Gals, on a scale of 1 - 5??

Question

Question for the wives.

On a scale of 1-5 (one being the worst, five being the best) how would you currently rate your sex life??

I've been married for six years, and I'm in my mid-thirties. In the beginning, I would have given my sex life a "4" (it was very good, but not great - honestly, i've only had sex with 1 guy in my life where the sex was truly GREAT!!,but still, my husband was very good). But now, it's probably dropped down to a "3", and sometimes a "2".

Anyway, how would you rate your sex life with your husband(1-5)??
If it isn't a "5" what could he do to make it better?? Best answer goes to the one who shares the most info about why they chose the number they did.

Answer 1

1-2 although at the beginning it was closer to a 3-4
I have been so very open and talked and explained - for the first week or two it is better but then it falls back to the ho-hum, what pleases him only ways. There is an underlying selfishness that always crops it head. No foreplay ever anymore unless I pretty much beg for it. He does not initiate it very often all (use to be 4-6x a week) now once a week maybe. When I initiate it, he loses it real quick and then I end up falling asleep frustrated.
Not interested in MY fantasies. Tried a few times to encourage one of them to just be turned down.
No romance and when I try to incorporate some, like rose pedals on bed, lots of candles, etc.... he worries about the mess it makes...
There is no passion, no spotenatity (spl?) it only last a few minutes, there is no playfulness. It seems more like he is doing a chore than enjoying making love.
I don't get it,,, but it sure is frustrating.
I miss the teasing gestures like the warm breath in your ear when they softly whisper something meant just for you to hear or tell you of plans they have for you later
I miss the touching of skin or the hand on the back or the hand wiping away the hair in your face
I miss feeling wanted and important
It would be so much better if he just seemed like he REALLY cared about my needs and was not just going through the motions so he doesn't have to hear me crank about it ...

Answer 2

I am also in my 30's and been with my husband for 7 years. When we first met, it was a definate 5. Now, I would give it a 3.

I think we have both gotten a bit lazy and into routine. So, we've been putting more effort into each other emotionally and physically. Things are definately looking up! Last couple weeks, I would say a solid 4 and hopefully rising.

I want more touching in places other than my boobs and vagina. I also want him to touch the boobs and vagina with more enthusiasm. Lately, its almost like he is turning knobs and dials to make me orgasm so that he can orgasm. I want the journey to be almost as good as the destination. I also want sex more often. He's good with 3 a week, I want at least 5.

I think we could do with a bit more variety and postions, too. I also wish he was a bit more responsive to my kisses, licks and touches. Sex with a responsive man is like driving a Ferrari!

He wants me to give him more attention and talk about the sex or lack of sex less. Apparently, he doesn't want to do what I ask of him too soon after I ask for it. He says he gets turned on more and easier if I am animated and giving him my full attention.

So, for the past few weeks, he has been more responsive and receptive and I have laid off the whining about wanting more and better sex. So far, so good.

Answer 3

This is embarassing, but I'd say a 1. It probably started at no more than a 3, but the excitement of a new relationship (plus being really horny) can make a 3 not too bad, you know? I don't think the rating should have anything to do with toys, positions, etc etc, it just matters how HUNGRY you are for each other. You know? How much you really want to please the other person. My husband and I don't have that which is probably a lot of the reason that we're ont he verge of divorce. I mean, I've had make out sessions with guys that were more exciting than sex with my husband. Messed up, but true. Word of advice: if you ever find a guy that you just want to crawl all over and mesh your body with him, DON'T LET HIM GO!!

Power to ya girls... take charge of your sex life!!!

Answer 4

Not married-- don't live with a guy-- but sex is a 5

My current boyfriend was a total virgin when I met him.
had never kissed a girl, much less anything else.
And I might add, had no desire to.
I met him through mutual friend, I needed someone to set up my electronics at my house.
He had a weird sense of humor that fit well with my bi-girlfriend and I , and soon we all became fast friends.
At first we thought he might be gay, because he had no sexual interest in either of us, even when we ran a round naked in front of him, but he wasn't attracted to guys either.
Quite by accident, we discovered that the only person he was attracted to, was Jessica Rabbit.
I dressed up as Jessica and all parts worked just fine.
nothing however if my girlfriend dresses as Jessica.
As he knew nothing , Jessica had to teach him how to please her. And he was a good student.
As long as I am Jessica, sex is a 5.
As far as sex between Jason and Sophie or Lori--0

Answer 5

I would give it a 4, not a 5 because I think we could do it a little more often but when we do WHEW!!!! We try new things and change stuff around to make it interesting. Don't get me wrong there is the typical 15 mins ones here and there but not most of the time.

Answer 6

It's a 5!!!!! It's to the point that I can't stop thinking about him all day long. First, I think it's because I have hit my prime LOL but also we have been talking a lot lately about our feelings, insecurities and hopes for the future. It just makes us feel so close that it's natural to want it all of the time! I wish I could bottle all of this and save it up for the day that it no longer feels like this LOL.

Right now there is absolutely nothing he could do to make it better. I'm just trying to figure out how I'm going to get enough sleep LOL

Answer 7

I would say 4. We have been married for 5 years and we have sex at least 5x a week. The only thing that he could do differently is get a little more...um...adventurous...not that he isnt now, there could just be a little more...but I can easily say that I am VERY SATISIFIED!

Answer 8

I would say a 5 for mine. That is because my husband tries very hard to please me and asks what I want. I told him just the other day, "Sex with you is like a box of chocolates. I never know what I'm going to get!" He said, "Is that good?" I said, "What's not to like about chocolate?" Then we made fantastic love. The secret is to have fun and enjoy the moment. Don't worry about what the number is and if your husband isn't doing what you like show him and tell him. Trust me he won't get upset. Most men want to be at level 5 with their mates, but they aren't mind readers.

Answer 9

I would choose 5 because I have had sex with two people before and i would not try to leave my hubby for this reason. I know from experience that he is the best I have ever had. I don't make sounds to let him just be finished but for him to continue on and on. I am also now a sex addict because of him and hell I am looking forward to this afternoon after work to get me some.
Plus when you make love to someone it means more than just banging someone. Its special...

Answer 10

5- We try new things, we get eachother off, we do quickies when we feel like it, we make love, we have sweaty hot sex, we masturbate in front of eachtoher. We use toys in front of eachtoher. We watch pornos, have sex everywhere. When we feel really emotionally connected we have over the top passionate sex. We bite eachtoher, makeout during sex, give eachtoher hickies because it happened.
We practically just let eachother know what we want, how we want it. We are pretty good. We don't have sex every single day, I mean we ARE married. But when we do, we make it count.