i am a single guy that lives in nyc. i have been sleeping with a married woman for the past couple of months.?

Question

i used to work with her. a couple times a week she comes to my apartment early before work and we have crazy sex. no one knows about this. if you met her, you would never guess she does this. she says she is happily married and her family seems like the perfect family. she says she just needs more.
my question is, how common are women like this that maintain a perfect outside persona to the world and have this other side where they spend a few mornings a week b a n g i n g the living you know what out of a guy 10 years younger than her that no one knows about?
how common is this?

Answer 1

more than you realize. And I am 50 and I have had the best sex with married women. They know I can give them what their husband can't, yet they don't want to leave him for various reasons. I just fill the gap the husband doesn't intend to fill. Good luck, you're a lucky guy. Keep her happy but don't fall in love and Don't let her fall in love. Keep it strictly sex and fun!!

Answer 2

I bet everyone you know is a hypocrite in some way or another. Some of us hide our real selves from work, some from our husbands, some from themselves.
You are a whore. You are having sex with a married woman. You have no respect for marriage vows and choose to participate in a slimy affair for sex. Just use a whole person for nothing more than a warm place to spill yourself on. You may as well be whacking into a jar for all you care.
That is vile behavior. I removes sex from something wonderful and even sacred to porno.
Never get involved, never care about her, never come up for a breath of conscience, that is the advice you got from a 50 yo bum who thinks this is great.
Would you want a school buddy of yours doing this with your mother? It would be ok? Just kicks? Or would it hurt and anger you? Would you have zero respect for them?
Hello?
If no one would indulge this sad woman, she might turn to her HUSBAND, and FIX her situation. She might find that he is messing around, too, because she has abandoned HIM.
She is a whore, too. Trading her sad little life for a roll in the hay with a jerk who will never care about her, who can't respect her or think she is wonderful, trustworthy and special.
This is a game destined to turn out badly. There a legions of losers that do this. What happens when she gets caught? What happens when you give her a disease? What happens when her children catch you? Are you ready to be a co-respondent in divorce case and lose your FUTURE earnings? What happens if you want to quit, since you want a real life and a girlfriend, and this woman calls to tell her the whole sordid mess? What happens when SHE wants to quit because she has a new pool-boy, and you are yesterday's toy? Are you ready to be dumped by someone you have such disdain for?

And what if you DO fall in love and want to rescue her! OMG the worst, because then she will cheat on YOU!
Can't end well, because humans are trying to remain involved in a static relationship. NO such thing.
Get out now, before it is a real mess.
Or not, and wait for the other shoe to fall.

Answer 3

This relationship with you is going no where. If I were you, I would not stay in this situation, the outcome is NEVER a good one. She will never leave her husband/family to be with you. You need to find someone that can give you ALL of their time. I am sure ur a good person and can find better. Once the sex with this woman wears thin, there will be nothing left but a big mess.....I say, MOVE ON....

Answer 4

I used to date 2 different married women. There are a lot of women in my building where I work that are married, but having sex with half the building. They do it on their lunch breaks, after work, and tell their husbands that they have to work late. It's very common here. The biggest freaks in the building are married. I stopped doing it because I got married, and I actually love my wife.

Answer 5

it isn't that common but i guess everyone has a dark side or something that they always hide from everyone else.....i guess they do it not because they aren't satisfied but because they have everything and they don't know what else to do with their life because people tend to hate routine life style they don't always cheat on their husbands but they usually do take maybe a "vacation" away from home this could be anything but i don't understand why are u sticking around a women who's using u like a sex toy??? and be careful have you seen the movie Unfaithful !! i don't think any man would stand by watch you doing their wife every week.... and everyone do get caught you wont enjoy it for long...

Answer 6

More common than you know.

I'm sure that to a lot of people, I have the same "perfect outside persona" you describe. There's no real reason for me to be unhappy, and I've got no grounds for divorce. I've never cheated, but man, under the right circumstances I can see how it would be easy.

But it wouldn't be right.

Answer 7

i do no longer approve yet i grants advice. at the beginning how do you already know you are the only individual he's cheating with? a minimum of with a single guy you have even opportunities that he won't lie approximately drowsing around, a married guy this is cheating on his spouse is mendacity to one woman already so he must be mendacity to a set greater. he's likewise stable sufficient along with his lies that he won't in any respect get caught, enormously by potential of you. i could nonetheless worry approximately STDs, easily i could be much greater stressful than with the only guy.

Answer 8

I don't know how common it is, but by asking this question, it seems to me like you're feeling a little bit guilty. If I'm completely wrong, then sorry I couldn't answer your question. Even if you surveyed married women, I doubt you would get an honest answer from the ones who are having an affair.

Answer 9

I wouldn't say this is very common. You say she is happy? Well how can she be happily married if she is sleeping with you? I would never ever do this to my husband and yes I too am happily married and I've had my chances to stray from my marriage but I would never do that. She obviously doesn't have a conscious.

Answer 10

if it bothers you why are you sleeping with her? she's using you ! and they're are lots of people like this both male and females.find yourself a nice girl and stay away from the older married women or at the least married women. good luck!