don't get me wrong, this is not my opinion. I was talking with this just married couple about a married guy that made an offer to me (while his wife just had their 1st baby, no less). and then the husband of my friend said to me 'oh, if he made it clear, it's just sex, he's honest, and it's ok'. Huh?
It's 'ok'? So, i suppose if it was the other way around, and his wife was 'casually' having sex that's 'ok' because she's 'honest' that 'it's just sex'. Are we talking double standards here? Or am I too uptight?
Honest to me is 'I just married you, I want you for my sex partner' or 'I married you but the thing is dead and I want casual sex to keep me going, so to be honest , let's split, because it's not working'. what do you say?
2007-08-08 07:53:30 · 20 answers · asked by sarah kay 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No it isn't ok for married men to cheat just because it is just sex. What a load of crap! I have experienced this double standard sh!t with some of the men that my husband works with...It is all fine and dandy for them to go looking for a little sumpin sumpin on the side...and not to tell their wife...But when my husband ask them how they would feel if their wives's were the one looking for something else...they say "she had better not...that will be the end"....some men are just freaking pigs.
2007-08-08 07:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've heard this story way too many times of guys who seem to think it's their right to go out and find sex somewhere else, while their wife is busy with a newborn baby. It's almost like they feel as though they've been replaced by the baby and need some attention too, so they stray elsewhere (like they're actually jealous). It's immature behavior! Time to grow up now - you aren't a kid anymore - you now have one!
2007-08-08 08:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Plexed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that its a shame that people make vows to other people... promising to forsake all others.... and as soon as they get an itch they are seeking out new partners. Obviously sex is a very important part of any good marriage... but its not just about the physical release... its about the bonding and the sharing of pleasure.
Its a shame that you were approached by such a loser. A real man doesn't treat his woman like that... he has more respect for her.
2007-08-08 08:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why so some people think that by explaining it in a complicated way makes it alright? i agree that if the shoe was on the other foot and she had this "great reasoning" then he would soon have a problem with it. this really infuriates me. cheating is cheating. if it's not working at home then address it, dont make excuses. it's not fair on anyone involved and i dont suppose the wife actually knows..? I for one would be grateful if someone were to let me know about it if it were my husband....
2007-08-08 08:04:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aph K, Hon This is not my opinion alone it is the word of God ! A man and A woman fall in love and marry. They cleve,two become one flesh, for eternity they forsake all others ! Married partners should be, best friends and exclusive lovers for eternity ! My X wife had casual sex, so we divorced !The penelty for breaking the vows when you marry, is an eternity in hell.Which is an eternal seperation from God ! No love or mercy only torrment !
2007-08-08 08:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say any sex outside the marriage is wrong.Why are you married if you need someone else to satify you.It is wrong and you could bring home something extra and give that to you partner.This right here is what breaks up most marriages.When you find someone to love,cherish it and be true to that person,you may not find true love again,or maybe next time you could be the one getting cheated on.
2007-08-08 08:15:32 · answer #6 · answered by junior1108 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say it depends on the marriage. Some people have an agreement that one or both can seek sex outside of the marriage as long as there is no emotional involvement with anyone other than the spouse.
If a spouse is lying to their husband/wife, then its most definately not ok. If the husband/wife is being honest with the spouse and the lover, the spouse and lover are ok with the arrangement, then to each his/her own.
2007-08-08 07:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Marriage = Monogamy
Plain and simple. It is NEVER okay to cheat on your spouse in my opinion.
With these small exceptions...... (1) If you and you spouse are "swingers" and you have both decided and agreed upon this relationship.... then more power to ya. (2) If you go to your spouse and say "honey, I'd like to have a sexual fling with someone else"..... and he/she agrees.... (yeah right, like that'll ever happen unless you fall into category 1).
Sex is Sex. And unless it's with your spouse then it's adultery and that's all there is to it.
God Bless!
2007-08-08 08:04:43 · answer #8 · answered by hotmamaof3_1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i guess every man should ask his conscience this question befoe asking n e other woman for sex when he is married. relationship is based on trust n u break trust of ur partner u r breaking relationship. sex should not be a physical process but should be felt frm inisde. i think one should be faithful to his/her partner. i guess thats d best way to be honest.
2007-08-09 00:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by anjish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! If you want to keep having sex with other people don't get married!!
2007-08-08 09:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by lil bee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋