whats the best thing to do?

Question

im 4 months pregnant and everyone wants me 2 get an abortion even my boyfriend.i want to keep the baby but i didnt tell my boyfriend yet and i dont know howe he is gonna react to the news,so im asking you ...wat should i do cuz im so confused and its very stressful for a 16 year old

Answer 1

Hi ,There congratulations I think, only you can make the decision as it will affect the rest of your life no one can decide this for you even the ones that what you to abort,but I guess their just thinking of your well fair as you are very young have you thought it through ,do you want to finish school and have an education,do you think you can manage at such a young age with a baby, are your loved ones going to support you,will your man stick by you, all these things need to be considered,But in the end only you can decide because you are the one having a baby.Its so exciting to have a baby but if you do your life will change heaps,all your friend live there age having fun while you raise a child think hard then decide yourself.Good luck.

Answer 2

Well, you have an important choice to make and I don't think you should make it on your own. I am pro choice but I could never personally have an abortion. I am currently 20w with a son and at my 7 week ultrasound, the heart was beating. I found out it was a boy at 18 weeks, which is only two weeks ahead of where you are right now. The choice is yours, but remember its a choice you will have to live with forever and if you choose abortion, make sure you have a support system in place. If you choose to keep it, there are programs to help you support your child while you finish school ( which you should do) or you can always give it up for adoption. There are thousands of people that would love your baby-there are such things as open adoptions where you can keep in contact with the baby. Do what you think is best for you and your child. Talk to your parents or an adult you trust. This is too much to handle on your own. Good Luck!!

Answer 3

You may be beyond the point where you can get an abortion. If you really don't want to abort this baby then you shouldn't be made to. If you are going to keep this baby start finding out about the resources that are local to you and what you will need to do to access those resources. Being a parent is very very hard, and even harder for someone who is 16. Get all the help you can, and stay in school!!!!!! If you are dedicated to doing right by your child, you will make the right choice.

Answer 4

Oh God. I had a friend that got pregnant & had an abortion because her boyfriend told her that she was going to ruin his life, she didn't think she could take care of it & she didn't want to get fat. I lost all respect for her & I will never be able to trust her or look at her the same way. Abortion is murder. You made the mistake now step up & take responsibility. My sister got pregnant at 16 & she kept her baby. I would have hated her forever if she'd gotten an abortion. Not so much if she'd resorted to adoption. She has a GREAT life now! She has a happy family, dogs, they're building a huge house, they have a boat...they're living well! I would ditch the "boyfriend" if you could even call him that. If you want to keep the baby, then do it. Don't kill an innocent human being because he wants you to...he's obviously extremely cold hearted! You don't need him in your life or to help with your baby if he's not mature & responsible enough to take care of a child...how is he going to take care of himself & you? He won't! Forget ab out him & enjoy starting a happy family even if it's just you & your baby!

Answer 5

If you want to keep the baby, keep the baby. If you listen to your boyfriend and abort, and you really didn't want to, you will not only resent him, but you may never forgive yourself.

I don't know the cutoff time for an abortion, but I would think that you're either past the point you could even have one, or coming close. You need to think about this hard, and make a decision soon.

Personally, I'm anti-abortion, but I totally understand that it's right for some people. But I would think that if you're healthy and can deal with it, you could give birth to this child and find a family who would give it a wonderful life. Again, just my opinion. Good luck and don't let ANYONE tell you what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is your body and your life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 6

OK you are 4 months pregnant you should not get a abortion you are killing you child! your baby has legs and arms a heartbeat you even should feel you baby move soon if you haven't already. This is you decision but I had a baby young too and I did it and there are alot of people out there doing it too. Just follow your heart and I would not get an abortion. If anything you should keep it or give it up for adoption.

Answer 7

Lots of women lie to try to keep an old boyfriend. Make a doctor do a check up for sure. And then make sure the DNA matches. That'd fix most of the answers. As to whether you are pregnant and by him.

If you can get an abortion, that would best as a pregnancy would mess you up for the rest of your life.

Any "mourning" about the fetus can be handled by any competent counselor.

Answer 8

If you don't want to get rid of it than don't. But you have to take full responsibility and realize that if you keep the baby it won't just be about you, it'll be about your baby. YOu have to make sure you can provide a roof over the child's head and food for the child to eat. If no one wants to help you than you are going to have to do it on your own, and it'll be hard. Four months sounds like a long way off. i think you should keep it, but that's because i don't believe that an unborn child should have to pay for my mistakes. But if you feel like you don't want to have an abortion but you're not ready for the child, than you should give it to parents who want one. there are a ton of agency's you can look up to find the type of parents you want for your child. i know that there are because i looked them up when i thought i might be pregnant and i was weighing the options. it'll be hard to give up the baby though, so don't do it unless you really feel like it's in the baby's best interest, and if you do you don't have to stay out of his/her life, you can make it so you're apart of the baby's life, every step of the way.

Good luck in your decision, it could change a lot in the end. so i'm rooting for you

Answer 9

How Big is the Baby at 16 Weeks Pregnant?
Your baby is even larger by pregnancy week 16, between 4.3 and a little over 4 ½ inches long, and probably weighs close to 3 ounces.

Your baby is planning on doing some major growing in the next few weeks. By pregnancy 16 weeks she'll be able to hold her head slightly straighter, and her eyes are finally moving into their final position in the front of the head. The ears are doing the same, and now your baby is focusing her attention on complicated circulatory matters. Your baby's heart is pumping 25 quarts of blood every day, not bad for someone smaller than a grapefruit!

Your baby is also starting to grow hair and will continue to do so as you
continue your pregnancy week by week. You won't be able to tell what color hair your baby has until after birth, and even then your baby's hair may fall out and change colors completely at least once during the first few months of life! The same is true of our baby's eye color. Some baby's are born with blue eyes that gradually turn darker during the first couple of months of life!

By pregnancy week 16 the umbilical cord is now firmly attached to your baby's belly as well, providing numerous nutrients to your little one. At this point in time your baby's legs are starting to grow longer than the arms!


ALSO, take a look at this website it will show you what YOUR baby looks like at this stage. http://www.i-am-pregnant.com/pregnancy/calendar/week/16

God be with you!

Answer 10

at four months you are nearing the end of time when you can get an abortion. talk to your parents first, even if they get upset the will get over it quickly and be supportive. I got pregnant at sixteen and ended up miscarrying from the stress and didn't tell my mom until I was almost 21. My mom was more upset that i didn't talk to her then the fact that i got pregnant. Parents seem harsh or difficult but above all they care that you are ok. Talk it over with them, then if they agree you should keep it have them there when you talk to your boyfriend. Good luck.