my boyfriend is old enough to be my dad!?

Question

He has 4 children, but he's divorced.. im 19 and hes 47, his eldest is older then me! I love him so much, bin together for 1 year, he gives great sex, words cant describe how much i love this man. He said to me he wants to get married and have children with me..
he has his own business and hes loaded, we have our own apartment, so i dont need to work, i have my own car that i havent needed to pay a penny for, lifes sweet.
His kids hate me, but he said he would choose me over them!

my mom has gone real cold with me, if my dad was still alive he would of beaten him up by now!

I thought it was normal because age doesnt matter..

what do you guys think?

Answer 1

I think it's your life and your business. What other answer from a stranger makes sense?

edit: But I would not want to be with anyone who says that they would choose me over their own kids!

Answer 2

When I was 21, I dated at woman that was 49. Things were great for 4 years, but eventually age became a factor because I wanted children, and she couldn't have anymore. She already had 3 daughters, and her youngest was a year older than me. Right now, you're a living a fantasy life, but life will eventually hit you. You can't just continue to be spoilled by him the rest of your life. I don't care what he says, nobody really would choose a girl 30 years younger than him over his own flesh and blood. That was his d*ck talking. You really are nothing more to him than some good young sex. That's really all I was to my old lady. She just wanted some company, and didn't want to live life alone, and none of my goals and dreams really mattered. I cheated on her the entire time we were together, and she knew it. All that mattered to her was that at the end of the day, I came home to her. You're really too young to even understand the situation that you're in. That's why your mother feels the way she does, and you already know how you father would have felt. You need to listen to people who know, because the fact is you may think you love him, but as soon as the money stops, you'll feel alltogether different. You're in love with the things he does for you sexually and monetarily. He only loves the sex and the companionship. You guys really don't love each other, and don't wait 4 years like I did, wasting your time with something that eventually will come to an end.

Answer 3

You are in love with the sex, not the man. You may also be in love with the fact that he is a sugar daddy to you. That is the only thing you even mentioned you two have in common. At 19 you can do what you want, but there is always a price to pay for your choices. You say your dad has passed away? It sounds like you are looking for a new one. Especially when you gloat that this man says he would choose you over his own children. It makes you feel like you are "daddy's favorite". You can't see it now, but you are really messed up. Get some counseling before you throw your whole life away for this guy. If he is "loaded" he can afford a good therapist. P.S. Men with lots of money own their homes, they don't rent apartments.

Answer 4

wow I thought my mom was crazy to date a guy 13 years older when she was 19. My mom was 20 when she got me and my dad was 33.

The weirdest thing about your relationship is when you'll be 40 in the middle of your life wanting to enjoy life at it's fullest, he'll be planning bridge and bowling tournaments for excitement.

He's may be good in bed now but when you'll be 35, at your peek, he wont be able to follow you or he wont be as sexy as he may be now.

I have to admit it's an easy way life, don't do nothing don't have to work your *** off to get by or to save up for a house, a car or whatever. Everything you want is almost already there for you. Soon enough you'll have his will and testament so you won't have to do a thing in life.

On the other hand you won't know the joy of working hard to get something you want on your own. You'll figure out that you missed something in life by having it easy.

That's pretty much my opinion. Sorry if offended.

Answer 5

My husband is 11 years older than me. We have been together for 15 years, married for 10 of those years. We were engaged for years. Age does matter. Not always in a bad way. Luckily neither of us wanted children and he had no children from his previous marriage. I am now in my prime and he is slowing down. It does make a difference. BUT I have to say that I love him with all of my heart! I could not see life without him. I didn't have to work, etc. BUT I did. I wanted to make my own way in life. Get established as my own person. I have a good job, good car, etc., I did it mostly on my own with his support not funds. I would defiantly date for a long time, no kids right away. If it is meant to be it will last, if not, you have your entire life in front of you. I cant say that it has been a bed of roses, but I wouldn't trade him for a man my age! I have gotten good advice from my husband because he has experienced things in his life before me and could give good advice, he never directed like a father. Please make sure that this isn't a father figure. I wish you the best of luck and AGAIN, make your own way, don't depend on him, because if you stay with him for a long time and he leaves, etc. you need to be established and can depend on yourself, not a man.

Answer 6

You are not in love, this is clearly a troll. First of all, men who are middle aged, have children and are "loaded" don't rent apartments, they own houses. And who would pick some spoiled little slut over their own kids?


There sounds like there is no real emotional connection, that's just sad how you don't want to work and do anything for this poor man. I'm in love with someone who is 44 and I'm 22. However, we're just friends for now, there is no sex, he's not my sugar daddy. We talk a lot. This just sounds like a lifeless troll. Grow up.

Answer 7

the question is more of what do YOU think?
would you marry a guy as old or older than your dad when his kids hate you, your mother is giving you the cold shoulder? Would you live to have kids with this man knowing that what your doing is affecting your mothers heart every day and every second? Could you live with that?
or would the money and great sex keep you in check?
but hey its your thing, do what you wanna do....

Answer 8

Money does NOT buy happiness. And why the hell would you want to have children with somebody that would choose YOU over there own children??? And you say you don't have to work, would you go to school? Because when this relationship does go up in smoke your going to need to fall back on something. I really think you need to start thinking in a mature manner and realize what is going on around you.

Answer 9

I can say this to you.. RUN NOW! .. i mean listen to yourself.. you actually sound like a gold digger.. and besides that.. he cant have too much money if he is living in an apartment.. come on now..and as far as a car goes.. honey dont allow yourself to be blinded.. if you driving a car that you see many people riding around in..thats not impressive.. the Monte Carlo and Impala.. and Sebring.. and all that junk.. IF YOU HAVE A CAR THAT CAN BE RENTED THRU ENTERPRISE.. you driving junk anyway.. i dont know what would make you make such a dumb decision.. but think about this.. HE SAID HE WOULD PUT YOU BEFORE HIS KIDS.. SO WHAT IF HE GETS YOU PREGNANT AND LEAVES YOU.. GUESS WHAT.. THE NEXT WOMAN IS GOING TO COME BEFORE YOUR KID.. GET A GRIP AND ENJOY YOUR LIFE WHILE YOU STILL CAN

Answer 10

I think your mom will always be protective of you. That's a mom thing. In time as the relationship goes on, she'll see that he has good intentions and that will hopefully lessen the anger and bad feelings she may have. Give her time.

The statement that he would choose you over his kids bothers me-that's a horrible thing to say. No one should EVER have to make that decision. If so, KIDS should always come first.