do you really think things would be better at the office if you told her husband? Let's see...first of all she is pissed, then her husband (your supposed friend) is pissed, and then the boss will be pissed as well. And who is to blame...you!
2007-08-08 08:53:48 · answer #9 · answered by Flower Girl 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell her husband and get the Hell out the way. The sh*t will be hitting the fan and splattering anyone in sight.
2007-08-08 08:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋