How can you stay POSITIVE after many failures in life?

Answer 1

Be safe in the knowledge that you are not the only one who wonders this! Life is full of challenges sometimes.

Try not to see your experiences as failures, but opportunities to learn something. If someone has let you down, at least you know how to spot it for next time! If life has let you down, at least you then have some knowledge to help stop the same thing happening again, and so on...

The other thing to say is that no-one is a failure - that's just something we invent as a result of our expectations of ourselves. Sounds like you're beating yourself up over these "failures" - stop it, much of it was probably out of your hands and not your fault anyway!

If all else fails, do what I did - sell your house, give up your job and travel. The experiences you have will make you realise your problems are nothing compared to what others have to live with. It matures you and makes you a more rounded person.

Keep your chin up ;-)

Answer 2

Every problem is an opportunity in disguise. Obstacles help us grow. If we learn from our mistakes then they're not failures. Most suffering is caused, at least in part, by illusion; eg. the illusion that we die. The same situations keep arising until we clear that obstacle.

I don't consider true success to be financial. If you raise a family, plant a tree or write a book that's more of a success than running a company.

Count your blessings, higher beings who love you are looking after you. If you didn't get a job interview it means the universe has other plans for you.

Answer 3

Another question I wish I knew the answer to... Actually... I think that 'staying positive' after several failures in life is a personality characteristic that is inherited... I know some may disagree.. That one can learn to be optimistic... But people try to for many years and they can never get truly past pessimism... it's just how they're wired

Answer 4

Life, in part, is your lessons learned and your attitude. There are countless stories of famous actors, authors, performers who were rejected numerous times before someone took a chance on them and let them become successful. Why? Because they perservered even when others tried to make them "failures". And what if Albert Einstein wanted to play the violin instead of becoming a scientist? He might have been "a failure". Keep picking yourself up, find what pleases you and what you are good at and don't let anyone tell you 'no'. You're not a failure...you just haven't found your success yet!

Answer 5

For each failure you have, there is a lesson to learn, sometimes it takes a few failures until you get it right. Do ever give up, Let go and Let God Handle it. For each day you get out of bed, alive and ready to go Be Positive, There are many people who do not have the chances, we have.

Answer 6

try thinking of all the things in your life that you having "failed" in as you put it. Also try using a different term, instead of fail, possibly try made a mistake, didnt do a well as you would have liked, could have done things differently, and so forth. Also understand that everyone "fails" as you put it, at times and this is not something that is exclusively you. Make a point to take these things that you do not view as successes nad turn them into successes for yourself. And do not feel that you must be "positive", if you feel down, you havea right to feel that and its natural. Let that feeling run its course and when you are ready again to try go into knowing that you might not get the desired outcome, but you will do your best. Feeling negative is not bad, its human so dont beat yourself up about that. To feel more positive embrace your feelings, let them run their course, and then let them go and start each day thinknig aobut what you did do well on the previous day. Do not fixate on the negative but the positive, im sure those will outweigh whatever the negatives are.

Answer 7

You stay positive by not thinking negative.

For example, you are thinking negative already. You called it "failures in life." Others, who are positive, would call them "life's lessons" or "valuable life experiences."

Yes, even a tragedy could be called a life lesson. Instead of dwelling on the past, you should use the past to aid the sucess of the future.

And don't complain about your failures in life. There are many.. maybe even millions... who have it worse than you. You are on a computer! There are kids in Africa who die of dehydration! There are young girls who become prostitutes at the age of 10 in some Asian countries.

Its not so bad... trust me.

Answer 8

I think you need to look at your failures (if you want to call them that) as a learning experience. Take all your information you gathered and see what good came out of it. I personally don't believe in failures in life. I mean yeah, you can fail a class, but life? That is really hard to fail. Hope this helped.

Answer 9

If you look at each situation that you call a failure as a lesson instead, it's pretty easy to stay positive...

Answer 10

try to keep in mind what a privaleged position that we are in compared to most of the world's population. I don't know what your particular problems are and you might have had a terrible life, but remember that there are a lot of people far worse off than you. And at the end of the day, we're all lucky to be alive, in my opinion.