How do you get over someone that liked you and you liked, but now you are married and have a baby.......
The guy is a little famous in my community.....a singer......so How do get over him?
2007-08-08 08:16:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We had to end it for political, social, and psychological reasons.....
2007-08-08 08:18:05 · update #1
all your answers are so helpful. Thank you.
2007-08-08 19:17:11 · update #2
Sounds like you didn't get the right closure from the past relationship. Unfortunately you got married before you got the closure. I think you need to realize why you guys stop things to begin with. If things were great between you two, nothing would have broke you two up, no matter how political. He picked his "career" over you, and that isn't your fault. But he did let you go, and I think you have to remember that part. Even if you were the one who called it off with him, he didn't have good enough reasons for you to stay. You shouldn't dwell on the past, especially because he wasn't that good to you in the end.
2007-08-08 08:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Kimi Cabanna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man, that's a tough situation... PLEASE move on. You need to let go of the past because you are on a different path now. Who's to say how it might have turned out if you actually had stayed with the other guy. I think for your sake as well as your child's and your current partner's you need to get over the other fellow and go forward. You never know where life's path is taking you but I don't think it includes your previous love. Sounds like your break-up wasn't exactly your idea if you still have feelings for him. Perhaps talking to someone, getting some support from family/friends would help. I don't think telling your current partner is a good idea as I feel it would only cause hurt feelings and that wouldn't help your relationship at all. Stay strong, keep smiling, you need to be happy with where you are and who you're with now. Good luck.
2007-08-08 08:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by spiffy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been married to my husband for 5 yrs and been with him for 6. I love him very much but every once and a while i been out and seen my first love and there is a feeling still there. To tell u truth i do not think u ever get over some one that u loved but I like where i am and who i am with now and wouldn't change it for the world.
2007-08-08 08:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by she finally here and all mine! 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well you should not have gotten married when you were still in love with someone else.
If you have kids, then you have a duty to make it work.
If not, you still should try and make it work. You need to decide now that you are done and that he is in your past, stop dwelling on him. Do everything to fall in love with your hubby. Life is not like the Movies or television. You can get over a past love, to just takes time and you have to be willing to get over it. If you aren't willing to move on, then you never will. You devotion right now should be to your husband. You owe him that much.
You need to grow up and start behaving like a grown woman and not a spoiled bratty child who did not get her way.
2007-08-08 08:22:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How could you marry someone else while still pining over an ex?
These things don't magically disappear - you need to focus on making your marriage so great that anything else pales in comparison. Action breeds feeling, not the other way around.
2007-08-08 08:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Random_Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have made a decision. if things were meant to work out with that man, they would have. you had the feelings for him at the time you got married, and still proceeded to get married. then you proceeded to get pregnant. you have made choices. i think more than anything, you are probably just wondering what your life would have been like with the other man. especially since he is slightly famous, you probably imagine how much fun you would have with him and his lifestyle.
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2007-08-08 11:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You had to end it and now you are with someone else. Move on. You just have to decide that is what you are going to do and then do it. Pining over lost love is childish and counterproductive to your marriage. Anyway, it sounds more like you had an infatuation with a minor celebrity then a true love. Which is more important? Your family or this shooting star (who will most likely burn out as most do).
2007-08-08 08:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by onebigfool 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have married someone else if you were not over the first guy? You need to move on with your life - keep busy. You have a kid, that should keep you busy enough. Work on your marriage - go out with your hubby on dates and up the romance.
You are probably just crushing on this guy because he is in the spotlight.
2007-08-08 08:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that you may never get over him, unfortunately there will always be a part of you that loves him and the fact that he is exposed through out the community will make it even harder. Just remind yourself why you are not together and that you are happy and blessed with a good family.
2007-08-08 08:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Just look at your family and visualize....would you exchange with what you have now over this guy? Why would you still be heart broken for this man and married to another?? Your heart should now belong to your husband....
2007-08-08 08:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by lvchic_702 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋