Mix messages from my ex-gf. what should i do?

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Mix messages from my ex-gf. What should I do???
We broke up 6 weeks ago. We still talk and see each other and I still think she has feelings for me. She doesn't want me to move back in cause she's not sure of things though. After 6 weeks we got tired and she told me it was best for us to break-up for good because it was not leading for her to want me back. All of the sudden after two days she start texting me 2-3 times a day and calls me "Hun" and "XOXO" on the texts. But, also she wrote me in myspace that I'm a great guy and that we have fun together and that we should still be friends. She also still after 6 weeks have in her myspace "In a relationship".

I don't get this lady. What does she want?? Why all these mix messages?? I do know that when a girl wants out, she won't even give a guy anytime of the day so PLEASE HELP!!!!!

Should I call her right now and ask straight forward what she wants or should I leave it like that and see what comes out of this?????? I still love her and like to get back with her

Answer 1

Well the "lady" is confused, obviously - and she's keeping you like a yo-yo, back and forth, up and down due to her own confusion.
She wants space, but she also wants to keep you around...My, my, are you going to let her have her "cake" and "eat it too" ??? C'mon, get a backbone.

Do you really want to be in a relationship that is one sided like this? Where you do the "loving" and she pulls all the "strings" of your heart? Don't think so hon, look again - she no longer "glitters like gold" as a desirable woman, rather, she's a confused woman who would take you to her confused state for company.

Stay your distance for awhile...don't cave in...do things with friends, date another girl or two, casually. Give yourself a couple of months and then see how you feel about the situation.

But right now, she's jerking you around, that is for certain!

Grace

Answer 2

It didn't work out for a reason. Both of you know that a relationship between you is not possible and yet you still have feelings for each other.

Stop all contact with her. Give yourselves time to get over the feelings and move on with your lives. if you wnt to be friends, they give friends a try in 6 months or so.

Honestly, I think an ex is an ex for a reason and that you can't go back to being friends after you have been together. I think its best to wish the ex well, not stay in contact and just move on.

Answer 3

Direct is best. Why beat around the bush if you love her and want to get back with her. Tell her you find her mixed messages a bit confusing and that you'd like some "clarity." At least you will know and you won't have to guess or wonder.

Answer 4

If you really love her and want to get back together then you should ask her. If she tells you that she still has feelings for you then I'm sure you can find a way to make it work. If not, then don't get down on yourself. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

Answer 5

Call her right now and tell her exactly how you feel about her..don't beat around the bush. Tell her that you don't want to "date" her...that you want your relationship back and that you're still in love with her. If you leave it the way it is...it's just going to frustrate you even more. Face the problem head on and go talk to her right now!!

Answer 6

She's starting to regret her decision to break up - probably because she's insecure or very controlling. I know polar-opposites, but it's either one or the other.

Before you talk to her, you need to decide what YOU want for yourself and in a relationship. Once you have that figured out, then you can call her and let her know what you want and she can either accpet it or not.

Don't let her play you. Good luck.

Answer 7

It sounds like she wants her cake and eat it to. Leave her alone, it may be hard, but act like you don't see the messages and if she wants this to go somewhere she will ringing instead of texting.

Answer 8

if you want to get back with her make her sit down and have an adult conversation with you and try to get her to explain why she is just playing with you and what she means by it. sounds like yeah she likes you but she doesn't want to be tied down. if she's not ready for a serious relationship and you are you need to move on to someone who is. she's sounding a lil too immature for you. sorry.

Answer 9

yes you need to tell her that she is sending you mixed signals. ask her what she wants you or nothing at all and if she doesnt want you then tell her to stop texting you and all. and if she gives you the i dont know crap... say well when you do know call me other then that dont! it seems to me that she still does like you she just doesnt know what she wants.

Answer 10

She wants her space but do not want to lose you so she is basically stringing you along. I had an ex do the same thing to me ( Keyword: EX! )