Very young girl wants to know is there a way to abort a baby without going to a doctor.?

Question

THE GIRL IS 13.
SHE IS SCARED TO TELL HER MOM.
THE BOYFRIEND HAS DISAPPEARED.

Answer 1

She can go to a counselling service or family planning or her own doctor, they will all speak to her in confidence and help her.

Answer 2

It's not as bad as you think.
I am 14 and 20 weeks pregnant.
It seemed like a nightmare to begin with and I dreaded telling my parents.
I wrote them a letter which explained everything and then ran off.
They were worried sick but were very understanding about it all.
Luckily, I still have my loving boyfriend so I guess my situation is not that bad.

There is a pill you can take but it costs A LOT of money and it is not recommended.
As you are so young, you cannot abort your baby without a parent or guardian being present (although this might depend on whereabouts you live).
This is because hospitals and clinics believe that before 14 you are not emotionally stable or mature enough to make such a decision.

There are other options.
Try adoption.
Rather than murdering the life inside you, give it to someone who desperately longs for one - It would make that person so happy.
Furthermore, is it really necessary for the baby to be killed? It's not its fault it was made - it's yours.
Next time you should think more carefully about your actions if you are not prepared to deal with the consequences.

Still, I am not one to judge. I have made my own mistakes but I would not turn back for the world.
I love my baby and I know I will raise it well. Give yourself a chance to be a mother - the most beautiful job in the world.

Good luck.

Answer 3

How you feel and how she feels are two totally different things. For one thing, it didn't seem like she wanted to go through with the pregnancy and have the baby in the first place. That is her right, and what happens to her body is her choice. She would have been a pretty young mother anyway, and that would have been a LOT of stress for her, even if you did have money for the child. Secondly, the baby was probably going to be born with defects. Maybe she didn't want to bring a child into the world that wouldn't have a good life. Who knows...maybe the baby wouldn't have lived anyway. If anything, it seems like maybe she thought she was being merciful. For many woman, abortions are very relieving things. I had one and it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. You can't be upset with her for choosing what was best for her and, probably, for the potential child. Even if you were going to be the father, it wasn't your body that was going to go through 9 months of pregnancy and then give birth to a child who wouldn't have had a good life anyway. It's HER body. Edit - I also want to add that you really do need to talk to her about these things. I find it difficult to believe that you've been dating for over a year, and you still can't talk openly and honestly. As they say, communication is the key to a good relationship. Knowing that she did such a thing without telling you sends up a red flag. You both need to be more open about your thoughts and feelings.

Answer 4

There is no safe or effective way to abort a baby without a doctor. The girl should not try it. Not only would she risk harming, but not killing the baby and ending up with a baby with preventable birth defects. She could cause injury to herself that could result in her never being able to have children. If she is truly afraid of her parents then someone needs to call Child Protective Services. If the boyfriend is a boy then contact his parents. If he's an adult then someone should call the police and report him. This girl needs to just get her courage up and tell her mom. She needs her mother now more than ever.

Answer 5

Oh my Goddd, another 13 year old why am i not surprised in the slightest. The problem is the girl is 13 and pregant and wants to abort without a Doctor, like Whyyyyy what the hell is this silly silly girl thinking of ??? cos i tell you for nothing i'm a lot older than 13 and stuff like this never happened in my day.
At 13 , maybe we should be asking this this why abort the baby ? and 2 What the hell is a 13 year old going round with a boy [ who probably older stattistics prove this] having SEX ???????? A lot of people here are talking a lot of sense, but surley if she can have sex she can look after it, Well i'd like to know was it worth it ??? certainly not because
look at the mess shes in, to call her irresponsible is an understatement its 50 % her fault and 50 % his for getting her pregnant , and her for letting him go inside her.

Also what happens if this teenager has an abortion and then years later has immense feelings of GUILT, this will probably happen when the girl has just had her 1st baby proper and will be wondering " what if" ?

Now this so called boyfriend [ who i think you know] is a bloody cowerd, and is just as much responsible as she is, what kind of so-called man does he call him self ?????????
Lets be honest here if he knows how to have sex , then he should be old enough to look after it, but he seems to be ducking his responsibilities BIG TIME ! so not so mature after all is he ???
Ithink he should be chased by your equivalant of our child support agency, send private detectives after him!!! Hunt him down like a Rabbit, the thing is teens like him need to take responsibility for their own actions, or the consequences of his actions will maybe come back to bite him on the behind when the boy/girl comes looking for him, and asks Daddy where have you been ??? Then it will be impossible to get back all those years that he's lost livin it up with friends.

Your friend needs to talk to her mother, and a Doctor, theres no way out, and this girl needs to make a decision FAST, because shes o nly 13 and needs to decide what to do about school, because if shes at school who baby-sits ??? is the mother working ? if the girl goes back to school after the baby, then who looks after it ?????????????
because i think its not fair in no way for the mother to be looking after her grandchild while she carries on her schooling , old enough to open her legs old enough to look after a baby!!!

Answer 6

I'm sorry about the situation. a doctor needs to be involved, this can be done without the mother knowing, but aborting a baby is a big and stressful decision, and she will want to talk to someone. i know in some family's that talking to mum isn't possible but you need to talk to a close family member or friend who is a good few years older, they have a different perspective. she will need support, don't let her do it without, there are plenty of options and its best to know them all and think what she will feel in the future she has a long life ahead, this can include her child who lives with her, a child who is adopted or no child, which will she cope with best? depending how far gone she is, depends on the type of treatment needed as well as the time she has to decide. Best advice is to speak to a responsible adult who she is close to and think long and hard about how she will feel. i hope the decision made will be the best for the future for her and the baby. Please also refer to a sexual health clinic, unprotected sex has more complications than pregnancy.

Answer 7

she should have not been having sex in the first place.maybe if she said no to her boyfriend she would not be scared to tell her mum anything ,i feel sorry for her as is only 13 i cant believe shes having sex at that age she is still a child,i think she will have to tell her mum as she cant go though this on her own,its a very hard thing to go though to abort a baby she will need someone to be by her side and to help her after if she decides its the right thing to do remember there is only a short amount of time before its to late to abort she will have to be very grown up bout this its to late to regret it once its done all the best andgood luck x

Answer 8

i was terrified of telling my mum when i fell pregnant, even then i was 19,so i understand her panic.. i think that her mum would be more apset or angry if she found out later or from someone else.. it took me a while to tell my mum and even then she could hardly understand me through the crying, but im glad i did. i would have never got through my pregnancy without her..
whether she chooses to keep the baby or not is her decision but i doubt its wise for her to make it without the emotional support of her family..
and it would be an extremly childish thing to try and abort without medical help.
her mum may be disapointed but she will feel glad knowing that her daughter could confide in her and trust her..
i cannot pass judgment on this girl for her age as she is not the first and certainly wont be the last.. many of these young mothers are not the best parents in the world but a few of them are brilliant mothers, so abortion is not the only answer.. strength, attitude, support and love is wats important when having a child..

good luck with your decision... and hopefully she has now learned an important lesson about trying to grow up to fast...

Answer 9

I can understand being scared to tell parents, I'm only 17 with a 2 1/2 week old son, I was 16 when i got pregnant. I was scared to tell everyone i was pregnant but I'm glad i did. If you can find a doctor or school shrink maybe they could help explain it to the parents. My best advise is talk to your parents they might be more understanding than you think. Your parents could help with the whole abortion idea as well.

Answer 10

My heart goes out to this young lady. I can't even imagine what she is going through. I wouldn't recommend her having an abortion without telling her mom or without medical assistance. Mistakes happen she is only human. Have her talk with her mom and let her mom choose whether to keep the baby or put it up for adoption. I personally don't believe in abortion everyone deserve a right to live. Tell young lady no to over react and trust in her mom to see her through this. I hope everything goes well and god bless.

Answer 11

Sheesh. You see I dont care if a young girl has sex or whatever. I'm 15. I have.
But when you get pregnant I think it's horrible that you think your old enough to have sex but then as soon as the responsibility comes you freak out. Your b/f was an asshole and you shouldnt have had sex with him. If you try and give yourself an abortion you'll hurt yourself more then the baby. And you really should just tell your mom.